Do you want a wedding?

[Anonymous]

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I do but after being a wedding photographer for a number of years, I realized I don't want it to be overly extravagant. I want to do something fun and maybe even relatively cheap.

I was watching the 16mm film of my grandparents wedding and it is so much more rewatchable even with no sound than any video I've seen made in the last 20 years.

I think I'll take the 10 grand I would have spend on photo/video, find some kid who's starting out and give them 5k, tell them what to buy and to shoot it like a home video. Would probably come out ten times batter

[Staximus]

I never heard of anybody spending $10,000 on a wedding photographer. That's like some Hollywood shit

[Telekinetic-Potato]

@Staximus it's not uncommon at all. Some people still spend 5k just on the book/ prints I used to work with a guy who did a package deal that was 15k for photo and video and I'm pretty sure that didn't include the book.

It's a very lucrative industry if you can stand dealing with the clients. And you don't need to be very good at photography to make a living. Though most of the super expensive guys you're paying for the fact they've probably shot a million times at the venue you're going to. They know exactly what jokes to crack and when and how to pose for every crack and corner in the space etc. I knew a guy who would make you pick hairstyles from a book before even agreeing to take the job and the bride and groom were contractually obligated to do everything exactly how he planned out for them or else the whole job is off and I guess he just hands the camera off to his assistant or something 😂 but that guy was charging telephone numbers.

[HawkPerception]

I do. I'm a weird dude who's imagined a dream wedding, with all my loved ones, creating memories that will last a lifetime since I was young. All I can do is hope I find love that'll let me live out that dream

[DishLady]

I had a wedding — a big fat glorious wedding. But weddings don’t matter. People matter. Think more about life and less about the goofy party.

[mrshooiser]

I got married at a courthouse. Weddings are to expensive.

[OlderAndWiser]

I got married on April 27, 2024 in my church. Most people would say it was a large wedding: men in morning coats, my bride in an elaborate dress handmade in China, 150 guests, string quartet, church choir singing, church beautifully decorated, reception at the country club, full meal and six-piece band, honeymoon on Hilton Head Island. I don't regret one moment of it.

[jennifer_bloom]

I do not want a wedding. I think it is wrong to have a $30,000 party to celebrate me and only me. I just want court documents saying we married and then have that be the entire ceremony.

[AviatorTom]

I've had two of them. I don't want a third.

[Ava-ryday]

as a teenage girl. if i am being honest even the concept of marriage scares me. imagine giving your life away to one guy. though i know there is more to a marriage then just that. and even that is fine but how can you trust one guy with all that. how can u hand him over such a big and fragile part of you what if he just drops and breaks it. or takes it recklessly.
now dont come after me i do know true love and happy marriages do exist. and maybe my opinion would prolly change as i grow up but for now this is just me.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Yes and no.
I don’t want a wedding in the sense that I want to be legally bound to another person for supposedly the rest of my life in a way that can only be undone by more legal paperwork, especially if it’s a binding contract that requires me to have sex when I don’t want to.
I do want a wedding in that I want a party that celebrates me and my choices for my future as well as my loved ones, and I get to wear a beautiful dress that no one else can match.

[OlderAndWiser]

"especially if it’s a binding contract that requires me to have sex when I don’t want to" Where did you get the idea that being married contractually requires you to have sex?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Straight people, which I am not

[OlderAndWiser]

Believe whatever you want to believe, but marriage does not require you to participate in sexual behavior if you don't consent. That's the law.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Sure, now. Wasn’t marital rape legal until like the 2000’s?

[OlderAndWiser]

That law began changing in the 1970's and the first conviction for marital rape was in Florida in 1984. But our conversation is about now, not the past. Getting married NOW doesn't mean a guy will hit you in the head with his club and then drag you into his cave. You are making a juvenile argument.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Why are you getting so mad about it? It’s not like I’m saying you’re specifically doing any of this, and again I am NOT straight. I have no desire to get married as an asexual woman

[OlderAndWiser]

You made a ridiculous claim that being married contractually requires a person to submit to sex whenever the partner wants it, and stupid statements like that always irritate me, especially when said with feigned certitude.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Speaking as someone that doesn’t want to have sex ever, the expectation of sex exists in every romantic relationship, so yeah. That’s where my certitude comes from. Chill.

[OlderAndWiser]

Of course, most people want sex within a committed relationship. That is what normal people do. If you don't ever want to have sex, that is your right, and everyone should respect that. . . but don't expect anyone to want to marry you if you are honest with them.

And, of course, an "expectation" of having sex is FAR different from a contractual obligation, isn't it? I don't expect you to admit that you engaged in a gross exaggeration (actually, a lie,) but that is exactly what you did.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

My man, if you read the original post, I think it’s pretty clear why I DO NOT want to get married.

[OlderAndWiser]

My mistake. When you explained why you want a wedding, I thought that meant that you want to get married.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

All of this, this whole convo, could have been avoided if you didn’t take offense to me not enjoying sex.

[Anonymous]

Not at all, but I know I will probably have to have one. I want to be married, but I have anything but interest in the ceremony. However, sacrifice is important in marriage. My partner will get the vast majority of what she wants for that day.

[EmmaMary]

Very happily married for the past seven years... Thank you.

[Iron_Man]

How was the wedding?

[EmmaMary]

@Iron_Man
Next to giving birth to our two children, it was the most wonderful, magical, romantic day of my entire life.

[Iron_Man]

Awesome congratulations

[Hulk30]

Hell! No my question is why the Hell are ya considerin 1 when Committed Relationship's are no different than Marriage's the difference is our Government involve's Contract's when we do that and when we do that we're definitely workin against each other by default why would i be so Dumb and irresponsible to Legally Marry a Woman knowin Damn! well this is how Legal Marriage would actually impact us

[capriVib]

I’m not throwing a wedding for relatives I only see once in a blue moon.

[Apulu_backagain]

I'm not sure if I'll ever have a partner but if I do I'll have a big dramatic Bollywood style wedding. I'm a minimalist person but I want to go full on for my wedding.

[Hussar]

I do believe that I'm spiritually obligated to have a wedding if I ever get married but I would just be satisfied with a priest doing the ceremony with maybe a few close family members and friends

[jenna815]

Lol the older I get the less adamant I am about that... city hall works for me

[HighValue]

No. I'm not signing a contract that allows someone to abuse and steal from me. No need to be married when you can still live together and have an exclusive LTR without marriage.

[Purpleronnie]

100% honesty? .. yes for the legal union to my wonderful lady together for 14 years this year but for every other aspect of it … NO !

[Unycorn]

Yes. Sure. But only with the right person. Only once in my life

[Nikki1989]

I crossed that bridge many moons ago.

[Miristheiss]

I am married.

I wanted to be married.

The "WEDDING" wasn't the goal.

[Shiprex]

I didn't want one so got hooked on a surprise hiking wedding.

[CountryWanderer]

My wife and I had a church wedding

[Anonymous]

Fuck no. I don't want kids, why do I want to get married? LOL

[MikeTheBartender]

Whatever the babe wants. But if she wants a big wedding we may not be getting married

[Alex-Snow]

When the time is right and I'm in love and ready to get married then... yes

[msc545]

Hell no. I don't even want a marriage. I'm not suicidal.

[chechememe95]

No. I simply wanted to get engaged to show public commitment and he isn’t even willing to do that.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but it's probably not going to happen in this life.

[leva543]

We are doing everything couple does day and night so maybe sometime later

[exitseven]

I already had one.

[Zionne]

yessss but intimate wedding only

[queenofcardio]

Yes. Something small. 20 people or less

[Subgurl]

That’s called a micro wedding. They have been gaining in popularity for the past decade

[RubyRed12343]

Yeah, and a cake please.

[Iron_Man]

A Carvel ice cream cake

[BCRanger10]

Nope. I already had one 🙌

[RavVid]

No. It is not going to happen.

[MasterKS]

No, i dont believe in wedding culture.

[Chocolatetwopoint3]

nah, its really expensive

[beefcakebradybatson]

At SEVENTY-TWO? NO WAY, JOSE !!!

[Asker]

there's love out there for you ol timer

[beefcakebradybatson]

Especially because of my cover boy good looks.

[shortster]

Married, yes; ridiculous ceremony, nope.

[super_syd]

Yes of course. Who wouldn't want a wedding?

[jazzy34]

Yes I do. 😊

[ninks]

sometimes yes, but sometimes maybe not

[DrmChsr]

Yes ofc. I would want to show off my s/o

[Agape93]

Nope

[Clyde_123]

Yes..

[Anonymous]

What will you do

[Asker]

I like thr court house option and take an expensive honeymoon

[Asker]

I might just want a ring DAS IT!