Do you think a marriage can really last a lifetime?

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Personally, I don't think so.

motownplayer2000 · Accepted Answer

Yes. But the current climate we are in nowadays. Yeah, women want to do less, and get more. Meaning, they don’t care about a man, his wellbeing, his mission, his sacrifice to make sure they are well taken care of. They want more. A bigger house, a more luxurious lifestyle, to be wined and dined, or the man isn’t worth it. It’s the feminist mentality. Also, women don’t know how to be women. To treat a man, to cook, to clean, to be submissive, to be sacrificial in all different way than men. lol I hear this phrase all the time, I’ll submit if he is worthy of it. Not how that works.

If you are at work, you submit to your boss, if you are in public and a police officer pulls you over, you submit to what he is asking, why is it, women would submit in those situations, blindly, but when it comes to there husband, bfs, etc… the one who would literally give his life to protect you (at least most men in real relationships would) you think you can choose to not submit. That will get you fired pretty quickly.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

Of course I do. There are many people that have proved it to be so. However, everyone has such ridiculous expectations nowadays and low commitment levels. Because everyone is online and easily accessible (especially to women), people leave at a moment's notice any time any little thing happens that they don't like. They don't want to communicate and try to work through the issues. They want to just move on the the next person. It's the reason why hookup culture is prevalent these days.

There ARE good and mature people that have no issues with open and honest communication and commitment, but they are increasingly rare as this society is conditioning people to leave with any little bump in a relationship.

Aimée__LJ · Accepted Answer

A lifetime no because marrying babies is weird. But I believe people can stay married for the rest of their lives. My parents have been married for 28 years, but together since they were 16/18. My grandparents were married from age 19 up until my grandma passed away a few years ago. Guess I've been very fortunate to be surrounded by people who genuinely love each other and aren't afraid to show it either. Maybe that's why I'm so picky

emeraldsaphire · Accepted Answer

Well it will always last the lifetime of the marriage. I've often wondered if marriages should last a lifetime. Pagan handfasting can often only last a few years. It would be nice if we had more options. Like have an option for weddings that can expire, if you want to you could renew, but you don't have too, and give options for polyamorous relationships too.

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes, if both partners’ choose and love each other til Death do them part. Marriage isn’t easy but marriage doesn’t have to be hard either , Only selfish people make marriages and relationships hard

Simslover92 · Answer

Not every marriage can or will last a lifetime. It's only the chosen few that actually make it till death do you part.

AviatorTom · Answer

Yes it can. My parents were married for 40+ years, until my father died.

Zack-Bann · Answer

When marriage was invented people had a lifespan of like 30 years
So it was easy to firmly believe in happily ever after

But now we not only live more than twice that we also have ways to keep our youthful vigor going for longer

So a successful marriage at 20 and 30 might still crumble at 40

I do think it’s doable because some people have managed to do it
But I don’t think it’s easy and intuitive like it might have been a long time ago

Which is kinda sad but also very liberating

MrOracle · Answer

It definitely can. Most people simply make little effort, and divorce is way too easy. No Fault Divorce was a huge mistake, and was largely lobbied for by neurotic Hollywood celebrities. Reagan, a divorced actor himself, signed it into California law as governor, but later cited it as his biggest political mistake of his career.

If everyone knew that divorce was going to be a slow, difficult, painful process and often wasn't granted (it's essentially a court dissolving a contract), a whole lot more people would take it a lot more seriously to begin with.

A marriage isn't going to last unless it's built on a solid foundation, which includes having compatible morals, values, and life goals - things most people today barely think about before they marry. That's why parents were traditionally involved

RavVid · Answer

It seems unlikely.

The 30+ year marriages don't have divorces but there is a distinct blip up at 20 years which might correlate to the empty nest phase.

Dunno wrt France but the median length of marriage in the Anglosphere is 8 years. That seems to be the time it takes to pop out 1.8 babies and get them into elementary/primary school with it's attendant child minding.

It seems primarily child cycle driven.

I think we all probably have much higher expectations now as well. It is very exciting at the beginning but that is certain to recede. We may be divorcing over a lack of entertainment.

MisterWack · Answer

“Do you think a marriage can really last a lifetime?”

I know so since my grandparents, neighbors, friends, parents, etc. all have marriages that lasted a lifetime. Sorry, just the facts it can though I understand it isn’t always the case.

My advice: Get to know the person for 6-10 years before marriage, have a loving romantic relationship then take the next steps slowly. Be sure he/she is the right one for you and be smart & sensible. Thank you

Lliam · Answer

Yes. It will for my wife and me. We've been married now for over 28 years, had a LOT of fun and built and wonderful life together. We have been through ups and downs. She has proven her loyalty. I cherish her. And we both take our marriage vows seriously. We are best friends, trusted partners, and lovers. We are in it to the end.

I know others who were married for life.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

The majority of first time marriages last. So for first-timers, yes.

The high divorce rate you always hear about is driven higher because of repeat divorcees. It drives the average up. If someone gets divorced once they are far higher to get divorced again. If they get married a third time, the chance of divorce is even higher.

But four is a charm. The divorce rate for forth marriage drops down. That might be because they are old enough that they die before getting divorced.

RingOfFire · Answer

It is certainly challenging to make that happen.

But the thought of having a soulmate whose hand you can hold in yours until the very end when you both fly off into the night together is so powerful that many are willing to take that chance.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Well, obviously. The world has millions of them.  In 2023, the median age at marriage was 32.9 years for men and 31.2 years for women.

HighValue · Answer

Sure if both people are honest with each other from the beginning, have good morals, and always think how their decisions can affect their partner before making them.

My parents were married for 42 years before one past away.

CuriousMoonFox · Answer

Most of the time it doesn't. The more interesting questions to me are "who wants it?" and "when and why do they want it?" The answers to these are very obvious but usually not discussed or euphemized.

abc3643 · Answer

Sure, plenty do. If you are 1) smart about choosing your spouse and 2) mature enough to follow through with your vows, then, yes, you can be married for a lifetime.

CindyRuns · Answer

My parents are at 40 years. I'm at 12 and still pretty happy with it. I can definitely see myself growing old with my husband !!!

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Cats have nine lives, people say :D

Now I wonder what cats say about the number of people's lives...

In any case: I much enjoy my own present afterlife.

Nothing lasts forever - some things just feel as if they do.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Sure, many have certainly.. Just takes people getting past the boredom and hurdles of life that causes them to neglecting their SO.. I guess marrying somebody with the same core values, Definitely helps keep it strong.

DopeTurtle · Answer

If two people truly love one another, can communicate effectively, take accountability and genuinely grow together with a team mindset then yes. People can sometimes forget the value of their partner or themselves which cause a lot of tension.

soe11 · Answer

I don't think in these day. Now a days people do marriage limited periods as ten years or twenty years contract. Some remain as loving together.  I personally like unbnding contract.

jazzy34 · Answer

Absolutely. You have to put the work in. Marriage isn’t all sunshine and rainbows, like Hollywood makes it out to be.

Wild_princess · Answer

I want such type of marriage but lately i am losing faith in marriage  re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (0, 0, 0), justifyLeft

MarjorieJ · Answer

Randy Travis says, yes.

SweetJoyGirl · Answer

If he is not with me until he takes his last breath, I don’t want him.

Garud · Answer

if I look randomly, I can easily find 100s of couples (60 plus age) around me within 4 km

Gwendoline · Answer

Yes i do. I'm married and a Catholic. Catholics don't believe in divorce

RageBabe · Answer

Yes, my grandparents were living examples of how a marriage can endure a lifetime.

LazerBean · Answer

Yes. Certainly not for all people, but yes for the right people.

overlord337645 · Answer

i think you should not be getting married unless you think it should

Alex-Snow · Answer

I hope to make it last forever, but not for a while... I'm only 19 and enjoy having fun with a lot of girls for now

exitseven · Answer

I have been married longer than I haven't been. So far, so good.

Staximus · Answer

My friend's grandpa died this year at age 97. He was married his wife at age 18, for 77 years until she died a couple years ago.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

Are you Catholic? Under Catholic doctrine it's supposed to

Quigly · Answer

Once Religion was separated from Marriage it became all about greed and Money. It's a financial institution and not a religious institution. Marriage is big business and so is Divorce.

Shiprex · Answer

It CAN as long as both are into being with each other and are prepared to commit to it.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Yes … because I have known several who were till death till they parted.

DJB72 · Answer

Mine did. It was just a shorter life than expected.

DtMe89 · Answer

We see it all the time, with divorces. My aunts, have all gotten divorced. On both sides of my family

AmeerX · Answer

It can last a lifetime. It used to last that long. People are intolerant nowadays

Redstang88 · Answer

They could in our grandparents, not anymore

Jennz6 · Answer

No, I have seen too many people get divorced and that’s why I’m not married

msc545 · Answer

I think people are doing well. If it lasts a year. It usually doesn't. In fact, 70% of the time it's over with.

Peggee4U · Answer

Despite the fact that I am in my 3rd marriage, I think it can last a lifetime with the right couple. The trick is finding the right partner first time around.

jahaims · Answer

It has literally happened, so obviously it's possible

ehatsham_hussain · Answer

Depends on so many factors,, Especially on their understanding.

Graptemys79 · Answer

Of course it can. There are plenty of examples.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, if the woman doesn't decide to divorce her husband, and that is the case in roughly half of marriages.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Women marry for money and men marry for sex 2 different reasons

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Yep. The person just has to marry the right person for themselves.

Anonymous · Answer

Both our respective parents managed long marriages ending in a death. And that's my plan A too.

eagle1951 · Answer

I was married 37 years she passed Feb19th 2018

Whatelse36 · Answer

I thought it would, until I found out my husband is cheating on me

iCuddleU · Answer

In today's day in age? Ha, fat chance.

_Andromeda_ · Answer

I think it's highly dependent on the two people.

4ngelic · Answer

it can but nowadays that's rare

BCRanger10 · Answer

They can and do.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Nowadays No, in the past Yes.

WhitneySnow · Answer

It can, but most don’t

DrPepper12 · Answer

I think the better question is SHOULD IT?

slatyb · Answer

Some married people die, so yes.

Miah06 · Answer

Yes. Plenty do it.

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