What do men get out of a marriage?

Question

What is the point of marriage? You can create a life as a couple without ever being married. The court system highly favors women. Men have little to gain and everything to lose.

serious_miss419 · Accepted Answer

Man and woman used to marry - man works and provides humbly, woman tends to the chores and kids. Over the years men work and abuse their wives and the women have been not tolerating the abuse. There’s an unspoken rule that a wife is to hush and put up with it because he’s a provider. However women have more pride than that and won’t tolerate it and in the long run it makes the kids of that marriage because awful humans; addiction, abusers, dropping out of school, under achievers per say.
Woman stood up for their selves and for their kids and men are pissed and aren’t taking any of their own accountability.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

Not all woman are bad. But if you go purely by status and appearance, your odds of finding a good woman will be lower than somebody who doesn't demand a certain Hollywood look or pay grade in who they date. It's just like when women say they only date rich men and then most of the rich men who ask them out are mean and selfish, they chose to isolate their variable by a high degree so that few men matched their standards and they did not feel confident in waiting for a nice guy who met their standards and its also possible they would never find him no matter how long they waited.

LiamJHayden · Accepted Answer

I suppose people can have what you describe, but why would a woman give up her career to have and raise children for a couple of decades without a guaranty? As an unmarried, if the house is purchased in your name she would not have any ownership rights even after pouring years and years into taking care of it for the guy. Twenty years down the road after the child (ren) are out if they live in one of the thirty states that does not recognize common law marriage he can boot her out with no alimony and no career. So while marriage might be a bad idea for the guy, your idea might be a life disaster for the lady.

tzdc21 · Accepted Answer

It's funny how a lot of women on here are responding. They guy pointed out how flawed the marriage laws are against men and a lot of you women on here shame the guy who posted this question, tried to justify why the laws are unfair, or just straight up disregard the issue all together. Not all of you do that, but many of you on here do.

Caroline91 · Answer

So many of the comments on this question make me feel sad. Traditionally, marriage does protect a woman and the children she has with the man she is married to. My husband wants to provide that to me because he loves me. What does he get out of it? Children he adores and a woman who feels secure enough in my relationship with him that I am not only willing, but very, very joyful to make his life as happy and stress free as I possibly can. I respect him not only for what he does for me and our children, but for the man he is, day in and day out. I don't fight with him, I discuss things. Does it get heated sometimes? Yes, but never disrespectful or hateful. I have put great effort into creating a warm, restful, loving home environment away from all the outside stresses. It's his refuge from the world. I am his refuge from the world. I do not demand that he function as one of my women friends might. He's a man. I LOVE his masculinity. I have female relatives and friends for when I need that kind of energy. I strive to meet him where he is and to speak to him in HIS love language, which is physical touch. I don't tell him he shouldn't need or want something just because, as a female, I don't necessarily understand why it's so important to him. When he needs space to gather himself as a man, I give him space without nagging. He'll be back when he's grounded again. I'm GLAD he wants lots of touching and, yes, lots of sex with me. I love him and, because I do, I want lots of sex with him, too. When he is happy, I share in that happiness. When I see he is feeling low or sad or angry, I've got his back. I've ALWAYS got his back. And I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that, if it came down to it, he would give his very life for me and for our children. I love this man with everything I am and I will follow him to the ends of the earth if that's what he needs me to do. So, for those of you who think there is nothing worthwhile in marriage -- live your own truth. No judgment from me. But, together, as a married couple, my husband and I know exactly what we have and it's the only way that we want to live our lives. Peace out.

Somoneelse · Answer

Besides all the negativity and materalism. What would men get out of a marriage? Eternal bond with your loved one. She is truly yours and you are truly hers (not as possession). Your marriage and rings will symbolise the eternal bond "till death does us part".

Yes in some places men are in a disadvantage when it comes to divorce and you hear a lot of (mostly whining) men who say his ex-wife took al his money and stuff after the divorce. But if you already have the mindset that this will happen. Why bother marrying at all?

I also do agree that you don't need to be married at all. I believe that marriage is just a piece of paper to "declare" your love. While you can love eachother the same without getting married within the system. Which I also hear some people do, being onofficially married, without the official Bullshit within the system and that piece of paper.

GuyAnswersGirls123 · Answer

We don't have alimony/spousal support here in Japan and child support is often settled privately without involving the legal system.

Here we mainly do it to do what's best to bring together families and communities and ultimately what's best for children. It's not a, "What's in it for me?" mindset (otherwise I definitely would have favored being a bachelor; life was easier and carefree that way), it's more an ethical mindset.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Men like you will probably always fail because of your weak attitude. Winners will always rise to the top, but losers will always bitch and moan and blame everyone else for the problems they created themselves. Your call.

Haraklus · Answer

I married my wife because I wanted to give her the security that comes with marriage. That's really it. It wasn't so that I could get something (other than maybe some mild tax benefits, I guess), but so that I could give something.

My wife largely has a similar attitude in our relationship as a whole, so it works out for me. But marriage itself was something that I gave her, not something that I gained from.

SolitarySolace · Answer

A temporary companion.
Loss of peace, quiet and happiness.
Loss of money he would still have if remained unmarried.
Nothing good honestly but hey least he is SUPPOSED to have someone to fuck every night. Supposed to have someone who cooks for him and cleans while he busts his ass at work for money he can’t even use.

genericname85 · Answer

nothing. marriage wasn't invented for men. it was invented for women. because historically and biologically women are more fucked if they are separated from the man after having a child. cause usually they are stuck with the child and they are the ones who took the hit to their career in order to give birth and nurture the child. that's why marriage exists. to prevent women from getting fucked over.

Quigly · Answer

The point is stability for a child.

It's a statement that says the relationship is not just about exploiting another person. That there is at least some sincerity in the relationship.

It's about making mutual financial decisions like buying a house where both individuals have skin in the game.

Anonymous · Answer

Especially with what a modern marriage entails. The only thing you’re actually getting is statistically the one thing you’re most likely to lose. A lifelong partner. Financially any incentives are more likely to be spent or given to your partner, so unless you really want kids, a situationship is probably your best bet.

madewithingredients · Answer

common-law marriage: not legally married, but in any domain that matters you basically have the same rights as a married couple. married but separated: not divorced, but basically are divorced.

SarahS98 · Answer

A family and permanent bonding with the right woman. It's not my fault you either chose wrong or come from a negative background. Overgeneralizing a whole gender doesn't do any good.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the kind of woman that you marry. If you marry a leftist, feminist, you're in for a short nightmare of a marriage, where she divorces you, takes everything you have, destroys your family, and your reputation.

If you marry a good woman, you will have a partner who stands next to you, and will always have your back while you build a family with her. Someone to grow old with. Unfortunately good women are hard to find.

slatyb · Answer

You should not get married. You are asking the wrong question. The correct question is "What advantages do couples gain from marrying?"

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

If you don’t want to get married, then don’t. If you want to write a philosophical paper about why marriage has lost all meaning, do it.

Lynx122 · Answer

In the west nothing tbh. There are countries that are more traditional where marriage still has a meaning.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Men only have a lot to lose if they marry the wrong woman, otherwise marriage is great!

silyt_ghoest · Answer

Taxes? Citizenship ig? I don't know, why are you planning divorce already?

Peridot25 · Answer

Oh boy. Here we go with this shit again 🙄 If you don’t want to get married, fine. Just make your intentions clear if you decide to start a relationship with someone.

Hansomedevil69 · Answer

Absolutely nothing, in fact it’s the opposite. You give everything up including respect.

Apple1996 · Answer

Better health and wealth compared to single men

desidoll · Answer

Any marriages suck if you get with the wrong person, be it men or women.

steveusna · Answer

Zero. Nada. I have successfully avoided marriage all of my life. I smile and laugh at these poor guys who got conned by women and married.

Billlewis · Answer

An opportunity to serve the superior female.

Anonymous · Answer

The point of marriage is kids. It's the best set up for raising successful kids. If you don't want kids then I'd agree--no point in marriage. But if you plan to have them, then you're best off getting married.

MrDaveAPSI · Answer

That's my point. YOU DO NOT NEED TO BE MARRIED, TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP The state should NOT HAVE A SAY IN WHETHER YOU'RE IN A RELATIONSHIP OR NOT

NewgodOmega · Answer

Nothing they just lose their everything to a women

Rangers · Answer

Sex for the first couple of years, but then it all goes away once she inevitably divorces him

Unit1 · Answer

I've been wondering that myself. Marriage is for the women.

Anonymous · Answer

Men get a kick in the balls in marriage. A female who reads this will be like yup, that's true we tend to do that.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Assuming they get a good wife, they get love, affection, steady sex, support and a family unit.

Shy_Steve · Answer

Sex, Some Financial and Emotional Support and Maybe some Status, That's about it.

Anonymous · Answer

You need to get therapy. you have issues and are bitter

laly520 · Answer

simple then don't get married

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

He answered "you" <3

WhitneySnow · Answer

Love romance adventure and excitement

Anonymous · Answer

An empty wallet and full...

OtterMan68 · Answer

lifelong companionship with a soul mate

handsomelad70 · Answer

Companionship and steady sex.

ethansf · Answer

Agreed. I got burned bad after a 17 year marriage.

whistlingwh0res · Answer

Nothing but divorce paper and bankruptcy

patois · Answer

A divorce.

Miristheiss · Answer

children.

JayBones · Answer

Absolutely nothing.

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