Is my fear and anxiety normal, or is it time to leave my marriage?

[Anonymous]

Basically I just want to know if it is just fear and anxiety talking or something else telling me it's time to leave

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1 mo

Maybe it's insecurity but tbh I used to be very secure about myself till this one time my husband made me feel like he was doing me a favor and basically telling me he can find better sex wise, physically better and better in other ways so I asked him why did he decide to be with me if he thought like that and well when I remember that I don't feel bad for wanting to leave I don't need a pity party

[Anonymous]

I read all of it.
As a guy, it is something a lot of women are afraid of.
And even guys feels same in some ways.
Marriage is worse for women because of the same reason mentioned.
Not seeing future or anything,
All I would say is this is normal and your anxiety is rational.
If you get a job, your life is going to be a bit more stressful.
I would suggest to do some chill work which also pays just barely enough for yourself.
That will give you the sense of freedom of some sort and you won't have the feelings or not being good enough.
Or go to charity places, because a part,
I am a guy but till I was 22 I was feeling hopeless, worthless, and what not,
I even tried to end myself. But I got my first job, gave me the platform on which my family was proud of.
I am not a good student or a teacher, or anything. Hell I am so pesimestic myself that I scared everyone off,
But lately I have joined a charity in Birmingham for students. They host dinners and board games.
It just made me realise that life is hard in the wrong mind.
It's way easier if you have people around to talk hold you and kiss you (I don't get kisses cause I am guy who is still to pessimistic)
If your husband is really good, he will try to make a space for you. Which you deserve right now.
Having a child changed your life in particular, being a mother is the most difficult job.
But it gets easier with time.
If you want to cry, cry on his shoulder, if you created some distance try to solve it.
I don't mean only physical, even emotional.
Try to take him on a date, have a drink (if you can)
When you tell him what you feel it will be like a flower blooming into perfection.
I hope you can decide the best for you.
If this all doesn't work, I will suggest giving a chance to marriage therapy.
If that doesn't work get a divorce try not to cause who gets the daughter and house thing.
Discuss it nicely, if you think he is good, he is in love and won't part with you, or your child.
Hear to help and listen. But I will say please go to your husband first then anyone on this platform.

[Staximus]

You wanted a child, husband, marriage, and now you don’t? Well it’s not something you just decide you don’t want anymore and throw away. Welcome to the real world. Life is not a tv show where you just get to live out your dumb fantasies. You chose this life and now you don’t want to accept it. You can’t just ditch your baby and husband and run off and be Mata Hari or some bullshit. You have a kid now, all your bullshit dreams and fantasies are no longer as important as that child. If you can’t accept that then you never should have had a child in the first place or got married. You can’t just run off and leave your child to live some stupid fantasy life in your head.

[Staximus]

You want to leave your child in the care of others while you go travel around like some movie star or big business bigshot. I’ve got news for you- You’re not that important. Your child is more important.

[Anonymous]

your husband no longer loves you... realize that a man who loves you will make you feel like a queen regardless of what you look like. You feel inadequate because he doesn't think you are adequate.

Go get yourself some skills, support yourself, leave him. Let him care for the daughter because there is no way in hell you would be able to support your daughter on a minimum wage salary at a supermarket or as a receptionist.

Leave him, find a man who loves from head to toe and will accept you as a single mom. It IS hard to find a man like this, but once you will, you will live a much happier life.

[queenofcardio]

It’s your anxiety, you seem very insecure.

Why did you get married if you’re not comfortable communicating these issues with him?

Work on your self-confidence and see if it makes any changes in your relationship.

[Theunfadeable]

You sound very confused. Sounds like someone about to fuck up a good marriage because they don’t have their shit straight in their own head. All feelings are transient and sometimes they don’t even mean anything. Focus on the facts and don’t forget this is not all about you.

[findacure4wokeness]

I think you are likely about to make a decision that will ruin you and your child's life. Few men want to get married and next to none want to get involved with single mothers. Please seek out some marriage counselling if your can afford it before you make any irreversible decisions. That way your mind will be clear enough to make a more informed decision. Also your insecurities might end up driving him away if left unchecked.

[bowenw]

You owe it to him and yourself to be open and honest. A lifetime is a terrible thing to waste. Try to do what makes you happy and live with no regrets.

[Anonymous]

[Mike_Hum]

So you're gonna fuck up your kids life and his because you feel bad about yourself? this is nonsense rage bait.

[In_Trance]

Tldr.
This is in college you don't need a five-page summary.
Summarize it up in 30 seconds or I'm out

[Anonymous]

Why did you get married? It's a simple question. You said it was a "goal" but that's all you said.

[Anonymous]

Why don’t u see him in your future or never have?

[Anonymous]

You have other dreams and goals that don't involve him then do them