Most of the dudes that I've known have considered me strange, behind-the-times, or even a closet homosexual because I've always wanted to wait until I've put a ring on a woman's hand before I make love to her (of any kind). I'm 21 and am still waiting for the right Mrs. What do the girls on here think of this, and how would they react if their prospective boyfriends said that they were set on waiting?
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This is YOUR decision and your viginity is special and important. This is going to be attractive to girls who really believe virginity is a big deal and especially attractive to girls who are saving themselves as well. Personally, I think losing your virginity should be special but my mother told me that sex is an important part of marriage and that sexual incompatibility can kill a marriage (therefore: if you really care about someone have sex with them before you get married). I had a very special loss of my virginity to another virgin (who after 4 years I broke up with), am very selective about partners, and feel 100% good about that. I want someone who is similar and would be uncomfortable dating someone who wanted to wait.
That being said there is nothing wrong with you for making the other decision and I am NOT every other woman, you just have to realize that 3% of Americans wait successfully till after their wedding to lose their virginity. While that sounds depressing that means that there are 10 million people who are doing the same thing and are probably MUCH MORE like you than the people who don't. Also, good news for you, according to the same site 60% of the people that wait are women.
Some girls unfortunately harbor regrets about how they lost their virginities and may feel like you'll look down on them so they'll lash out, others like me will actively desire someone who knows themselves and others sexually. Just rememember you are a rarity and there are many women who would love to hear this so don't let people who chose differently disrespect you. (Also, other dudes should have no say in this, the idea you have to have sex to be a man is silly)5