What are your requirements for marriage?

Question

1. No previous divorces. (Display of judgement and commitment)
2. No children ( I’m not playing another man’s saved game)
3. No abortions (I won’t marry someone who believes it’s okay to kill my future child)

Quigly · Accepted Answer

I agree with your reasons entirely and just want to say something more about why Divorced girls are a no go area. Marriage is an act of prostitution. Marrying a guy for money is about having a kid. You are doing it for a reason, it's all about having a child. Many girls have a conscience about what Marriage actually is and don't really like the Institution. But, A guy needs to make money to support a child and I get that. You do what you gotta do if you want to have a kid. However, I also get that Marriage is a terrible institution the Government created and it doesn't really work out for many people. Divorces are going to happen, However, Guy #2 doesn't need to be a guy making a lot of money cause they aren't having a kid with guy number 2. if you look at the history of many of these divorced girls they are time and time again getting with guys for their money. This is turning Marriage into nothing more than Real Estate Prostitution. It's disgusting and usually doesn't work out anyway ending in another divorce. You are wasting your life.

I use to Work out in Vegas and all the Hotel managers will tell you the same thing. "Don't get with the whores, they are Just out to steal your wallet." They get guys into rooms in Vegas and two other guys break into the room with guns to rob you. These are words to live by.

Before I ended up in a wheelchair girls would hit on me regularly. I happen to know I am not a bad looking guy. Now I am around Divorced nurses all the time. At any time they wanted to, they could get with a guy less fortunate in life. If they believed in Love and sickness and health. They could be with a guy for a purpose. Instead, they walk past Guys for purpose time and time again to be with some guy for his Money. It has now become a joke among guys in wheelchairs to Hit on these nurses knowing they are going to walk away to choose prostitution. lol

If you're not getting with a guy for a purpose, You walk past opportunities to be with guys that are less fortunate in life time and time again. Then you are just a whore out to steal someone's wallet and you have no argument against your ex Husband even if he cheated on you. Cause it's very obvious who you are and that he did it for a good reason. It's sad you have no higher ambition in life to be something better than a whore.

It is what it is...

P. S. The fact is, if you are not out to have a kid or to be with someone less fortunate. Stay far away from Marriage.

slatyb · Accepted Answer

Good luck with that. At least you aren't demanding that she be a virgin. Even so, you are eliminating a large fraction of the women close to your age, and it will continue increasing as you age. I'm guessing you have never been married. Why not? Many women would consider that a bad sign in a man -- to have remained without a partner for ten years.

Bitter_Sweet94 · Accepted Answer

Mutual respect and emotional safety.

Someone who communicates clearly, takes responsibility for their actions, and can handle conflict without shutting down, exploding, or keeping score.

Shared values matter more than shared hobbies.

Alignment on integrity, boundaries, finances, and how we handle stress, growth, and change.

I value consistency over intensity.

Stability over chaos.

Effort that’s steady, not performative.

Physical attraction and chemistry matter, but they don’t sustain a marriage on their own.

I’m not looking for perfection.

I’m looking for partnership, where both people choose each other daily, not out of obligation, but clarity.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Accepted Answer

Lmao this is all a very specific way to say you want a teenage virgin

Summeroflove · Answer

Previous divorce. Depends on the situation…. Same with children. Abortion I'm with you.

One rule is cheating. Someone cheats I’m gone…: and if someone has a history of cheating on and with other people. I know I’m next…

If she’s entitled or has a resentment against men in general. I get people have bad past relationships… But I just refuse to deal with someone taking resentment on past people out on me despite the fact I haven’t done anything. Also entitled behavior is no. If she feels entitled to stuff. I leave.

Too long or too short. If I’ve been with someone YEARS and there’s no talk of the future. Or other extreme she’s making wedding plans in six months. Red flags… For many reasons.

She has to have the same religious and political leanings as me. Or we won’t be compatible. Obviously she has to be emotionally supportive. And two sided. I’m open to trying different roles…. But at the end of the day. It can’t be one sided.

AviatorTom · Answer

Good luck finding a woman that satisfies all of those criteria.

My requirements for marriage are much simpler:
1. She must be female
2. She must not be married
3. She makes me happy
4. I make her happy

LifeHitMeandRan · Answer

Mine are simple, but not easy:

1. TRUE follower of Jesus Christ. This means a true follower, not someone who is in the club on Saturday and church on Sunday. This standard is the reason I'm not in a relationship yet. NOT because I haven't found such a woman, but because I need to meet this standard before I can expect it of her and I'm honest enough with myself to realize I am not yet fully the leader the Bible calls a man to be. I'm still working on it.

2. Conservative. This used to not matter to me so much, but the LEFT has become so unhinged and deliberately going against almost everything Jesus stands for.

3. Takes care of her health. She does NOT need to be a fitness model or have the "perfect" body. Rather, I want her to put deliberately effort into her health by exercising and eating right (again does NOT mean she NEVER eats junk). I hold myself to this standard. I want her to love herself as much as I will love her. Bonus (but not a big deal) if she and I can workout together sometimes.

4. NOT A FEMINIST! Actually knows how to act like a lady and lean into her feminine strengths instead of trying to pretend to be able to do everything a man can do. Yes, she can be bold and have confidence and be a badass. What I mean by not being a feminist is being one of those annoying insects who thinks a man is evil for being a man or trying to make men feel like trash.

Hagar88 · Answer

Im married now but at my age and your age the chances of finding a woman who's either unmarried or without children are pretty low. My requirements for marraige would be.

1. Loyalty. She can't have a history of cheating or cheat on another man to be with me.

2. A healthy weight. No fat chicks.

3. Pretty.

4. Has basic life skills such as cooking, cleaning, paying bills, saving, can work

5. Basic level of education

6. Mother material

7. Strong minded

8. Non feminist

9. Christian

10. Hard working

What are your requirements for marriage?

Miristheiss · Answer

I am married.

My requirements were that she was a Christian virgin, we have similar. Alues systems and goals for handling money, kids, faith, marriage and family.

A virtuous woman.

There are very, very, very few virtuous women.

We are replete with tons of tattooed, pierced, focused on drinking and partying, and promiscous, obsessed with hedonism and killing their children when their promiscuity has consequences, faithless, no morals, obsessed with divorce and selfishness women.

Sal_Monella · Answer

You do not have to be anonymous. Nobody is going to bite you for what you said. But many of us do not have to deal with the baggage that you described. Nonetheless, men MUST expect three things from any woman for the commitment they want. If these things do not come naturally to her. She is not good breeding stock and not good wife material She must be, at least:
Respectful
Loyal
Amenable

Better yet, she should be. Trustworthy, loyal, helpful, friendly, courteous, kind, obedient, cheerful, thrifty, brave, clean and reverent.

Anonymous · Answer

Fear not. No woman wants to marry you.

PS> Fetuses aren't persons, they're developing embryos. Let's say the embryo doesn't develop properly, and it has zero chance to survive because it has just a portion of a brain, a heartbeat, but no other vital organs. You live in a red state. They tell you that you must carry it to term, EVEN though your own life will be in danger, acknowledging the fetus will NEVER survive. Then you get deathly ill because you received no health care.

So, according to you, if that fetus is a person, it's now threatening your life and you have a right to defend yourself. An abortion is defending yourself, therefore, if as you say, that fetus is a "person" at conception.

When you deny health care to the women in that situation, you are thereby committing murder yourself if she dies. The fact you're all too stupid to understand this, is the same reason why you're Trump supporters.

jazzy34 · Answer

No criminal record  Hardworking. If you lose your job, please start looking for another one as soon as possible.  Please actually want children. Don’t tell me after I’m pregnant that you never wanted children (this played out between my parents and it’s  devastating ).

aceleon · Answer

1-no past with a male

2-no expectations

3-no responsiblity like chores.

4-no questioning me or my affairs (not the bad kind of affairs)

5- constant regular physical show of affection.

6- not having a business with money or materialistic stuff

7-no feminism.

888theGreat · Answer

No sexual diseases
Parents of her not divorced
Must believe in Jesus
Not a Liberal
Not a Nurse
Not a school teacher
No tats
Not a Smoker
No heavy perfumes
No Cats
Natural breasts
Not too fat
No Whips and chains

Anonymous · Answer

Oh wow. None of your points match with mine.

I don't marry someone who cheated. I don't want a lying partner.

Don't want a jobless partner.

Don't want a lazy partner.

Don't want an egoistist or sociopath.

Don't want a brutal partner.

Some kind of intelligence, creativity and sensitivity - if not - then it's not my partner 4 life.

Anonymous · Answer

1. no low IQ men

2. must have a college education

3. must be financially well off.

4. must be taller than me.

5. must have good character

6. can't always be looking for someone better than the last

7. must be loyal.

8. must be a hard worker.

9. must help with housework

RavVid · Answer

I like the phrase another man's saved game. First marriage is not happening because I reject the gov't contract. The only way to win is not to participate. My #1 is that she is genuinely nice.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Needs to either be a stay at home mom or have a career/hobby she's very good at.  Wants to have lots of kids.  High self esteem A little crazy

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

She must not have any sexually transmitted diseases, must have no criminal record, must be hardworking, and must be able to clean and cook, and she must also be loyal to me.

Anonymous · Answer

LMAO.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

The only requirement I have is that she doesn’t want to get married.

Chocolatetwopoint3 · Answer

Let me guess, u also want a virgin? And if i were to name all my requirements we’d be here for days.

Rangers · Answer

No cheating, no previous marriages and she has to know everything about me and accept it

Anonymous · Answer

I could list more what I won't accept than what I would.

queenofcardio · Answer

Ideally has no kids. Has a decent job.

itsannalee · Answer

If he has money, brain and dick is enough.

MrChinaski · Answer

Love. Rings. Legal compliance.

Mike_Hum · Answer

Those are good.

robocop666 · Answer

Good at blowjobs

Enginn · Answer

Less requirements

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