How to feel about this? Am I overthinking it or is it really not that much of a big deal?

[Anonymous]

I 25f have been married to partner 31m for almost about a year now prior to knowing one another for 6 months. I'm from the uk.

My husband is a police officer and his colleague is getting married today and my husband has gone to the wedding. I didn't ask my husband too much, he just told me last month that he got invited to his colleagues wedding and that he will be going.
I've been thinking why I've not been invited, husband told me he was quite close to this colleague (he's a guy).
I'm not sure how I'm feeling if im honest.

I mean I know some say if you don't know these people then don't expect to get invited so I'm not that bothered and at the same time I slightly am. Husband said he did not expect to get invited and told me today that he used to close to this colleague. The wedding is all the way to another city, 4hr travel and it's at 6pm. My husband told me it's probably a reception. He told me this afternoon that he will eat at the wedding, a table was booked.

I just feel like he probably didn't want me to go with him, realistically he could've just asked if he can bring his wife with him but at the same time I do get it as it's not exactly a respectful thing to do in my eyes, If not invited don't ask.

His phone is showing one tick now, the reception must be bad. It's been 3 hrs since he last messaged.

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Is it possible to not have reception at a wedding place? WhatsApp messages seem to be one tick

[Oliverlogan263]

I can totally understand why you're feeling a little uneasy about this situation, girl. It's understandable to have some mixed feelings when your husband gets invited to a colleague's wedding without you being included.

On one hand, you're right that it's not super uncommon for people to just invite the actual couple and not significant others, especially if the couple isn't super close with the newlyweds. So in that sense, you shouldn't take it too personally.

But at the same time, the fact that your husband is so close with this colleague, and that he's going to be staying for the reception and even eating a meal there, does seem a little odd. The lack of communication and minimal updates from him aren't helping either.

I know it's hard not to overthink things, but try not to jump to any major conclusions just yet. There could be totally reasonable explanations for why you weren't invited and why he's being a bit more distant today. Maybe the venue just has bad cell service or something.

My advice would be to try to stay calm and avoid spiraling too much. When your husband gets home, have an open and honest conversation with him about how you're feeling. Express your concerns, but don't accuse him of anything. See what he has to say and try to get a better understanding of the situation.

If there turns out to be something shady going on, then you can address that. But for now, give him the benefit of the doubt and don't let your imagination run wild. You've got to trust that he cares about you and your marriage, even if he's acting a little odd at the moment.

Easier said than done, I know. But don't stress yourself out too much, girl. You've got this. Focus on taking care of yourself in the meantime, and try not to overthink things until you get the full story from your husband. Sending you all the positive vibes!

[Anonymous]

This marriage is doomed. Sorry.

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