My boyfriend didn’t get me a birthday present, should I be upset?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and some change and it has been the best year of my life. He’s so sweet and caring and always tells me how much he loves me, however im having a little trouble. It was my birthday a few days ago and we made plans to spend it together. We decided on having dinner the day of my birthday and then in a few weeks we’re going to the zoo a few hours from here. The night before my birthday my boyfriend comes over after work and we spend the night watching movies. The next morning he wishes me a happy birthday and we go to my nail appointment where i mentioned my mom was paying and he said he was going to however my tech only takes cash so ultimately he didn’t. Afterwards we go to the store and he goes in to pick up my cake (that i asked him to buy) and then we go back before dinner because he didn’t get candles. We went out for dinner (he payed) and then went home. I know he wants to save for our trip to the zoo (however i’m paying for my ticket so in my opinion that isn’t a gift) but he was just at the mall less than two weeks ago buying new clothes. I’m not entirely sure how to feel or if i’m allowed to be upset about this but it just hurt my feelings i guess i would say. I wasn’t expecting anything big but even just flowers or a card would’ve been nice. Am i overreacting or is this something i should be upset about? I’m not sure what i should do. I’m open to all opinions.

[Anonymous]

While I can see how you feel, the fact that he did a number of things w you or for you should speak volumes. He spent the night w you, watched movies, said he d pay for your nails but couldn’t do to cash only. It’s not like he didn’t try to make you happy. This is why it’s hard dating women because it seems as though they’re never happy. Give him credit. Obviously he’s been really good to you considering you said this has been the best year of your life.

[Asker]

I have been giving him credit. That’s why i’m so conflicted on how to feel because yes he did do all that while on the other hand it was just like any other date night. I don’t think wanting something like flowers or a card to show he put thought into it further than just what i told him is so much to ask.

[Opinion Owner]

While I don’t see it as genuine that you had to tell him what you wanted, maybe he felt that was what you were happy w so he didn’t go beyond that.

[Anonymous]

Wow. Girl he legit took you out to dinner and paid for your meal and he also brought you a cake for your birthday. He spent the night with you and watched whatever. He also offered to pay for your nail but wasn't able to because they didn't accept card payments.

What he done for you, is way more than many boyfriends dp for their girlfriends. My ex brought me g stings one year for my birthday and I don't even wear g strings. I think be appreciative that he actually done the things he done for you especially when he saving to take you out for the day hours away to go to the zoo

[HateyouxD]

I think you should take in consideration that he spent the night with you watching movies, he went and paid for dinner, bought the cake and taking you to the zoo

[Asker]

I don’t mean to discredit him for any of that! My birthday honestly wasn’t too different from any other date night except we just dressed a little nicer and that’s how I said i wanted to spend the night plus the zoo. I think my main thing is i wanted him to do something a little more thoughtful and on his own.

[HateyouxD]

I totally understand. Maybe he's like my boyfriend... he doesn't take birthdays too seriously.

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that you feel hurt, as birthdays can be significant and it seems like you had some expectations. It might be helpful to communicate with your boyfriend about your feelings, expressing that it would have meant a lot to you to receive even a small gesture like flowers or a card. Open and honest communication can help both of you understand each other's perspectives and find a resolution.

[bededazzle]

“should”? it’s ok to be upset if that’s hope you feel. talk to him about it.