Why do people have side pieces?

[Anonymous]

My husband is my rock. He is the only I trust to be there when I need someone the most. He is the one who I chose to build a life with, we own a business together, built an empire together, built a family together. When I get sick, I can trust him to be there for me.

That's why I would never leave my husband for a side piece. I might use you for your hot body, good looks and amazing sex. Maybe enjoy a nice stroll at the park with you or a amazing night in the bedroom but that is all you're good enough for. You will never be there for me when I need it the most. I'm not losing the empire nor property that I have built with my husband.

This is why you should build enough of a self esteem to stop choosing to go after married women and rather go for a woman who is willing to dedicate her entire life to you. There is no pride to being a second lover to a married person.

[Purpleronnie]

I kinda feel like you’ve in part answered your own question.


“ I might use you for your hot body, good looks and amazing sex. Maybe enjoy a nice stroll at the park with you or a amazing night in the bedroom but that is all you're good enough for “

People have side pieces for a variety of reasons and this is not a new phenomenon. Some couples may encourage it or turn a blind eye where the union of a couple is a front , some people may have a need for self gratification higher than the intimacy available in their relationship. Some may never be fulfilled by a monogamous relationship because of childhood trauma. Some people haven’t learned to control their animal like urges or think thy can have their cake and eat it. Some constantly believe they should and can just do what thy want and screw the consequences forcing any problems down the line. Some have a midlife crisis / mental breakdown , and decide they mis spent their youth and now wanna catch up.

[ProbablyClueless]

I think it's probably the excitement factor. People have their partner, who is their emotional rock, but then they treat the side piece as a recreational thing on the side. Using the person for their hot body, like you were saying.

I always thought side pieces sounded like too much work, but I guess some people find it worth the effort.

[jazzy34]

" I might use you for your hot body, good looks and amazing sex. Maybe enjoy a nice stroll at the park with you or a amazing night in the bedroom but that is all you're good enough for."

And you have the AUDACITY to judge others? Girl, bye. LOL. Thanks for the laugh.

[avery58]

I don't understand. You said you would never have a side piece but then you said you would have another guy but only use him for sex, in other words, a side piece? Make up your mind woman.

[Finchie40]

Because people can be selfish and only think about what is best for themselves, so you are a selfish person if you cheat on your husband and then go back to him like nothing happened

[mysteriousNicholas]

@Finchie40 people can be very selfish - 😭 but it is human nature, lol and the animal kingdom is far worse in the jungles 🏞️😃

[Asker]

ok, so why do u mass murder animals and eat them, then say its tasty? cuz ur not selfish? haha

[Finchie40]

Because animals were put on Earth from God to be our resources , why we eat animals 😊

[Finchie40]

The truth is you don’t really love your husband , cuz if you truly loved him , you wouldn’t be cheating on him period. You just like what you can receive from your husband , unfortunately you are a user , not a lover , users are selfish people that only love themselves and pretend to love someone else to gain benefits from that person. They want their cake and want to eat it to. So if your husband ever finds out you are cheating on him , don’t be surprised when he kicks your ass to the curb where you belong.

[heruncommonsense]

So why is it acceptable for males to cheat on women?

[mysteriousNicholas]

I just want a Big Mac 🍔🍟 and not to feel guilty. Anyways each to their own let's all be polite cya cya I can't see most commenters nowadays as I block many , peace for all

[Finchie40]

Who said it’s acceptable for males’ to cheat on females’ ? That’s not acceptable at all, whoever Told you that is a complete moron. Not every guy cheats , I don’t cheat on a girl that gives me her heart and trust and honesty and loyalty whatsoever. I don’t get into relationships to be single whatsoever, if I wanted to run around and stick my dick into multiple women , then I would stay single and be a whore , but again that’s not who I am. Cheating is a big No in my book

[heruncommonsense]

But males say that "Men are biologically wired to cheat" as an excuse. I've never seen a woman do this, and if she did, other women would disagree with her.
Males themselves say "Men are simple creatures who only want food and sex" so how could a qoman trust a male? The only reason why I'm a virgin is because I know that males are untrustworthy

[Finchie40]

A good man isn’t going to cheat on a girl that is good to him , if he does, he is a POS , when I am in a relationship with a girl , she is my top priority and hopefully I am hers , if I am not , then our relationship isn’t going to last whatsoever, but when I am with a girl that loves me and is respectful to me , and loyal to me , I will do the same for her , the problem females’ run into is the fact that she doesn’t look at intimacy and affection as Love like men do us men aren’t going to get into a relationship with a girl to be single , we get into a relationship because we want her the same way we want her to want us , usually in the beginning of a relationship , intimacy and affection isn’t an issue whatsoever between them , but as time goes on it can become an issue , and it’s mainly because she doesn’t want intimacy and affection like she used to , and that’s when guys’ feel she no longer values him or appreciates him or loves him , when all of a sudden intimacy and affection isn’t that important to her anymore , so she puts that wall up with him, not realizing she is digging her own grave , because when a guy feel unappreciated or disrespected or unloved in the relationship then he might look elsewhere to feel loved and wanted again , and that’s where cheating an affairs come into play as well as break ups and divorce , Those things more than likely wouldn’t come into to play if she didn’t neglect his wants and desires with her. When a girl constantly makes excuses to her partner that she isn’t in the mood and constantly turns him down and rejects him , she isn’t pushing him away and if he communicates with her and expresses his feelings of concern to her and nothing changes for the better , then he will probably cheat or leave her for someone else that isn’t pushing him away or rejecting him. If you put yourself in his shoes , Do you blame him? Because my ass walks the other way from a girl that all of a sudden doesn’t want to be close to me

[heruncommonsense]

Males make sex excruciating on purpose. Of course women withdraw from sex. It's one of the reasons I'm not going to lose my virginity in the first place.
Yes, I absolutely blame males for cheating, which you admit that you all do.
The double standard is insane. When a woman cheats, you never consider that her partner isn't getting her off.

[Finchie40]

So it’s ok for her to cheat if she isn’t satisfied?

[heruncommonsense]

... dude, YOU'RE the one justifying cheating.
But if males are simple creatures who only want food and sex, why do you mind being cheated on? Being cheated on doesn't deprive you of food or sex...

[Finchie40]

Because it’s dirty and could lead to STD’s and put your partner at risk for STD’s if you have sex with other people , so it’s disrespectful period

[heruncommonsense]

... but STD's don't stop you from eating or getting laid.
And you males admit that you'll all cheat if you can

[Finchie40]

Not all of us , that’s like saying every girl cheats as well

[heruncommonsense]

No it isn't. Women and males are not the same.
I never see a woman claiming that cheating is okay because it's natural. Only males.

[Anonymous]

You are just looking for displacing responsibility for your mistakes on someone else. I don't think someone stood with glock on your head and demanded you have to cheat on your husband, you did it because you wanted to.
At least you aren't on of those weirdos who cheat than displace responsibility on their husband and demand he should man up and accept that like a man. If he acts like a man and kicks her butt she complains he is a monster or an immature weakling
If you did a mistake and you cheated, then take it the responsibility and don't create some weird ideologies just to avoid any discussion about the elephant in the room. You man might or might not forgive you, but if you act like a stupid but cunning 13yo. girl he will very likely dump you.

[IWILLRIPYOURSOUL_OUT]

The same old same old can be tiresome causing boredom
Attention eventually goes somewhere else
For example reasons for cheating might be
if they're partner doesn't do certain things
like sexual acts
of kinky interests
or their partner is off away at work
Last but not least, I suppose...
They might just be doing it because their relationship is either to stressful, simple, or shallow
The routine becomes too predictable
Even though not separated
The liveliness to their relationship has died down
Spending too much time together is sickening or
Not enough time which must've seemed hopeless at a point
Not to mention perhaps one of them feels lack of moral support
If being mistreated or unappreciated
Making them feel lonely and desperate for comfort or relief

[Joshydavid25]

"That's why I would never leave my husband for a side piece. I might use you for your hot body, good looks and amazing sex. Maybe enjoy a nice stroll at the park with you or a amazing night in the bedroom but that is all you're good enough for. You will never be there for me when I need it the most."

Soooo, you answered your own question then.. Lmao..

[Anonymous]

The fact that you're admitting having a lover outside of your husband tells me all i need about you.. you're a cheater. People like you aren't human. You exist without empathy, without a soul. The world would be a better place without people like you in it.

[Asker]

it doesn't really bother my husband because he knows i will never leave him

[Opinion Owner]

Irrelevant. It makes you disgusting.

[Unycorn]

Because of a bad character.

Once gone over the bridge then no more a moral wall...

I do not trust people who did it once in life. I dont judge but it is for me an important criteria to say "no thanks, good luck "

[Anonymous]

That depends on different people. I used to hookup with my coworker, who was married that time. It was just about sex and nothing more. After a long work day, just a short session before leaving.

And that's when I found out, even the married coworkers, who I used to think as the purest and most innocent in office did it. She told me, most women don't like to have a dull sex life. They want something exciting and something more, which is difficult to get from husband.

[Dargil]

Some men do that because their sexual menu with their wives is restricted for some reason and the feel they need something she does not provide. This is not a justification. Only an explanation.

[dwreborn]

I think a lot of the time its the rush of sneaking around because usually once they get caught that excitement goes away and they have to try to find the thrill in different part of there affair

[Nikki1989]

You make it sound like a bad thing.

[Asker]

enjoy the benefits of singlehood while being married

[Staximus]

The cheater is the one who keeps looking for perfect and won't settle for good enough. You make it sound like the side piece is the lowlife when the cheater is much worse

[Asker]

I have already settled for good enough. I'm just looking for diverse experiences and to have fun.
I'm not looking for someone else other than my spouse. The people I cheat with rotate over the years

[mysteriousNicholas]

For the same reason men go out with wingmen out to the club's or out to town at night - a wingman 🍗 😁✌️😅

[lilyanony1]

No idea. I find it to be too much work. It's not something I'm particularly interested in

[slatyb]

My wife is a queen. Her side pieces are the king and the bishop.

[fivebyfour]

Nice, I was in a cuck relationship back in the day, I loved my girl having side pieces,,,

[slatyb]

@fivebyfour That was reference to the chess board, where the queen starts between the king and bishop.

[Eleni6_]

Cause society says it's okay, I guess. On Reddit, their community. But they get met, it happens to them.

[RedInnocent69]

Well said. Likewise, girls shouldn’t be worried about their partners running off with randos, even if they do like to ness around with them occasionally

[DrPepper12]

Cuz ilicit, forbidden, ego driven, furtive sex is fun?

[msc545]

For women, this statement is really what it is all about: "I'm not losing the empire nor property that I have built with my husband."

[Anonymous]

Yeah, no.

[MasterKS]

when second lover gets more than first, the real game on.

[Asker]

the second lover is just there to entertain. I can trade you in any time for anyone.

[robocop666]

People want a side piece when they hate their partner and are stuck in an unhappy marriage.

[exitseven]

What does your husband think about this?

[Anonymous]

He deserves better than you.

[beefcakebradybatson]

More wang or poontang !!!

[Anonymous]

Slut!

[Asker]

nobody knows. so it does not matter

[spartan55]

People know, you aren't as sneaky and smart as you think.

[Anonymous]

I agree