Why are women obsessed with marriage?

[Anonymous]

Now that I'm getting later into my twenties I'm finding that every girl I went to college and high school with is either getting married or trying to get married. Every time I'm on Facebook all it is filled with is status/pictures, of engagements, weddings, babies etc, to the point it seems like an OBSESSION. Why are women like this? I would like to get married one day but I'm not going out of my way to try and find a guy to marry, or get preg, just so I can fit in with everyone else!

[Laila0221]

This is a touchy subject for me. I really honestly see both sides, well because I was forced to in my own personal situation. I am 25 and have been with my boyfriend for 8 years now. We have been living together for 4 and have even adopted 2 dogs together. I was raised with the views that you meet a boy, fall in love, get engaged, then move in, get married, then have kids. Not to mention I’ve always been one of those hopeless romantics that has been planning her own dream wedding to prince charming since I was 8. I’ve technically already been married and divorced from my best friend at least 5 times. We were 10, all hyped up on Fun Dip and Pixie Sticks, it was a crazy time. But so needless to say I’ve gotten to this point where I’m saying ok when are we moving to the next step? Let’s get this marriage train a rollin’. Meanwhile my boyfriend has pulled the emergency break and we’re at a dead stop. We’re hanging in relationship limbo. He doesn’t want to for every reason that was mentioned by every guy above. The divorce rates are so bad, the economy sucks, we don’t have any money, and the list goes. Which I do see the point of SOME of these excuses. We don’t have the money for a wedding and that’s a big issue since we would be paying for the majority of it ourselves. We also want to buy a house instead of a wedding, therefore further decreasing our wedding funds. But I also see the point of view of why some girls really want, verging obsession, to get married. It’s the next step in life, in your relationship. Many will argue that if you’re in a fulfilled relationship and you really love each other and have said that you want to spend the rest of your life together then why not get married, why not take that next leap? I think in a lot of ways it’s a security thing for girls. Guys are always talking about how after you get married your life is over (my prince charming included), you’re forever off the market (or well supposed to be), and a lot of times that simple fact that the “single life” is forever gone scares the sh*t of guys. So if a girl finds a guy that they want to be with forever, they want that little security measure identified by the wedding band saying he’s mine forever. He’s taken ladies, back off. Some girls do go through this whole thing too, so guys don’t think you’re alone on this. But on the other hand, if you’re happy in your relationship now what’s truly going to change once you’ve said “I do”? The answer, nothing really. I think what it comes down to is fear. Guys fear losing their freedom and girls fear losing their guy, winding up alone. So the safer thing for a girl to do is get married and damn we can be a convincing bunch can’t we!?!

[jackiejean]

I agree with JackOslan to a point. I myself being a 20 year old woman, am seeing the same thing. A lot of girls I went to school with either got pregnant in HS, married right when they got out of HS, or are planning on getting married soon. Society has made marriage to be this thing that is necessary to becoming happy with your life, and it's sick. The US's divorce rate is so bad, because people will jump into marriage without knowing what it truly means, or know the responsibilities that come along with it.

I plan on just living my life to the fullest and hopefully meeting a great guy that can be my life partner, not a husband. I don't need to be married to be happy, that just seems like a false happiness to me.

But who knows, maybe I'll change my mind; I mean, everyone becomes a completely different person every 7 years.. :P

[Babygirl727]

I agree..marriage is so overrated now days and that is why the divorce rate is so high, because people are not building a strong foundation within the relationship before the baby is born or the question is even asked. They barely know each other when they move in and that's when you really get to know someone. I think women are just following the media and conforming to that old fashioned way of life. I will not get married unless I ve been with that person for years and I'm truly satisfied with the idea of marriage. It is not a game.

[JackOslan]

People are dumb and they do what society tells them to do. More specifically, I think a lot of women have this delusion that once they have some magical wedding everything will be perfect for the rest of their lives. You'd think that any reasonable woman would need only to look at the history of marriage and current divorce rates to realize that real life isn't a Disney movie. To your point, I bet you that there's actually a frightening amount of women out there who would rather not meet their soulmate given the restriction that they could only be with them and not get married.

[l-hedoniste]

People tend to measure relationships by how close they are to marriage, as though marriage is a sign of success. Kindness and care, of course, are a relationship's signs of success, and if marriage comes, so be it.

Ignore the obsession. It passes among saner folk.

[CuriousEd]

Don't worry... there's probably a little bit of a boom with people in their early 20's.

It slows down, and you'll still find a lot of single people are left standing once the dust settles.

Relax... grin and get through it for now.

[iveth]

im the same way some girls are obsessed. and for me its like what ever it don't really matter for me.