me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years, i met him online and then we saw each other in real on my birthday but he didn't know then that it was my birthday so i didn't expect a gift or a special thing. but 4 days ago it was my birthday again but he works abroad he didn't do anything but sending a text wishing me happy birthday not a gift not a call nothing but a text!! ever since i'm really turned off that i stopped calling or texting or even responding to him, there are no excuses for him (he is rich he could've bought somthing online etc.), now what should i do with him? ghost him? break up with him? or tell him that we should be friends? im sure it isn't normal not doing anything special to me as a girlfriend it even made me feel that he was faking love with me all the time.
Just some questions I want to ask.
- Have you two met up recently in person?
- Does he know your home address?
I kinda feel that he could have been busy and not able to buy you a present. Like what you said, he is working aboard and could be swamped with work as we speak now.
This one is related to the 4th question I asked. What if he has bought you something online and it is currently being shipped to your house?
You can't be expecting things to happen just because you are in a relationship with him. You cutting off contacts with him because of this "not buying me a birthday present", is not helping much. Communication is the most important thing in a relationship. You have to talk to him about it. Not being rude but my personal opinion on the matter.
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Talk about feeling entitled. He's abroad working his ass off to make the money you're happy to point out that he has. He text you, so he obviously didn't forget your birthday, and all you can do is sit and whine about not getting a gift.
You think money = love and because he hasn't spent money on you he doesn't care? Do him a favour and break up with him.
You know for some people birthdays and gifting are not a being deal and don’t mean anything to them. if he’s a great guy to you all the time why would you break things off and loose a potentially great relationship for such a lame reason. I understand this probably means a lot to you but have you thought maybe he’s not aware of it?
Yeah my ex did that too. I gave it a few weeks to see if he’d get me anything but he didn’t. Turned out he was stingy (I realised later on) so I broke up with him.
Him not buying you a gift is an indication of a bigger issue. It could be that he’s stingy like my ex, or it could be that he’s selfish, low maintenance…. etc
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Something is not right, it is hard for me to guess what the issue is based only on what you wrote, but if this is a 95% online relationship maybe it doesn't seem totally real to him? I will tell you my opinion but first I want to be clear that I really don't know and I might be wrong. But my opinion is that I'd break up and offer to remain friends. JMO!
You know for a minute you had me thinking this poor girl. But once you mentioned that he was rich, that there’s no excuse you lost me. Maybe that’s why he didn’t get you anything because he knows you’re only after his money. If I was him and I read what you just said I’d dump you. You also mentioned he doesn’t make you pay for anything? Stop feeling entitled.
I was raised in an abusive household and I had no idea you were supposed to buy a present for someone's birthday. I would always wonder why girls would get so mad after their birthdays or Valentine's day. But I finally learned my lesson. Although in your case, it seems he knows that he should have got you a present.
You are Finding Out More and More that he is Not ALL THAT. If he Pulls Tight As Things such as This------What else will He pull? You are Seeing his True Colors----RED FLAGS.
People are not mind readers. Talk to him and tell him it bothered you
Talk to him about it and tell him how it made you feel without being accusatory.
Tell him to send money to buy a gift.
Just break up with him already.
Whatever you want.
Pretty shallow
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