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Top 4 Ways to Gain Back the Deep Focus in Your Life!

Disclaimer: There are a few social sites that you need and cannot quit: one example would be Youtube. You need that for class assignments, if it's your job, or to watch documentaries and so on. But when you use it for entertainment, this falls into the category of social medias that affect you negatively.

1. Quit social Media

First of all, take a moment to really think it through. Do you really need social media? Or are you on social media because:

a. You always feel chatty, and want to talk ( you crave to be in a community with things that interests you)

b. You are afraid of missing out / FOMO(especially regarding business world. You think if you are not on social media you will not be recognized)

c. You are bored, always bored. You constantly want something to occupy your time (wasting time, and never feeling satisfied)

d. You live your life through others'; only daydreaming about the things you want, posting pictures to resemble your dream life, and or following those who already has what you want. (Following people who inspires you is a good thing but if it becomes a thing where the only thing you do is scroll and scroll but never get up and get work done, then you are deluding yourself.)

These are just a couple of reasons.

Now let's look at the solutions:

a. If you want to be part of a community, you need to first know what your body needs. When you constantly go online for communication, engagement, and a sense of belonging, you need to realize your body is trying to tell you something.

In this case, it's telling you this: You need to find out the things you are most interested in; that are most valuable to you; and you need to go out there and build the community in person; not through social media. Online communication is not the same as in life communication. If you constantly focus on building a life online like you do in games (like Sim City), you will face depression, irritation, and so on.

Example: I love books. Instead of trying to always fit in with others online, I could instead go join a book club. That way, I am able to go out more, engage more, improve my social skills, make connections, quench my thirst for my chatty-ness, and feel satisfied.

You can also do this with family. Don't give the excuse, "My family and I are not that type; we are not affectionate." My family and I aren't affectionate either but I have noticed that when we become a bit more vulnerable, when we begin to share our emotions, (directly or indirectly (though poems, a video, a written note, or orally, or through a mini vacation etc), we start to create a bond.

It takes time, and it may never be at that perfect point; but the process of getting there is what makes us feel we are heading towards success. You will definitely see a change if you give yourself to others (quality time), especially to your family.

When you are constantly on social media you are more prone to procrastinate, daydream, and just not be able to focus.

Here is a video if you want further explanation on social media:

2. Focus on the few most important things right now!

There are so many things to improve on, to learn.

If you are like me, you will feel like time is running out and you begin to feel overwhelmed. So you start to tackle too many things at once including those new habits you have been wanting to implement in your life for a year now.

But you never become consistent and committed in them because you try to multitask. So listen to your body once again. What does it really need?

For you it can be mediating, getting a job, or cooking more to avoid junk food, etc. Of course there are bunch more things your body can benefit from, but you need to focus on 3 most important things.

Those 3 things will be your top priority. Those are the three things you will tackle the first thing in the morning. Those are the things you will give 90% of your time to. The other 10% goes to other mundane things in your life.

If you are someone who constantly judge others, and yourself; you need to practice gratitude, and self love. You do that by making a conscious decision every single morning that you accept yourself as you are. Practice affirmations.

If your loved one was to have a busy day today, what words of compassion/encouragement would you till him/her? Say those to yourself.

When you make a mistake, be kind to yourself instead of letting that inner voice belittle you. Admit your mistake and be kind and instead focus on solutions.

Be self aware. This is the art of thinking positive. In order to be positive to others, you must first learn self compassion.

3. Read about people that inspires you (better if you can be around people who inspires you)

The more you surround yourself with those you admire, the more you are likely to feel motivated, and positive and active. Be careful not to imitate them. Be yourself, and you do that by being self awareness and honesty. Don't sacrifice yourself to please others. Be honest, and be open to advice and compromises. But always be honest first, especially to your emotions.

4. Lastly, Do it!

Stop piling up lists of things to do, and how to do it; things to improve on and how to do it, businesses to start in the future, and so on. Quit it.

Just start already. Face your fears, face the uncertainty and be excited. You have got nothing to lose. When you face your fears (when you take the step to be courageous), when you face uncertainty with excitement, and when you get out of your comfort zone, whether things work out or not, you always gain something.

You gain growth and maturity. You gain intellect! You gain wisdom, you gain experience, and you gain success.

Top 4 Ways to Gain Back the Deep Focus in Your Life!
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