How do I handle family pressure to remarry when I’m done with romance?

[Anonymous]

I'm not getting married again or dealing with anymore romantic relationships and I have told my family this... All my sisters are married.. but it's a no.. I want to focus on my careers , traveling, and finish raising my kids out.. I poured into everyone all these years, but myself.. I'm being selfish with myself...

[bowenw]

Keep telling them in an assertive manner that you are never getting married and they should save their breath. They are free to live their lives how they want and you are living your life as you want.

[Asker]

I wish they would live their lives as me and the kids are relocating

[bowenw]

Are you moving away from them or close to them?

[Asker]

Away from them

[bowenw]

Hopefully that will mean they will pressure you less.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Tell them to find someone for you, and then find petty reasons to turn down every option. Eventually, they’ll stop asking

[Asker]

Lol sounds good 😊

[WhitneySnow]

Tell them that

[Asker]

I did they still keep mentioning a husband that'll never happen

[WhitneySnow]

Are you a widow or divorced?

[Asker]

I'm single by choice

[WhitneySnow]

Oh ok. That doesn’t really answer the question, but whatever. Anyway, you can’t really do much other than keep telling them you’re not interested in getting married again.

[Asker]

I'm single by choice which means I don't want a husband or a relationship with men

[WhitneySnow]

Right. But you said you were married before. Did your spouse die or did you get divorced?

[Asker]

We divorced as he cheated on me

[WhitneySnow]

I understand. All I can say is you should do what you want. Ignore your family. If you’re happier without a guy, that’s fine.

[Asker]

Yeah I am and I told my grandma that she wants me with a man so bad it a nope