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It does if you are a divorce lawyer! As for me I always say marriage is like a hurricane there is a lot of blowing in the beginning & when it’s all said & done your house is going. I also say marriage is all about the three rings. Engagement ring, wedding ring & suffering.
Marriage nowadays doesn’t make sense because the second you say I Do say goodbye to half or all your shit down the road.
As for me I have never been married & never will be & if I’m stupid enough to get married hopefully I’m smart enough to sit down with a legal team before doing so.
Truthfully nowadays I think the bond is stronger being in a regular relationship without getting married.
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Some people want an official seal on their relationship which is a good thing because it creates pressure to take the relationship seriously.
It is also good for their children. When non-serious couples get a divorce, children suffer because of them.
This was also a way to protect the children.Personally, I don't care about society, government or religion's seal of approval on my marriage with someone.
But if I have children, I will do it. If I don't have children, my partner and I have approval for each other is enough.01 Reply- 1 y
In my country, after marriage, both husband and wife are pressured by society and family to live together.
But in the eyes of the law, the pressure to maintain the marriage is only on the husband.
But this is not a problem because men prefer to take the risk and continue to marry women even though they know that the sword of discriminatory laws is hanging around their necks by a thin thread whose one end is in the hands of their wives.
1 yit doesn't for me... if the relationship works, we are together... if it's beyond any fix... or our goals went apart... or whatever... we shouldn't be forced to stay together... life is too short...
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1 yIt doesn'takensimce of you and your fiance plan a child free wedding. I hate child free wedding.
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491 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic. For men it makes no sense whatever. Divorece, alimoney, child support, cheating wives, false accusations, unfair courts. And much more. A prenup will not protect a man.
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In the final analysis, the bias of the law, the courts, and whoever rules our society is not good for our society and therefore it is not good for women. The fact is, men are slow and dimwitted but they are not stupid. Men see what is going on and a substantial number of men choose to avoid marriage which is making it more difficult for me and other women to find the best husband that otherwise we would have.
Moreover, without marriage men are semi-dropping out and earning just enough for themselves and thereby are earning less than what they otherwise would. That is not good for our society and in turn that is not good for women. - 1 y
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@Ariesman81 If that is true, it is because I am a bit more logical and see one step deeper. Many women see that in college they win because they have larger and more scholarships, and if they get divorced they win in family courts. However, they don't consider that if men earn, less they will have less and when men choose not to get married, their options are less.
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Anonymous(36-45)1 yFor the average guy, it doesn't make sense to legally get married. They face all the risk and none of the reward. For guys on welfare, it's great though. And for guys earning less money than the woman. He can divorce whenever things aren't going his way and can't get enslaved. So he's not living in fear of his wife and he's free to leave whenever it suits him.
00 ReplyIn the long run, no. And actually, it's only a fairly new concept. Religion played a big part in its creation, also the government. Why should the state tell you if you're "in love" or not. It shouldn't. Just another way for the government to tell you what to do, right, republicans?
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1 yThankfully, it seems to make sense for my husband. He wanted to formalize things and I'm so glad he did. I try to make our home a refuge for him. And I am his refuge, too. We're 11 years and 2.5 kids into it and loving our life.
10 Reply1.1K opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic. It has made perfect sense for me and my husband of 11 years.
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Anonymous(30-35)1 yGenerally speaking, today it make sense for women but not for men.
662 Replywhy?
Opinion Owner1 y@chocolatetwopointo Half of marriages end in divorce, women file 80% of them, and men get screwed in divorce court and child custody. There is an epidemic of suicide among middle aged men today, and this is one of the biggest reasons for it. And the reality is, today's marriage just doesn't offer men the same benefits that marriage of the past did.
Marriage essentially takes power away from men and gives it to women and the government.if women file most divorces then the problem is on men tho?💀 and what does child custody have to do with marriage? what benefits did men have back then?
Opinion Owner1 y@chocolatetwopointo No, women file most divorces because they are incentivized to do so by the legal system, because they have no sense of commitment, because they don't take the marriage vows seriously, and because they are very self-centered.
Child custody has nothing to do with marriage, and everything to do with divorce. And you can't consider the pros and cons of marriage without considering divorce. Any man considering marriage knows that if he goes through with it there is a 40% chance his wife will divorce him, and men almost always lose in divorce.
In the past, a man worked his ass off all day and looked forward to coming home to a clean and orderly home, a home-cooked meal and some relaxing time with his family. Today, a man still works his ass off all day but gets to "look forward" to coming home to a wife who has also had a stressful day and none of the chores that were done by he wife during the day in the past have been done. On his way home he probably has to stop and pick up fast food for dinner and/or pick up the dry cleaning and/or pick up the kids from daycare. When he gets home he gets to do the chores his counterpart's wife in the past would have taken care of during the day. And the next day he gets to wake up and do it all again. One the weekends, he gets to work on the chores that didn't get done during the week.
For men today, marriage is a huge risk and a liability more than anything else.yet men are more likely to cheat and not want marriage bc they have commitment issues? not every married couple has kids yk. okay so u want a slave as a wife? got it.
Opinion Owner1 y@chocolatetwopointo Women actually cheat more than men before age 30. After 30 men do cheat more, but not by a significant margin.
But regardless, despite the common misconception, infidelity is not the leading reason for divorce. Study after study has shown the primary reason for divorce is lack of commitment. Considering 80% of divorces are files by women, it's a clear indication today's women lack commitment. They don't mean it when they say "I promise to love and cherish you till death do us part".
Slave? How is a SAHW any more a slave that the husband who is sentenced to 40 - 60 hours a week of slave labor to financially support his wife and children?
True, not every married couple has children, but most people have no interest in marriage without children. Even you bitterly feminist young women will almost certainly reach a stage in life when you want children. But you will also be the most likely wives to decide once you've had children that you don't need your husband anymore.whats your source on the cheating part? and i js googled the reason why women initiate divorce more, it said women are less satisfied, due to unmet emotional needs, poor communication and lack of independence. because back then women werent allowed to work and men would hit the women if they did a single mistake, u js want a woman to do everything around the house, why not js get a maid? a SAHW works 24/7 you’ll js work 9-5 a day + she’ll have to work on weekends. trust me i won't want children lmao they suck. thats why im not getting married, bc i dont need a man, people get married bc they want to be with eachother, not bc they need it, like women needed back in the day, a woman wouldn't survive if she werent with a man.
Opinion Owner1 y@chocolatetwopointo
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As this graphic shows, the older a couple is, the larger the cheating ga becomes. But even at age 69, the difference is only 8%.
Most husbands and wives have things they are dissatisfied with in their marriages. When men are dissatisfied, they tend to cheat. But the vast majority of men (74%) never cheat. When women are dissatisfied, they divorce. Both demonstrate a lack of commitment, but only 26% of husbands cheat while 40% of wives file for divorce.
Here's the thing. Commitment means staying loyal and working through inevitable problems. Men are just significantly better at that than today's women. The numbers don't lie.
Women are destroying the institution of marriage, and it's hurting all of us due to the impact society.when most wives are dissatisfied they communicate with their husband, they divorce if he doesn't change. okay so bc u were a terrible man, a woman is shamed for divorcing him?💀 pls make it make sense cuz wtf, and can u give me the link to the picture?
Opinion Owner1 yBy the way, look at the global divorce statistics among straight, gay and lesbian couples. The lowest divorce rate is among gay couples and the highest rate, by far, is among lesbian couples. In other words, the more women involved in a marriage, the higher the likelihood it will end in divorce.
Put another way, it's virtually impossible to keep a woman happy in marriage, but a man is far more likely than a woman to have success in that perilous challenge.
Women are the leading cause of divorce, because they lack commitment.
Opinion Owner1 yFor some reason GAG won't let me post the Wikipedia link, but if you Google "Divorce of same-sex couples" it will come up.
i already googled and it said divorce wasn't caused by commitment issues. women js dont wanna settle for less ig and i understand that. its easy to keep a woman happy lmao I don't know what ur on
Opinion Owner1 y@chocolatetwopointo If it's easy to keep a woman happy, then why is the divorce rate so much higher among lesbian couples?
Opinion Owner1 y@chocolatetwopointo Again, GAG won't let me post the links so I'll post quotes from them. According to the National Library of Medicine: "Results indicated that the most common major contributing factor to divorce reported by participants was lack of commitment, reported by 75% of individuals and by at least one person in 94.4% of couples."
Opinion Owner1 y@chocolatetwopointo www.omegafirm.law/.../
as google said, bc they dont feel satisfied due to unmet emotional needs and poor communication.
Opinion Owner1 y@chocolatetwopointo Primary reasons for divorce:
Lack Of Commitment - 75.0%
Extramarital Affairs - 59.6%
Too Much Conflict - 57.7 %
Getting Married Too Young - 45.1%
Financial Problems - 36.7%
Substance Use - 34.6%
Domestic Violence - 23.5%
Health Problems - 18.2%
Lack Of Support From Family - 17.3%
Religious Differences - 13.3%thats only in kentucky and indiana
Opinion Owner1 y@chocolatetwopointo Again, both husbands and wives feel unsatisfied, but women don't have the commitment to stay and work on in proving things like men do.
Opinion Owner1 y*improving
you do know js bc women initiate it the most doesn't mean they want it more, maybe the man is too afraid or js too lazy, women want things done not js it getting thrown under the carpet
then marry a woman who commits to you?💀 i dont see a problem here tbh
Opinion Owner1 yThe institution of marriage is in deep trouble. As long as women continue to deny, deflect and blame others rather than owning their responsibility in it, the trend will continue and marriage will be a thing of the past in another generation or two. Marriage is the cornerstone of society, so the stakes are very high. Grow up and take some responsibility for your shit.
Opinion Owner1 y@chocolatetwopointo No man marries a woman he thinks has commitment issues. He believes she means it when she states her wedding vows. But people change. Unfortunately, when it comes to commitment, women change more than men. A lot more.
okay sure then dont marry and be alone forever I don't know what u want me to do ab it?
Opinion Owner1 y@chocolatetwopointo No, not just in Kentucky and Indiana. They were quoting statistics from national studies.
and you do know only 37% of marriages end up divorced right? if ur a good man you’ll be fine, and if u get divorced whats the big deal? marry another woman she can't take ur money
it literally said ”in kentucky”💀
Opinion Owner1 y@chocolatetwopointo "and if u get divorced whats the big deal?"
This ^ is such a naive statement.
And no, just being a good man doesn't mean his wife won't divorce him and take his children. I've seen it happen to good men many times.then those women werent mentally well, hope that helps!
Opinion Owner1 y"Did you know that September is Suicide Prevention Month? Suicide is the 12th leading cause of death overall in the United States. 79% of people who commit suicide are male. Of those 79%, men who have been divorced are 9 times more likely to commit suicide as compared to divorced women. These facts are devastating…but they do not have to be."
www.modernlegalnc.com/divorced-men-and-the-realities-of-suicidewhats that supposted to prove? if ur gna kys bc a woman divorced you, you’re not mentally well and should get therapy
Opinion Owner1 y@chocolatetwopointo That's the answer of a 16 yo child who has no experience in the real world. It's devastating to man when his wife leaves him and takes his children.
you’ll live, go to therapy ur life isn't ending
Opinion Owner1 y@chocolatetwopointo You're a shitty human being.
how? im saying you’ll get through it?💀
Opinion Owner1 y@chocolatetwopointo "if ur gna kys bc a woman divorced you, you’re not mentally well and should get therapy"
^ The words of someone who has no heart.what?💀 if i got divorced id get on with my life
Opinion Owner1 y@chocolatetwopointo If you got divorced, changes are you as a female would have custody of your children.
id kms if i got the kids all by myself thats the worst thing possible i hate kids
Opinion Owner1 y@chocolatetwopointo I'm not surprised you hate kids. Most heartless, self-centered women do.
yeah kids are awful, im not heartless tho lmao i js think its easy to move on. how am i self centred?
Opinion Owner1 y@chocolatetwopointo You're prolific on GAG so I've read a lot of your posts, and your self-centeredness comes through loud and clear.
once again, how am i self centred?
Opinion Owner1 y@chocolatetwopointo I've already given you one example, and considering GAG's horrible search functionality I'm not going to waste my time searching for all the other examples I've seen.
you didn't tho? u js said you’ve seen my posts?
Opinion Owner1 y@chocolatetwopointo Yes, I did. As I said, your responses about divorced fathers committing suicide demonstrated your cold heart and self-centered nature.
that doesn't make me self centred tho?
Opinion Owner1 y@chocolatetwopointo Yes it does. I'm done arguing with a child. Bye.
it doesn't tho? its obvious u got nothing left to say lmao
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@chocolatetwopointo Stop it. We want wives who understand their value is in support and giving care.
Opinion Owner1 y@Ariesman81 Amen brother. Most of today's women DGAF about what men actually want, because like the chocolate covered nut here, they are too self centered.
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Yeah... you just have to learn how to deal with it if you want to be in a relationship with them.
no wonder both of y'all r single and r like 50💀
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@chocolatetwopointo It's not gonna work
what isn't gna work?
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@chocolatetwopointo Your attempt to shame and guilt us out of our standards
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This is just women admitting to cheating. Nearly all of them believe that their cheating doesn't count for various reasons. I've seen a bunch of women on GAG admit to that too. If could magically see actually infidelity rates, the gap would disappear or reverse.
bro who said anything ab cheating now?💀 and when have i shamed you out of ur standards?💀 and y'all actually wonder why girls dont like u?
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@chocolatetwopointo I see a lot of domestic violence cases in your future
are u wishing im gonna be abused or what the actual fuck?
Anonymous(25-29)1 yTo me it does. I want to be married with children in the next few years, I hope I'll be a good father and husband.
I really want to make a good woman feel supported, loved, and seen. I want my offspring to have an active, energetic, loving, and involved father. If that's not worth it, or doesn't end up making sense for me, then I'm not sure what will make sense to me.
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1 yYes, it makes sense as long as it is done with the right person.
10 ReplyOf course it does. But have you the education to understand why? is a more pertinent question. As people who question marriage tend to know very little about society and law.
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1 yYes, but divorce property and entitlement laws currently don't, so correcting that by changing the laws should be people's focus.
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u 1 yYes, if you know what you're doing, what you're entering into, and if you've selected the right person.
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1 yThe whole contract part makes me 🤮🤢 for years it has now re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft
00 ReplyIf it benefits the woman, then it absolutely makes sense, in my opinion.
00 ReplyI wonder if maybe marriage licenses should have to be renewed yearly by both parties and if they aren't, then it is an automatic divorce.
00 ReplyI think so when a couple is in love and it is at the right time in their life
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1 yI think it makes sense cause it symbolizes the uniqueness of a relationship and the uniquely beautiful things that come out of it.
00 ReplyIt makes sense in a sane world…but this is not a sane workd
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1 yFor some it does, for others it doesn't.
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Anonymous(18-24)1 yBecause I have no other dream, to be a father
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1 ynah its pointless and a waste of money
167 Replyyeah bc its pointless and a waste of money💀
okay good for you, idc if anybody listens to me this is simply my opinion and why i won't be getting married.
okay then whats so great about it? what makes it not pointless and what makes it not a waste of money?
so then explain to me? how is it a waste on the man’s side? when u got married did only u pay for it? bc usually both pay or the parents of the couple so maybe its a you problem
okay so you chose to pay for the wedding? whats the problem then?
then why’d u do it if ur gna go complain ab it later?💀
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I'm not complaining, I'm demonstrating to you that you're the one complaining it's a waste of money when it's usually the man who spends the most in a relationship. I do love providing for my wife, and if you discuss with many other married men, you will get the same answer. That's what drives men to get up early to work everyday and struggle, to provide for their family. If they're happy with that, why should you be the one to say it's a waste of money?
well nowadays the majority of couples both pay for their wedding since its the norm, bc if i were to get married id pay for it myself id feel terrible if anyone wasted that much money js on me
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It doesn't work that way everywhere. And you're not married yet, so all this is just your projection of how things should go. You're a woman, that means you're on the receiving end. You're not even married yet, so you've not reached that level of understanding. Trust me when I say, you're going to change.
yes bc i would not let a man pay that much for me, it js makes him seem desperate in my opinion and id feel terrible. what makes u think im not understanding? and wdym im going to change? do you think ill js become a gold digger and expect my man to pay for everything?
to what? what will change and how do yk ill change?
trust me, i won't. I've always felt terrible when people pay for me and i always will
you gotta realise not every woman is the exact same and not every single woman is a gold digger and want money as a boyfriend
i live in sweden, education is free here. i only feel bad when they pay for something i dont really need, like when they pay for food, clothes and stuff like that i dont feel that bad bc its their responsebility as a parent.
i won't tho, my parents chose to have me and knew the concequences and how expensive it would be to have a kid. but if i were to have a partner he doesn't have any responsebility over me, he's simply there to love me, i can make my own money and can support myself by then
yes? but we’ll do 50/50 if we share the same house and 50/50 on groceries since we both need it and share the same house
I don't know whats going on where u live, but thats the norm for basically everyone, women pay for themselves and men pay for themselves💀
no, i won't be paying for another human being, if he doesn't pay his part he’ll get kicked out, simple as that
and by the way he’ll pay for HIS expenses
yeah but only if i refuse to (i wouldn't), if i was fired id want him to keep paying until i get up on my feet again, would also be the same if he was unemployed, as long as he’s trying to get a job
keep reading pls, as i said i would do that for him too, it goes both ways
if he doesn't agree with that, then we’re simply not compatible. if i were to be with somebody he’ll have to agree with basically everything as me
okay so whats ur point and what should i do? should i let a man provide and pay for me 24/7 or what? if he isn't perfect i won't be with him
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Hhhh... I never said that you should. I'm just pointing out the fact that your line of thinking, that you're not going to have expectations and entitlements from your partner, isn't realistic.
Also, you're never going to find someone that is perfect, never! You're going to keep looking till you go down your grave. the things i said ARE realistic where i live, its more rare to find somebody who will pay for everything i do. and thats exactly why i won't be dating
i said its more likely to find somebody to do 50/50 with instead of finding somebody who only provides from one side.
and?
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That is the epitome of a reply to your comment:
"so then explain to me? how is it a waste on the man’s side? when u got married did only u pay for it? bc usually both pay or the parents of the couple so maybe its a you problem"
which stems from:
"You won't understand now. You're not old enough too. Besides, it's a "waste of money" on the man's side, not the woman's."
following:
"okay then whats so great about it? what makes it not pointless and what makes it not a waste of money?"
and ultimately leading to:
"nah its pointless and a waste of money" saying ”u won't understand” is not a reply its js u not having any reasons for making marriage a good thing, bc obviously its not since u can't give any.
okay, try explaining then and we’ll see, since u dont know me u can't know what i understand or not.
no, bc i dont need to, and its not needed in marriage either
bc its common knowledge, why would u need to have responsebility over ur partner? is that the only reason that marriage is good?
okay so u wanna take care of somebody? have a kid? have a pet?
why do you want responsebility over a grown fucking woman
then explain to me, not that fucking hard, ur js proving my point rn
i think you can answer ”why do u want responsebility over a grown woman?” , id explain what it smelled like tf?💀
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Again, it's the "sense", the "sense", the "sense", the "sense" of responsibility. Don't you get it? Stop removing the "sense" from the word. No one's just going to be responsible for a family or other people for no reason. It's the "sense", "sense", "sense", "sense", and you can't explain sense. It's the same way you can't explain what flowers smell like to a person who has never smelled flowers.
okay then if u refuse to even try, i can't force u but i still stand with my opinion.
bro I've never smelt a rose ngl to u so u prolly won't understand💀
ill explain to you how a lemon smells, okay? A lemon gives off an energizing, spicy citrus smell, if you’ve ever smelt a cocktail or a lime you may be familiar of it.
Only for women.
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Anonymous(36-45)1 yIf I was a babe I'd get married annually.
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1 yIt does to me
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1 ysure.
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Because it provides the most stable environment for children, and allows men and women to grow to their fullest potential.
@msc545 I’ve been married 25 years two young adult daughters who are successful in their careers/school. Own a home, boat, dog, go on vacations where I want when I want. 7 figure net worth. Plenty of friends, family and hobbies. You might want to look into the mirror, child.
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