The real meaning of being yourself

[YazanAA]

It seems that "be yourself " is the first advice anyone would give to the other, and actually this is very logical and understandable because there's nothing better than being ourselves and not faking who we are, and it's very sad and pathetic to try to be someone else that is very different from our nature because fake is just fake, if you don't like yourself on your nature, you won't like it when you are fake and people will have the same image about you.

We all know the importance of being ourselves but do all of us understand the real meaning of that? Actually I have noticed that a lot of people misunderstand the real meaning behind "be yourself", for example, some overweight people will say " I don't want to lose weight because I'm being myself", now it's good that you have confidence about your body and you are not letting body shaming effects you BUT you shouldn't deny the reality that being fat isn't healthy or attractive for most people.

Now, this is just one example of people who misunderstand the meaning of being yourself, actually being yourself means being THE BEST of yourself, when you are changing the bad things about yourself ( which we all have btw), you are not being someone else besides yourself and you are not faking yourself, you are simply trying to be a better version of yourself, so when overweighted people try to lose weight they are not actually copying others who are fit and healthy, actually they are making a better, more attractive and healthier version of themselves. When you are changing the bad habits about you, you are actually improving yourself, you are not faking it. So we have to know the difference here. As a summary, I want to mention 2 important things:

1. Being yourself means being the best of yourself.

2. Trying to change the bad things about ourselves doesn't mean that we are not being ourselves, it actually means that we are successful people who try to be better.

This is my first myTake so I kept it short, if you have anything you want to add, please go ahead.

[Not_Helping]

"Be yourself" is horrible advice. The reason being that you are an ever evolving thing; you know less about yourself than you could even imagine and as you grow older you learn more and more how little you know of the subject "You". One's "best self" is also a complete farce; for one how does one even define that? Other than obvious tangibles?

I mean for instance there are times when the best self does not look good, when it actually looks terrible to everyone, and it even sounds terrible to you; a man who is a workaholic with a goal of retiring early sounds dandy until you learn he is a father and almost never sees his children and spouse because of his work habits. Then he's not his best self. But his children will not have to worry about paying for most expenses and inherit great wealth and their own houses, etc. so is he doing the right thing or not?

"The Difficulty in Life is the choice." - George Moore

It means all decisions have consequences. What you see as the best you today will not be the best you in a year, or perhaps ten years, and what you see as abysmal about yourself today may be the groundwork for what, if it were changed, would become your best self. It is not so simple as to try and change what one considers good or bad because not everything one considers good and bad is obviously good or bad! This lends to our defeatist thinking such as this mode of thought that there is "a path" versus there just being one open plane with many directions and honestly no step is without effect.

[YazanAA]

That's cool dude, wise words, your username doesn't fit you but actually this is my thought exactly, I already said that being yourself doesn't mean staying as who you are in everything thing, because again this self might be good or bad, but when you are trying to improve it you are not actually being someone else besides yourself, the advice "be yourself" is good as long as we understand it.

[Not_Helping]

The problem with "be yourself" is that it does two distinct things.

First it encourages disregard of others. Bettering yourself doesn't always include being mindful others but learning that balance is impossible if your mind's eye is solely on you. Growing into the world and weaving yourself into the lives of others as a positive force requires you to literally stop being "you" and start being "more than you". Your goals enter a different scope; instead of "I am better" it's "We are all better for this".

Second is the flip side of the first; it encourages feelings of isolation. What is more lonely than living a life designed solely around you being who you think is the best you? If people are an afterthought, that is to say "I became friendlier because I thought it would make me happier" versus "I became friendlier for your benefit, and it so happens that it makes me happier", then where exactly is the true gain?

The choice to help others should never be internal.

[Onyx277]

I think adaptation to an extent is necessary to fit into society, but I possess a lot of taboo traits as well and I wouldn't change them for anything else. I agree that it is okay to try to better yourself, but also accept and own that all human beings have flaws and nothing is perfect if humans are involved in it.

[YazanAA]

Wise words haha, where have you been? I haven't seen you around here for a while.

[Onyx277]

Just working a lot. lol Yeah I've been offline most of the time. I see you're still using this site frequently haha.

[YazanAA]

Lol I'm leaving very soon, maybe today or tomorrow maximum.

[Onyx277]

Leaving this site? Like deactivating your account? Yeah I've been thinking about it too.

[YazanAA]

Yes, deactivating my account.

[Onyx277]

Yeah I agree. I probably will sometime soon.

[Hannah591]

I sometimes feel like changing my beliefs/attitude to some things is changing who I am, but I guess that is who I am. We're all constantly adapting and improving ourself, yet we're still ourselves. We're not changing to be like someone else, we're changing to suit what we want to be and what makes us happy!

Good, thought provoking take. :)

[YazanAA]

Yeah this is exactly what I'm trying to say, thank you :)

[beyonder]

I agree! I think the only way one should interpret the meaning of "be yourself" is to strive to be the BEST version of themselves. It means progress and improvement, not stagnation and stubbornness to avoid change or be content with yourself when you know you can be better.
Great take 😊

[YazanAA]

Yeah that's exactly my point, thank you for reading :)

[checkyesjulietx]

i agree with most of what you said but the line " it's very sad and pathetic to try to be someone else that is very different from our nature because fake is just fake" kinda bothered me because you didn't put it very sensitively.

it's not pathetic to want to be accepted. most people don't 'fake' who they are because they want to but because they don't feel they will be accepted as themselves. no need to call people pathetic. it's human nature to want to be accepted by those around us

[YazanAA]

Haha ok sorry if that bothered you, thanks for reading :)

[NedfromtheNed]

I had a friend once, let's call him bill. Bill , in essence, made me 'cool'. Without him i would probably be some loner or loser. He changed me and made me some one i was not but i have grown around that image of 'coolness' and have come to make myself into someone i love; i thank God for bill. You see, you can't be 'cool' and 100% yourself at the same time, society requires you to change so that you can fit in. Society will never form around individuals, no matter how much people want it to, that is not what society does (or should do).

[Nathand]

there is no such thing.

Humans act a certain way so they can be accepted and gain attention. They don't act away that is themselves, they act in certain ways to fit in society and to be accepted.

If you are popular and have many friends then you basically doing stuff to stay in that group.

Humans are sheep.

Now block me.

[YazanAA]

LoL I don't block anyone, plus that's your opinion that I respect even though I don't completely agree with.

[Nathand]

let me be the first. It'll feel nice.

[YazanAA]

Lol ok

[Nathand]

test

[Nathand]

umm... you didn't do it.

[YazanAA]

My block list is clear, will always be clear. Go find someone else to block you.

[Nathand]

whatever...

[Pinkbeauty]

good take I liked it 😊 I find I have hard time sometimes being myself aspashelle when I try wrighting my profile on any site it seems when some people look at my profile they judge me to quickly and I would constantly be told saying I can't say this and can't say that and I would get annoyed or mad when ever people kept doing that to me and when I try to wright my profile I find I end up writing the same thing every time cause I can't think what else to wright

[YazanAA]

Haha thanks for reading :)

[Pinkbeauty]

your welcome

[Anonymous]

I am right there with you on this! The only thing I want to add to your thought is that this is what people SHOULD be aiming to do. They should be, according to your example, working out and getting fit in order to better themselves. HOWEVER, I think that some people are motivated to workout and be fit because they want to fit in and be more like the models they see in hollywood. Like I said though, you have the approach of what should be happening in people's head's, but sometimes they think about it another way

[YazanAA]

Yes I agree with this 100% ... They should do it for themselves and their health, not to look like celebrities.

[TheGrumpyCat]

Excellent take.

Simple and easy to understand explanation, because most people don't think of 'being ourselves' this way.

Because most people use 'being ourselves' as an excuse to not improve oneself.

[YazanAA]

Exactly

[Thatonlyme]

Be nice, be open but don't be fake. Be yourself but if you know that not a nice thing to say to someone or even behind someone's back don't do it. Make it the best!

[YazanAA]

That's correct

[Thatonlyme]

Yep I hope it helps!

[Thatonlyme]

I've learn a hard lesson for that. Once I tried to fit in and I truly wasn't being myself. Some started calling me fake so I learn that i should always stay true to myself bc at the time I didn't even realize I was wrong and didn't know I wasn't being myself. I finally realized.

[YazanAA]

Oh I see, good for you, nothing beats the nature right?

[Thatonlyme]

Yep! and by the way wonderful myTake keep it up and always like you say be yourself!

[YazanAA]

Thank you very much :)

[Thatonlyme]

yep anytime 😊😜😋!

[Anonymous]

Awesome myTake. You could not have made it any better. Its already perfect.

Especially, the summary.
1. Being yourself means being the best of yourself.

2. Trying to change the bad things about ourselves doesn't mean that we are not being ourselves, it actually means that we are successful people who try to be better.

[YazanAA]

Thank you very much.

[ThisGurl]

I completely agree... :) especially when I said that bettering urself and changing how you act does not mean we are not being ourselves. :)

[YazanAA]

Yes exactly, changing the bad habits is a part of improving ourselves to the best. Thank you for reading :)

[WhateverMayBeWillBe]

Here's my version - www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a9996-is-the-phrase-just-be-yourself-a-comforting-lie-we-like-to-say

[Anonymous]

I like your myTake! You made a good point and also used examples to clarify it. The length is also really good, neither too long nor too short.
Keep doing myTakes :)

[YazanAA]

Thank you for reading :)

[Rloco]

Awesome take this is actually the change I'm going through this summer. Becoming the best me 😁

[YazanAA]

That's great. Good luck

[vekin]

Good first mytake!!

Maybe something to add being yourself is also being natural in my opion and that means don't think too much what should I do right now...(hope it's clear what I mean)

[YazanAA]

Thank you for reading

[anon4122]

I agree and disagree. I think it's that we should do these things because WE as an individual decided to do so not because that is what is expected. Which is an important decision to make.

[YazanAA]

Thank you for reading.

[FakeName123]

Being yourself simply means being yourself. The problem is many people aren't themselves, but some sort of twisted image of what they think others want them to be.

Barely anyone is independent of these influences and a lot are strongly living by those expectations of others which is leading them on a path of self-destruction by trying to please expectations which can't be pleased.

[Riggers]

Hahha, coming from the guy who was slagging off transgender people on another take

What a fucking hypocrite.

[YazanAA]

Those "transgenders" are the biggest example of people who fake themselves. What a fucking idiot.

[Riggers]

WHAT? They are the probably the best example of 'being yourself', do you think they change gender just for shits and gigs?

No! They do it because it makes them happy, imagine being born with the mentality of a guy, but you were a girl, and fucking hated your body every single day day, would you not undergo a sex change?

Gosh you're a fuking retarded, arrogant dipshit aren't you...

[YazanAA]

No, actually those people and anyone who supports them are mentally retarded, "they was born men but they feel like women"? Wtf is this BS?

[vekin]

I agree on the mytaker that changing yoru gender isn't really showing that a person is being him/herself... but I have to agree with you to do that they who change their gender don't do it for the attention they get (I may hope)... I know someone who is wrestling with this problem of don't feeling happy in their body and it hurts to see him/her wrestling with this.

[YazanAA]

@vekin well actually some of them do it for attention and those who are really struggling with their gender don't need a surgery, they actually need professional mental help in order to learn how to expect who they are and the way they were created.

[Riggers]

@YazanAA

Just read what you're saying to me, And then Read your take again, You are completely and utterly contradicting yourself here, You are telling people to be themselves and do what makes them happy, And then here, You are telling Transgender people that Being themselves is wrong and they shouldn't be happy..

Does the fact someone, Who has been uncomfortable their entire life in their body, And deciding to undergo a sex change procedure, And then they are finally happy and can enjoy life, Really affect your own life that much?

No, It dosent effect you at all. Does it?

So why the fuck are you so 'Anti-Transgender'? What the fuck have they ever done to you? Why the fuck do they annoy you so much?

[YazanAA]

Lol don't put words in my mouth, yes people should be themselves, but a man doing a surgery to become a woman is being himself? In what world? he/she is clearly faking who they are. No they didn't do anything for me, I don't hate them, but actually I'm giving my opinion about this phenomena, just because I don't agree with what they are doing doesn't mean I hate them.

[Riggers]

Well, Why do you not agree with them being happy?

Thats kinda dark and fucked up dude.

[YazanAA]

Are they really happy with that? Nobody knows... I think we should help them by giving them psychological help to expect their gender and who they are. Some of them are really struggling I'm not denying that.

[YazanAA]

Accept*

[Riggers]

Yes, They are happy about it, Some guy who went to my school (Who got bullied his entire childhood for hanging round with girls and stuff), Had a sex change Procedure a few months ago and his on Hormones and shit, And, Honeslty, He/She went from being one of the saddest, Loneliess fuckers in the school to a chick whos got quite a lot of friends now and enjoys life.

So yeah, It does make people happy. Why the fuck else would they do it? for fun? They dont need fucking Mental help, They can make that descision themsevles, So, Ill ask you again, Why are you so against it? Because you and i both know, The reply you just gave me was a load of bulshit.

Do you really think people undergo this type of shit without putting Years, If not their lifetime thinking and discussing it? People dont just wake up and go ''Ima have a sex change for attention''. People do it because they want to make themselves more happy.

So yeah, Bearing that in mind, Why are you against it?

[YazanAA]

Copy and past from Wikipedia " Gender identity disorder (GID) or gender dysphoria is the formal diagnosis used by psychologists and physicians to describe people who experience significant dysphoria (discontent) with the sex and gender they were assigned at birth. Evidence suggests that people who identify with a gender different from the one they were assigned at birth may do so not just due to psychological or behavioral causes, but also biological ones related to their genetics, the makeup of their brains, or prenatal exposure to hormones.[1]"

And I will focus on this statement " but also biological ones related to their genetics, the makeup of their brains, or prenatal exposure to hormones.[1]"

I'm not against those who do it due to biological reasons, I'm against those who do it just for the heck of it or just because "they feel" this way while they are 100% biologically male or female.

[YazanAA]

Paste*

[Riggers]

Dude. You just completely destroyed your own argument here?

I can gurantee, Infact, Im fucking Confident, 99.9999999% of people who undergo a Sex change to it because they are Biologically unhappy with their Sex, Not for attention.

So, What you are saying is, You are completely fine with the Millions and Millions of people who are Transgender, But, You dont like fucking unbelievably small minority that is so small its basically non existance trans people who do it for attention?

Why do i feel like thats not the case? I doubt you would go through all this argument just to say to me you are fine with 99.9999% of people who are transgender.

[YazanAA]

I say it again, I'm fine with those who do it because of biological reasons, I'm not fine with those who do it because they don't like their gender. Now you are saying that 99.9999% do it because of biological reasons, prove that to me? Based on what?

[YazanAA]

Just because you feel that you are a female doesn't make you biologically a female. Some people are 100% male but they don't like their gender so they change it, that's weird and insane.

Now those who actually have a biological problem and diagnosed with it then it's logical to do the operation. Because biologically, they aren't 100% male or 100% female. AGAIN I'm not talking about what gender you feel you are inside, I'm talking about what gender you are biologically.

[Riggers]

But, They are the Same Thing, You seem to not know the Difference between Biologically and Physically, Biological means the Inside, Physical means the outside.

If you are a guy, But Biologially, You have the Mental Traits of a Female, Then, You will feel uncomfortable and unhappy being a guy, And you will want to be a Female. That is why people have Sex Change Procedures.

Their is nothing Weird nor Insane about it. Its them changing themselves, To make them Mentally happier?

Like i said, 99.99999% of Transgenders will be like this. They will have Biological Traits of the Oppostie sex, Thus, Naturally, Are more the Opposite Gender then which they were born, Which is why they have Sex changes to make themselves more comfortable and complete the Process.

You seem to think all / Most transgenders are just people who have Sex changed for no reason what so ever, When, The people you are thinking off, Are so rare they are almost non existant.

[YazanAA]

No there are not the same thing, they are two groups:

1. Those who ACTUALLY have a biological problem in their Hormones and Chromosomes, so they are biologically not 100% males or females. I'm fine with this group because actually they have a real medical and biological problem, so they are not changing their gender just because they feel this way.

2. Those retarded who are actually 100% males or females but they change their gender because they don't like it.

Now you are saying that 99.9999% of people are from the first group? I hope so but actually it would be better if you bring an evidence of this claim from a trusted source.

[checkyesjulietx]

you tell em @riggers

[Riggers]

Well dude, Regardless of those points anyway, Still, My point stands, Why the fuck dont you agree with it anyway? Why does them Changing gender, Regardless of the Reasons, Bother you?

Like i said, It dosent effect your life in anyway what so ever, So why oppose it? It makes no sense.

And @checkyesjulietx Its like talking to a Brick wall matey honestly xD.

[Bards]

OMG I WAS THINKING THAT.

[YazanAA]

Well I already said that it doesn't affect my life in any way but I'm just giving my opinion about this phenomena, because hey welcome to the world, people have opinions about things that don't affect them, for example I'm against cheating, but if all men in the west cheated on their women will it affect me? No it won't but I still have an opinion about this, well the question is, how does my opinion affect you to the point that you wasted your and my time in this argument? You seem very close minded to a point that you don't accept the difference between people's opinions.

@Bards I still think that you are an awesome individual even though you always come from nowhere to say something in my arguments lol

[Bards]

@Yazanaa yeah and even though I dont agree with you on this, I still think you're cool too XD srsly

[Riggers]

"You seem very close minded"

Person who hates transgender people for no reason says what?

[YazanAA]

"Hates transgender people"? Dude just fuck off you lost me here seriously.

@Bards thank you, the difference between our opinions on current topics doesn't mean that we should lost the good image that we have about each other in other areas.

[Riggers]

Asker, yes, clearly you hate them, look what you wrote in your first reply to me "No, actually those people and anyone who supports them are mentally retarded"

How can you insult innocent people who have done no wrong to you or your way of life, for no reason what so ever? The only retard here is you you indoctrinated fuck

[YazanAA]

I don't hate them as individuals but what they are doing with their bodies and their nature makes them retarded and anyone who supports this BS is also a retard, but I don't hate them as human beings because I simply don't know them, so I really don't hate them, if you believe it or not I don't give a fuck, you clearly can't realize the difference between hating the action and hating the person who does the action, so I really wasted a lot of time with a stoned head like you, I don't think that you are hungry anymore so I'm gonna stop feeding you little troll, so now you can shut the fuck up you nasty fag*ot.

[Riggers]

DUDE, THIS IS WHAT I've BEEN FUCKING SAYING TO YOU, YOU EVEN SAID IT YOURSELF, YOU HATE THE ACTION, BUT NOT THE PEOPLE

SO FOR THE LAST FUCKING TIME I ASK YOU, WHY DO YOU HATE PEOPLE UNDERGOING SEX CHANGES?

MY FUCKING GOD! THAT wasn't SO FUCKING HARD WAS IT ? -_-

[Ashely_Princess]

I really love this take. I'm trying to be more of myself everyday :) <3

[YazanAA]

That's cool :)

[Ashely_Princess]

Yup.

[AdoringFan]

Agreed, often people think that 'be yourself' means 'don't change'. What it actually means is 'don't change for others, only for yourself'.

[shyguy227]

By azura by azura by azura !! sorry had to do it : P

[AdoringFan]

@shyguy227 Don't worry, I get that a lot.