Does it ever feel like everyone your age or everyone around you is getting married and having kids meanwhile you’re still single?

[Paulalove98]

I feel that…

[jennifer_bloom]

I don't compare myself to the people who are married with kids, cause they worked hard and they deserve it, so it's not like they have an unfair advantage that I do not. I also know people in third world countries are far worse off then me and I'm lucky even to have running tap water.

[BeMuse]

Nope. I've only seen one cousin and one of my brother's friends get married in the past 20 years. I have two older cousins that were married a long time ago like back in the late 90s (both are women)... Every other cousin is not married. Both of my brothers are not married. None of my friends are married. None of my older brother's friends are married except the one. None of my younger brother's friends are married. At work, people that are older than me by 5 to 10 years are typically married. People around my age or younger are not married. That's what I've observed at my past several jobs.

[Fireguy17]

I did notice that when I was younger, but I was single and having fun so it never bothered me. It may have bothered them that I was able to come and go as I pleased, but I never asked.
What struck me as really odd, sometimes at parties all I would hear is the women complaining about their kids, how sick they were during their pregnancy blah blah blah, yet they would have more kids.
That just did not make sense to me at all.

[Paulalove98]

I don’t want a baby till my late 20s but I feel like so many people my age or close to my age already married with kids meanwhile I’m still trying to find the right guy lol.

[Fireguy17]

the right person thing is very important!
Don't be in a rush just because others are married with children. (a great old tv show)

[Paulalove98]

@Fireguy17 I agree. I know I’ve heard some people not meeting someone till 24-26 and barley having children in their late 20s or early 30s which is also perfectly fine. I’ll be 25 in October this year and I still feel like my life has just begun and honestly feel no difference physically than I did at 20 but definitely more smarter and mature mentally. My cousin met her husband at 26 and now she’s like 31 or 32 and just had a baby.

[Fireguy17]

My niece was in her early 30's when she had her son.

[TenderFantasy]

I remember feeling that way when I was in my 20's and early 30's so yeah... but what can I do? Not like I can control other people's lives and on who gets married and who doesn't. Who can have children and who can't, things like that.

I stopped really caring about it as I said I can't do anything about it anyway. And why would I want to? It's their life.

[Berethor]

At my age sure, but you only 24 and you already feel that? are you living in japan? :)

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[Paulalove98]

No I’m probably overthinking too much.. my neighbor didn’t have a child till the age of 28 so I still have some time at least but I am trying still not giving up.

[Berethor]

Yea it too soon to give up, but it's good that you aware that there is not a lot of time.

[Haha456]

Most women have kids in 30s nowadays

[Paulalove98]

@Haha456 my cousin I think was 30 or 31 when she got pregnant and she met her husband at 26 so that gives me hope.

[thatshydork]

Yeah but when I’m sad about it, I remind myself that there’s a lot more freedom when you’re single and don’t have kids then when you’re not single and do have kids. Kids are a big responsibility and almost always require attention.

[Anonymous]

Definitely. I turn 30 this year and the only women left who are single and around my age are the very women who are idiots. Talking about either hoes or feminazis. It is so damn hard to find a decent, respectable woman who is not already taken.

[Haha456]

Nobody has kids at 24 nowadays unless you live in a catholic , all white, countryside town or suburb where everyone goes to church on sundays. Average age of birthing moms is 30s

[NamerOfStars]

Yes- but then, I see them with struggle with parenthood and relationships, and a fair few have gotten divorced. At least I avoided that; it's not all bad.

[BJP21]

My younger brother and sister married and have kids. Im still single. To me it feels like I let life slip away.

[Paulalove98]

I’m trying but most guys only want sex😞sometimes I wanna give up, it’s too stressful

[BJP21]

There are too many frat guys out there that make dating that much harder for serious guys like me. I agree it sucks.

[Alex8736]

but give it 5 years when your engaged and the people around you getting married now will be going through a nasty divorce which the most common cause is money issues and Social media where people always think the grass is greener in the yard next door

[rabbitzzz]

Yah, and girls also like married men, so its over if you are not married at a certain age. I don't think I will ever get the kind of respect or interaction I want from a girl. And my ego will never let me get married.

[Paulalove98]

My cousin met her husband at 26 and they got married 2 years later at 28, she’s 31 now and they just had a child.

[rabbitzzz]

Good to hear that.

[Paulalove98]

It gives me hope I can still meet someone, I don’t think I would panic unless I reach 27 and still single but I’m determined to have my dreams and goals. I feel like some people aren’t.

[Bricealan]

Many of my friends are/ were married had children, but later were divorced. Happily, many are married, after many years and appear to have a good marriage.

[Rollingstones84]

Sometimes I don't let it bother me, because at the end of the day they chose to have kids and so their social life basically comes to a grinding halt unless they have baby sitters lol

[Alwayreckles93]

Well maybe if guys your age wouldn't chase after younger woman. I am 30 and I look way better then a woman in her early 30's.

[dustybiker]

Happy people are attractive. Let yourself be happy for them.

[NathanDavis]

it does not feel like it... some of them have done it, lol

[SnowedIn]

I absolutely felt that way! :) My son feels the same way right now (he's 20).

[Peachbae]

It sure does, i feel lonely at times, but then again I remember that we can’t all have the same destination. And everything happens for a reason i guess🤷🏼‍♀️

[HighValue]

Many people I know got married, had kids, got divorced, and have lots of stress. Not me.

[AdithyaR]

I'm only 21 so it doesn't feel like that at all. And even when I'm older i don't want kids and I'm not hellbent on marriage either.

[rile_sar]

Yes but don't worry everyone has his/her day in life to be with someone and get madly in love with them

[Andres77]

Just watch and see how many are divorced before 30

[Nikki1989]

Almost everyone I know are very happily married.

[LiamJHayden]

A lot of the people I went to school with have been married and divorced. I am far more relationally cautious.

[shortster]

Not really. I feel like they did that a while ago. Most of their kids are in high school or middle school.

[Anonymous]

At my age? No. Now the kids are starting to leave the nests, the women are having thier midlife crisis and many are getting divorced. This is what typically happens around 40.

[alcorriher]

no teens my age r married or with kids. but they are dating

[TheMoreMiffed]

I absolutely felt that way, every seconds every minutes every times every days every weeks every months every years haha

[Anonymous]

Yeah I do feel that sadly. It's even very nice of my parents to make that feeling extra well known.

[TacosRAwesome]

Could have been me but I hate people.

[sheenagwapa]

i honestly don't reallu care

[Vikkrram]

I wish i could never get married

[user4477388]

Yes most definitely it's rather depressing

[Phoenix98]

Yup..

[Minahh]

No not really

[CubaPirate]

Not anymore

[LoveYourself24]

😅😅😅

[Timid-guy]

Correct