Marriage: What is in it for men?

Question

Hatred of men is everywhere. Men are toxic. Men are evil. Men are trash. You see it on social media. You see it on TV. And, you see it in movies. Do men get a fair deal in family courts?

pass_the_celery98 · Accepted Answer

I have personally spoke with lawyers who have told me, in western countries, the courts favour the woman. If we are speaking in the name of justice and truth. She could be in the wrong and still get away with it. It’s not a lie. I’ll give an example - there have been more female adult teachers who got caught with a minor.

These women didn’t receive a harsh punishment. If a man did that the consequence and verdict is much more severe. Marriage doesn’t work in favour while many guys do want kids and a loyal wife (besides immature guys and men) that’s what a guy wants. But women I feel like are only for the marriage for what he provides. I think men tend to care much more. This is not about the patriarchy crap. There are female politicians, female CEO’s, female rights. I’m not saying the system is perfect because there are laws that are controversial such as Roe v Wade and abortion rights.

But honestly, I’ve read horrific stories of a woman cutting off a man’s dick over an argument, that’s attempted murder. If I were a judge if she acted out by doing that on rage then that deserves life in prison. Attempting to kill someone, ruining his life, ruining his genitalia where he can’t produce kids is no slap on the wrist, it’s a serious offence. Same way if a man does rape a woman it should be taken seriously and called in her favour because he assaulted her.

I know more women hate men and guys now but that’s also due to feminism saying males are shit and males are pathetic. Feminism ruined the family unit for women to be a boss babe and work and break balls and smash the walls of patriarchy of oppressive men. Give me a break, I’ve worked in environments where women gossip and then they belittle males with their power. That’s not a boss, that’s a moron who takes her job too seriously and enjoys the power trip. Im done with dating, im done pursuing, im done with dating apps.

If women find me to be a POS, fine, I’ll just smile, walk away, do things alone and keep my distance. I won’t look at them, I won’t talk to them, I’ll mind my own business and live my life by going to work, school, paying my bills, cooking, travelling, praying, helping and working out.

RedInnocent69 · Accepted Answer

Easily accessible and frequent sex

Caroline91 · Accepted Answer

I think there is a lot in it for both men and women. But you have to be careful about who you choose to marry. And it takes two people who are willing to make a total, ride or die commitment. I think most people aren't willing to make that kind of commitment any more and sometimes, when things are really tough, that's the only thing that's going to carry you through to the other side together.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

Marriage was made by men for men. Basically they get a slave and get a easier life. Tons of benefits for the man. Wealthier and healthier yet the opposite is true for women and not any benefits unless you marry a good guys. Which is incredibly rare.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Not a thing.
As far as men go, only morons and masochists are still marrying.
The courts are never going to change, so there’s no point.
What a lot of guys seem to overlook is how many states have started enforcing common law marriage again. As in live with someone long enough, vows or none, and they are still entitled to everything you own and half your income for the rest of your life. Only for the boys though. It’s literally never been used against a woman in the US.
Couple that with dad by default laws and any woman can pretty much pick a provider for herself and her kids just like shopping out of a catalog. And the laws support her every step of the way.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

In family law courts in Florida, men get treated fairly. There are still more decisions which are favorable to women, but that is because too many men do not want to accept the responsibility of being a single parent.

Are you asking why would a man want a LTR with a woman, or are you asking why should he get married instead of just living together indefinitely?

Finchie40 · Answer

Not much really, unless he is with a damn good girl that treats him right , if she eventually treats him like shit? Then he will kick himself in the ass for trusting that bitch

Avicenna · Answer

Commitment from a woman worth marrying

overlord337645 · Answer

I think you really are steryotyping men and truth is some men are genuinely kind and nice people so I will be blunt here. Men are not better or worse than women the only difference is if a woman is abused by a man everyone feels sympathy and if a man is abused by a woman he is expected to buck up simply because he is the stronger one and I think it leads to quite a big problem when it comes to court issues because women are seen as weaker physically and more easily abused causing this uneven power dynamic where on one hand its possible a man could abuse a women but if a women abuses a man either the man fight back and is considered the abuser or he dosent do anything and then everyone is kinda like please that girl wouldent hurt you you are stronger than her and could easily overpower her. (this is not to put down women in any way by the way I just wanted us all to realize that women are significantly more powerful when it comes to saying things and men are more powerful strength wise and when you reverse those society stereotypes it so women are able to get both)

MisterWack · Answer

If you marry for true love, to have a family, and for someone who cares deeply about you as you do for that individual then it is a win.

You shouldn’t be rushing into things, make sure she/he are perfect for you and make sure you get to know the full extent of their personalities, hobbies, dreams, aspirations, intimate desires, companionship, how they carry a conversation, etc. all before popping the question / having them pop the question on you.

Literally, if you know in your heart they will make you happy then go for it.

Also you don’t have to get married, no one is forcing you. If you find a partner who is happy not being ‘legally’ married though instead just boyfriend / girlfriend for the rest of your life then good on you with that one. Best of luck to you and or you both. Cheers.

SotiCoto · Answer

No. But then men are no strangers to hardship. Men are taught as standard that things being tough and going through hard times are simply necessary parts of life. Sometimes you just don't know if something is going to be good or bad until you try it...

You wanna know what is in it? Well, not marriage specifically but a formal partnership at least. Having a second opinion on everything. THAT is what is important. An alternate perspective. Many things are easier with two heads than one, four hands than two, etc. That is the dream.

And frankly I wish the marriage I had many years ago had stuck. It couldn't though... because of geography. But that is a personal matter of no particular relevance here.

genericname85 · Answer

nothing. the institution of marriage was made up to benefit women in the first place. not men. because women are typically stuck with the results of a pregnancy while men can just run. in a time where men were predominantly the bread winners and women litterally couldn't survive alone economically, this was the only way to make it fair. in modern times it's hugely unfair to men cause most of the unfair disadvantages women had don't exist anymore. but the unfair disadvantages marriage offers to men have not been reduced at all.

the only way a man may benefit from a marriage is if he were to marry a rich woman without a prenup. in all other cases, men lose.

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

I'm so tired of the whole all men are evil trope. I'm sick of being labeled a pig , a potential rapist, a bad father, cheating. Women do bad things too. They do all the same things they say men do. Women have raped , molested children, are bad mothers, cheat , steal , lie, kill. Neither one of us are blameless but placing all the blame on men is just sexist and ignorant. it needs to end. I'm all for equality for women but it doesn't mean women are all victims or only bad because men make them do bad things. There are good fathers, there are men who would never and have never raped or molested anyone. There's plenty of good men out there and a lot of bad women too. If women are so innocent and victimized by men why are there female prisons? omen are just as bad as men and will never admit it. They will always blame men for their own thoughts and actions that lead them to be bad people..

Shiprex · Answer

It's not really fair these days because men don't get to decide about birth choices. Pregnancy takes all the choices away while women are still able to choose whether or not they keep or enforce a pregnancy on a man.

Then there's the alimony and all that but these days less is important because women should be able to earn a living themselves BUT often if they are married to very successful men they can easily get a pretty sizeable payoff lifestyle from divorce after doing the same "work" as a housewife who isn't married to a successful man. That kind of BS should be limited if they had no actual engagement with the wealth creating.

bolverk · Answer

If you want a serious insight why Men are avoiding marriage then you read this, but going in you should know that the biggest reason that Men are avoiding marriage is that ‘Family’ Courts are massively biased against Men with custody of any children automatically going to the Mother or one of here Female relatives, before the Father is even considered;

Men on Strike- Why Men Are Boycotting Marriage, Fatherhood, and the American Dream - and Why It Matters by Helen Smith

https://skmclasses.wordpress.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/04/smith_helen_-_men_on_strike.pdf

Surely · Answer

Not much for the man. I know of two guys that had to raise the product of their wife’s cheating. Then she claimed that she was raped by her soon to be ex. This was before DNA.

ThatCanucker · Answer

From what I have seen there is almost nothing in marriage for men and It comes with a huge amount of risk. I have seen men around me brought to near financial ruin because of an extremely biased family and divorce courts. In Canada you don't even need to get married for this to happen. Common law partnerships can land you in the same predicament

exitseven · Answer

It is a partnership and not something you enter into without any forethought. it is hard to find a good partner and I believe that there is not somebody out there for everyone. Some people just should not get married. That includes women as well.

Yes, the courts are created by women for women bit there are still many advantages to having somebody that has your back.

ilistengood · Answer

I don't know for sure, i have a friend who was accused of child abuse by fis 14 year old daughter supposedly he'd beat her up ( for no reason) locked her in her roo. m. the guy had a good lawyer , even the wife called it a load of crap , but terri said when his turn came the court suddenly seemed different. He knew what ever he said the court had made its mind up. He was right.

avery58 · Answer

I would hope that they truly trust their partner, before taking the step to propose. And if they do, then it would be stability and creating a family of their own with the person they love.

Iron_Man · Answer

No we don’t in the courts the women always gets the favoritism. Thank you for your support for us Men 😔

molonski2 · Answer

My advice to any young man would be , please NEVER marry or live with , the entire system is against you , just don't test it.

DonaldDarko · Answer

There's nothing in it really. Divorce rape is about it.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Nothing really. All those "benefits" are just illusions to disguise it's risks and disadvantages. On paper, that's what they always say but on practice, it's just money.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Marriage in a healthy relationship is the best outcome for both partners. It’s work and isn’t all sunshine. But both people are better off married than not.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Idc about what they say, marriage to me is sacred, i'll only marry a girl who have the same beliefs as mine...

msc545 · Answer

Nothing is in it for a men at all except for financial ruin, and loss of their children and home and property and a chronic headache for a very long time afterward.

WhitneySnow · Answer

I think men are treated fairly in court, but I’m no expert

slatyb · Answer

Sometimes they do, sometimes not, like courts everywhere.

SuperZonicGUY1992 · Answer

I noticed that no matter how hard we try we get attacked all the time.

Godihateyou · Answer

Children, homelessness and poverty. Thats why American men are going to east Europe and Asia to marry.

blackeagle007 · Answer

When in, Trojan condoms are your best friend

standardguy · Answer

Depends on the country. In western countries I doubt that.

Hussar · Answer

Divorce stats are skewed by a small segment of the population. Demographic breakdowns are very favorable for some

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Nothing we do it for the woman cause they love them

fivebyfour · Answer

Not much usually,,,

WonderingManII · Answer

Do men get a fair deal in family courts? no

MasterKS · Answer

certificate for free sex.

Vegasrunner · Answer

Absolutely nothing.

wkhan_87 · Answer

You are absolutely right

XRatedTexter · Answer

trap just legal friends with benefits

Charliefretz329 · Answer

No benefit for men

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