My boyfriend didn't get me a Christmas gift, how should I handle this? (Page 2)
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Bottom line: did you give the gift just so you could get something back? Or did you give the gift because you knew he'd love it and it would make him happy? Your gift had strings attached, and it sounds like you would, in fact, judge the depths of his feelings by the gift he would give. This is wrong. Give gifts and love freely, no matter what the receiver does. Give because that's who YOU are: a thoughtful giver. But do not expect that your giving will make him a giver.
You should never give a gift just to expect one back. Just like by helping someone, doesn't make that person obligated to you. Gift giving should be selfless. Christmas/anniversary/birthday should be about more than just gifts. It was nice you bought tickets, it's nice if he wants to get you something, but it shouldn't be obligation.
I mean, he didn't ask you to buy them, right?
It should have been talked about before hand. Who is getting who what and how much to spend , that way you have an idea of what to give as an idea and a guideline. I raise my kids up with gifts but as an adult I don't do gifts other then stocking stuffers.. there is not point we are adults now we don't need gifts. But for a still new relationship he should have known better !!!
A gift is not a gift if you expect something in return. Other than that you said you were leaving the next day so you didn't give him much notice. Still, you would think that he would give you something as I assume he also gets sex. I would let it pass, but there is still a chance you will get something on your return home.
if you two live together then you are seeing to much of each other ! if you two date every week end though , then you need a breather from each other ! it reads like you two need to miss each other so that you will be together , understand why you each do what you two do to each other and see if the relationship you two have will lead to a commitment later ! Thanks
Ignore it guys been together for six months if it’s after a year yeah you might wanna say something but it’s not worth breaking up over somebody just because they didn’t get you a gift for Christmas. My mom and dad never by each other gifts and they’ve been married in 81? 82? I don't know sometime in the 80s lol
So let me get it straight. You haven't seen him since a week before Christmas, yet you expect a gift. You do realize most guys wait tell the last minute to by Christmas gifts? He likely is just waiting tell you meet again in person. And if you were having problems he was probably being smart, by waiting tell you new he wasn't going to waste money on someone just to have them break up with you before giving you the gift.
"I was disappointed you didn't get me a Christmas gift". That's not crazy, that's how you felt. What does he do to make you feel cared for? If you can't think of anything, then it's time to end this.
I know this is hard on you, most especially when you're not getting what is expected, but I'll tell you this, diverse opinions and suggestions you seek for will only complicates how you feel about your relationship with him, I'd advice if you observe he's somehow switching up, sit him down without making him feel you're in control by having a deep mutual conversation with him so you can fix what's bent before it's totally broken.
So you are so entitled you think you deserve a gift. You considering breaking up because you did not get your gift. You are a entitled princess with no value. I hope you break up with him because you are worthless as a girlfriend and materialistic as fuck. He took you out for dinner but nothing is good enough.. Guys leaving the dating scène because of shitty women like you. Goodluck with your princess syndrome it will make you unhappy as fuck in the long run
Doesn’t sound like a real relationship. Maybe he’s just not that into you or only wants sex at this point in life. No one should have to fight for communication or gifts during holidays, birthdays, anniversary’s. Tell him what you want if he still bs then find someone better. You’re not asking for too much. Remember this is your life. You deserve the best.
Be a little patient. He might not hold the same value of gift giving. He also may have a surprise for new year's. I will give it until then if I were you. Then the next day bring it up. He also may have been in relationships where, they did not give gifts. Or they talked about it before hand. And he was expecting the same from you. Not an excuse. He just might not be use to just up an giving gifts with out talking about it.
I can understand and you are not crazy. Maybe if you want too you can bring it up casually next time when you see him.
Of course nothing wrong with your expectations but remember you cannot force anybody to live up to your expectations.
deal with it by breaking up with his ass. I mean Jesus Christ he could at least one to the fucking Dollar Store I mean it's not that hard to buy somebody a gift I mean it does the guy at least have a job what the fuck is the matter with people I can't even get a fucking girl and then you fucking girls date people like that what the fuc
Not a big deal. The point of gifting isn't "tit for tat".
If not getting reciprocal gifts bothers you find a rich partner who never misses a holiday/gift giving opportunity big or small.
Stop being greedy and spoiled. You dont need gifts. I myself am single and always have been and hate it. Just be thankful you aren't still single and 37 like me or older even.
Oh this is old, lol. doesn't matter this still applies to millions of people.
Never EXPECT a gift , that is not what the spirit of Christmas is about , and make a vow between the two of you to never exchange , an utterly ludicrous part of the entire deal.
Do you know if he is religous? Maybe he just doesn't have the money. Maybe he doesn't commemorate Christmas and accepted your gift not to be disrespectfull. Or maybe is just that he didn't buy it yet.
If not that, the fact that you have been having problems can be the motive.
Anyway comunication is always key. Just ask him if he celebrates Christmas. Deoending on the awser ask him if bought one for you. And if he says no. Ask why. But do not demand anything.
First thing's first, 6 month anniversaries don't exist. Anniversary is literally annual, which is yearly. Second, have you hinted at something you wanted? Maybe you guys haven't been together long enough for him personally. 6 months isn't as long as you think. I would wait and if it persists through an actual anniversary then show concern.
He might still have something ready that you'll get later, or maybe he just didn't have any idea... Happens to me all the time 😂 probably the first tho