Should I be upset that my boyfriend didn’t get me anything for my birthday?

[ally_11]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a month and a half and yesterday was my birthday and I received nothing from him. About a week ago he asked me what I wanted and I did say I did not want anything just to see him. I didn’t want to ask for anything because I didn’t want him to have to buy me anything but I still figured he would at least get me something. So he told me we would go out for dinner on my birthday but I told him my family is taking me out and he could just come with us. In the morning he wrote me a super long and sweet text telling me how much he cared about me blah blah blah and happy birthday. So I went to school and he had a baseball game after school so we waited for him to get done and he came over and we went to dinner. After we ate we came home and had cake but I wasn’t feeling well so we just laid on the couch and watched a movie. I was kinda sad that he didn’t get me anything at all, not even candy or a drink or a card or anything and I know it isn’t because he doesn’t have any money because he works and buys things for himself all of the time. I just don’t understand how he would just not think to get me anything at all.

[yucychan]

Most guys usually take things very literally. So when you say not to get you anything, he will take it very simply not to get you anything.
You can be upset with him all you want, but you can't really fault him on that. You cannot expect your boyfriend to be a mind-reader who knows that he should have gotten you a present even if you told him otherwise. If you play these mind games with him, he'll just get confused and frustrated, and still won't know what you really want.

So next time, instead of saying, "don't get me anything", just say "get me something simple, not too expensive, something to show that at least you care and is also romantic" etc etc. Just say what you want.

[Jmcmanning]

You did tell him you didn't want anything. He expected honesty and you didn't give him that. If you expected a gift, then you should have told him some ideas of what you liked. My SO asks me all the time what I want and I tell him nothing because that's exactly what I want. I am happy with him just telling me happy birthday and spending time together. A gift is only a gift, doesn't mean he doesn't care or wasn't thinking about you.

[Finchie40]

Well by u telling him not to get you anything was your fault , he isn't a mind reader , he was probably confused and debating whether to get you something or not , you haven't been with him that long so by u saying don't get me anything he didn't get u anything out of respect for your Decision because if he did get u something you might of been upset saying I told u not to get me anything so it was your fault you should of said surprise me

[memyselfandiamhere]

I kinda get it why you are upset.
Like, If someone realy cares they give you Something, but If you also Tell Them to Not get Them anything.. eh.. that is a different Story Mate.

[ciitruskiwi]

Stop playing games. If you want something tell him when he asks or just give him options to choose from. You've been dating for a month and a half the guy barely knows what you like yet.

Men aren't mind readers and they don't want to play the "read between the lines" game and spend hours trying to figure out the meaning behind what you meant.

[bbygirlx]

I just think he can’t read between the lines , you could mention that you were surprised he didn’t get you something or just wait till his birthday and get him something then the next time your birthday comes around I bet you he would get you something x

[lostgirl_searching]

Next time just tell him the truth. I tell my boyfriend the same because I actually don't want anything because birthdays are not important but to him he likes giving when comes to who he cares about but everyone is different, so no need to be upset and next time just tell him if he ask you again if you want something for your birthday.

[biotchpls]

Maybe he honestly thought you didn't want anything... I don't know. Most people will get someone something small even if they say they don't want anything but you can't really be mad or upset if you told him you didn't want something.

[anniisa]

Yeah to be honest I get it, some classic flowers and chocolate would have been nice. I don't think it means anything though, it's just that he took what you said quite literally. It was just miscommunication.

[jennifer_bloom]

I did something similar. Never say something you don't mean cause a guy with no dating experience will take you literally.

[Lando84]

Maybe next time when he asks you should say 'surprise me'. Plus you have learnt that gifts matter to you, you should let him know this in a nice way so he can respond better next time.

[hammeronfire]

you told him you didn't want anything so he didn't get you anything. next time tell the truth

[anuragk033]

Girls are really confusing, why said you want nothing when he asked you

[PinkChampagne]

Because she maybe wanted him to choose for her and then to get a surprise, not just telling him "I want bunny" for example and end of the story

[anuragk033]

She could have also said that whatever you want

[PinkChampagne]

Then will seem like she wants gift at all costs

[Anonymous]

You said you wanted nothing and you have only been together for a month and a half, so, knowing boys, he probably did not know what to get.

[YDoIKeepDoingThisLol]

"I did say I did not want anything..." And yet you think HE is the problem here? Don't say things you don't mean and this wouldn't happen.

[bill4ym]

Gifts are a expression of love but in general if he gives you gifts and neglected only birthday then its ok but if he has never given gifts then better think

[Landshrk0068]

Well, you did say you didn't want anything, but now you are upset that you didn't get anything.

[krowlordz]

YES, id be upset if my significant other didn't get me anything for my bday even though I hate bdays

[rocknrollbabe]

Just because you said you didn't want anything doesn't mean he didn't have to of course men will say it's not their fault but they should know better

[MaryaAnn]

You said you don't want anything. You should be thankful, you've got to be with him and there's cake too.

[Slixus]

Yes but it sounds like he's young and dumb like most teens when it comes to that

[DawsNireOG]

Yeah a lot of young guys do that especially where they spend most of there money on themselves.

[Jacob_Carr2]

It's only been a month and a half. Just be grateful that he took the day to spend with him.

[Amish_Mafia735]

He just did what you said. You said don't get anything so he didn't.

[Anonymous]

At 17, no. If you were 30, and married, then yeah, maybe