Why are women obsessed with marriage?

[Anonymous]

Whats the difference between a long term relationship and marriage I just want to know. Because to me you can do so much more things with that money instead of wasting it on one day. So let me know

[snowboarder720]

You could applying for a marriage license is like $50. You sign a paper and turn it in. Boom, you’re married.
With that said getting married itself is as cheap as you want. It’s having the wedding that you want is what makes it expensive (the venue, the flowers, the food, the decor, the dresses, the suits, etc).
You don’t need all of that to get married. That’s why people elope all of a sudden. It’s literally the cheapest option. It’s all just a piece of paper with your names on it saying the nation recognizes two people becoming one being. That’s it.


What’s the difference between that and a long term relationship? The commitment. You can walk out of a long term relationship whenever you want with ZERO strings attached. With a marriage it’s not that simple at all. You can visit your sick wife in the hospital but you can’t visit your sick girlfriend because… she’s just your girlfriend. The state and government doesn’t recognize a girlfriend/boyfriend as a recognized unity so they can deny your presence with them whenever they want. You’re as good as a stranger to them.
Honestly what’s the true commitment difference between a ‘long term’ relationship and a ‘short term’ relationship? There isn’t anything true real commitment there beyond just the other person’s feelings. It really doesn’t mean anything until you’re married and that’s when the other person is legally responsible for what happens to you.

[snowboarder720]

I also didn’t mention how expensive the rings are, the photographer, the videographer, the wedding planner, the stationary, the limousines, the hotel rooms for your guests from out of town, the open bar, the ice cream bar, the cake, the grass wall, the bachelor party, the bachelorette party, the gifts for your wedding party, etc.

Weddings can be so f***ing expensive. They can also be $50. A marriage can be as cheap as you want.

[MisterWack]

Because marriage is romantic, a symbol of showcasing your love to God’s presence (if you are a devoted religious believer), is a sign of intimacy & a feeling of passing a glistening gate on the path of life, feeling of your spouse’s loyalty just as you have onto him, etc.

Marriage is a beautiful thing and has been romanticized since the tradition began so, clearly it pulls on the heartstring of women and want to commit their lives to their man just as the man would commit their lives to her.

[MisterWack]

*I don’t think people will be triggered by this, though I have been proven wrong in the past…. I’m answering the question “Why are women obsessed with marriage?” so, of course I’m coming into this with a positive spin & an explanation as to why women are infatuated in it. That is all, don’t get so judgmental please, just leave this be if it isn’t your style.

[alice55]

If your wife is sick you can visit her in hospital if not you can't (I don't remember in which case but there's many where they would only allow family to see the sick person and long terms partner doesn't count).

Also it show commitment and that you aren't gonna leave one day out of the blue.

[alice55]

There's also sharing the same name with your children to make it easier for school related stuff and health related stuff

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

In practice, I've been involved with visits several times throughout my life, there was no marital status issue at all with healthcare personnel

[caitycat21]

Marriage offers protection to them and any future kids they might have, simple as that. What’s so difficult to understand

[Vesuvius87]

I'm currently pregnant and the child will be born and raised within marriage. I still believe in the nuclear family. This is better than children born out of wedlock, which is sadly becoming more common.

It's not about being obsessed. It's about full lifetime commitment (not just verbal ''I love you's'' and him always having one foot out the door if he's just a boyfriend and the woman having a higher chance of being a single mother) and a child raised with a full time father.

[Asker]

You can still get divorced though? So basically it's so that she can have his money if she decides to leave

[Vesuvius87]

I don't want divorce. I don't want wealth. What's wrong with being happy with carrying his child and living a simple, life with my life partner?

[Miristheiss]

Modern women? The big show, to have the party, wear a dress, have all of the attention on her, all the pictures, the "dream".

Historically, marriage exists mainly for the security of the woman. A woman would have a baby if she has sex. That is how biology works. Science hadn't yet created the "pill". Doctors didn't make slaughtering a growing baby some mainstream thing yet.

If a woman had sex... she risked pregnancy and a baby to care for. There was no DNA testing, usually a guy could just take off and there wasn't anything to do about it. Marriage was the way to assure she was cared for and the baby had a father and a family.

Before the pill a lot of women were chaste and kept sex just for marriage and lowered the risk of her having a baby alone.

The pill freed women from that worry... hence 85% to 90% of modern women are complete degenerate tramps.

Women still get all the legal claims on assets and alimony and things if they can get a man to sign this contract with the government... for them to rule over the relationship and if she cheats and he wants to leave... the government tells him how much he has to work and pay her for years.

Traditionally it was protection, a father and family for any kids.

Now, they just want the show and pageantry and they still want legal claim to his money.

[LeatherDame]

Traditionally speaking there's some guarantees of mutual support etc with marriage. Given that women are often expected to do more of the child rearing and house duties we usually don’t want to do that without some kind of commitment/guarantee our investment will support us in some way (aka financial support since we are doing the less economically rewarding tasks in the partnership).


That’s tradiitonally, things have been gradually equaling out since women entered the workforce but it’s taking a while to unlearn those cultural narratives for many.

[ManOnFire]

Women are more desperate to be free from singleness, and one way to get that is through marriage where they can have some kind of sense of being loved and taken by a guy, and give them some sense of higher or better social status. And also because they want the world to see, especially other women, whether it makes them envious or not.

[Rosexøxø]

You know so little about women it’s really crazy..

[ManOnFire]

@Rosexøxø That statement isn't proving me wrong.

[missindiana93]

I'm not obsessed with it just want to be my best friend for the rest of my life no matter how hard the struggles are and how little money we have. But we survive and stay strong. Most woman take off and leave you for a richer man. Most woman want money not marriage, not kids, not love.

[DryGermanGuy]

I have never met a woman obsessed with marriage. Maybe half of them were more interested in marriage than the average guy might be, the other half was just like us.

[CarolinaGirl5]

Why are men so obsessed with getting everything for free? Why are men so obsessed with sex without commitment? Evaluate yourself

[Makeushiver]

@CarolinaGirl5 I see many questions similar to this. They all assume that sex is a masculine pleasure. The facts dispute that. Women have twice the nerve cells on their clit than men do on their hard on. Also, for many women the refractory period is much shorted sometimes nonexistent which makes women capable of multiple orgasms compared to men. If you look in any sex toy store online or brick and mortar you'll see the inventory is about 85% geared for women's pleasure and the other 15% for both or men.

[snowboarder720]

@Makeushiver that has nothing to do with how many nerves both genders have on their genitalia 🤣
Men/boys rape women/girls all the time. Women never rape men.

[Makeushiver]

@snowboarder720 Well I was not commenting on ay of those topics. The only thing I was trying to answer was that I didn't think of sex as a transaction and that women -or at least the ones I've dated- enjoy the act as much as I do.

[Asker]

Even though they do sometimes they make in transactional and will use it as a weapon to get what they want

[Anonymous]

"Whats the difference between a long term relationship and marriage"

Men like you are not marriage material. by the way, you can marry for $100 or less, but I guess you must be too cheap.

[Asker]

No you can't it takes thousands of dollars and I'm saying that money can be used for different things.

[Asker]

Whats the difference you literally never awnsered the question because there is none

[trumpetplayerforlife]

I feel like it's because from a young age we are taught that to be valued and respectful you have to marry someone so it's drilled in our head no matter if your parents ment to or not

[periodicelement]

I don't believe in marriage honestly, I feel we have primal urges as humans and marriage goes against that

[Asker]

Very true I agree and 75% of marriages end in divorce so..

[KrakenAttackin]

They are obsessed with having a WEDDING, but disgusted with the idea of a real marriage.

[Alwayreckles93]

I don't why. The question is why are people now a days obsessed with Child free Weddings?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

They are not.

Or they are... It depends entirely on where you live on earth lol.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Oh, and even if you live in a location where they are obsessed, that obsession will most likely cease after the first divorce but... Shhhh 🤫

[SolitarySolace]

Because marriage implies that she, the wife, is going to be the boss. Which is just going to sow division and eventual divorce

[ihateTaylorSwift]

makes them feel
valued and special
that somebody would
do all that for them

[Peggy01]

How everyone is looking at her like she a princess.

[Peggy01]

And we’re taught that from a young age.

[Asker]

Yea I suppose that's true and if you have the money go for it bit people go in debt for that and love shouldn't be only if you have a ring

[AmeerX]

Lol, I am obsessed with marriage. It is important and I want it too

[DrPepper12]

Legal framework
Cheaper
Tax breaks
Support system doubled
Love it you believe in it

[snowboarder720]

I definitely disagree with it being cheaper. Sure you bring in twice the income but you’re also spending twice the amount on consumptions like food, family/friends gifts, gas, groceries, etc.
The support system and the consumed system really balances themselves out. I honestly saw about the same tax return as when I was single and I filed jointly too. It really wasn’t much of a significant tax break.

[DrPepper12]

I agree. I haven't seen any decisive benefit tax wise either

[Anonymous]

Well, some men would like to be married too, but they can't.

[paledreams]

For the party 💐🎉 🍷 🍻 🍾🍾🍾

[Amur8711]

They want the commitment

[Crazzyyworld]

It’s all about sex. Nothing personal

[Anonymous]

They only want our money, period