Guys, we've all have heard that when it comes trying to impress, and catch the attention of a lady, that the best thing you can do is be yourself and not try and be someone you're not. This is %100 true. However, this statement has a tendency to be misunderstood by some, and somehow gives the impression that certain behaviors that should rightfully be un acceptable, should somehow be deemed acceptable. Here are a few things on what being yourself should not entail:
Being yourself doesn't make it ok to be lazy, unmotivated, have no ambition, and live at home with your parents with no plans or goals for anything better.
Being Yourself doesn't make it ok to be irresponsible (financially and otherwise), and continue making poor life decisions
Being yourself doesn't make it ok to never go outside, lack confidence, be socially inept, lack very little to no life skills, and lack the means to make grown decisions on your own.
Being yourself doesn't make it ok to lie, or bend the truth about things like your accomplishments, job status, the car you drive, or living situation.
Being yourself doesn't make it ok to be judgmental, rude, and unpleasant to those whom you have nothing to gain from, or by whom you may feel threatened by.
Being yourself doesn't make it ok for you to be overweight, have poor hygiene, live like a slob, and live an unhealthy lifestyle.
Being yourself doesn't make it ok to invade her personal space, privacy, and not take no for an answer when she's already made it clear that she's not interested in you.
I'm sure there's other pointers on this I can come up with, but these are the ones that stand out for me that I feel are the most relevant. I think everyone can understand what it is I'm getting at. When it comes down to hearing "just be yourself" it means be who you are, but a grown up, confident, capable, interesting and likable version of you. It's about being the best version of who you are. It's about being someone that she can look up to and believe in, and not the kind of person mentioned above.
If you're following any of these behaviors above, it shouldn't be a surprise why you're still single, and the ladies aren't paying attention to you.
I'll end by saying if the show fits wear it. I'm not going to entertain any rude or insulting comments, and I'm just going to remove them. If you don't agree with something I've mentioned, you can express that in a mature and respectable manner.
If you're wanting to be rude and hurl insults, it's not going to change anything, and I'm not the person to take your frustrations and insecurities out on. You have to fix yourself, I can't do it for you and neither can anyone else. It took a few years for me to realize my behaviors were the problem, and to make a sincere effort to make the changes I needed to (It was tough!). I'm hoping the information I've provided here can point some of you in the right direction and provide some insight on what behaviors you need to change. I wish everyone here the best.