My first myTake ^^' this is just my view from personal experience of the two terms, if you disagree feel free to write a response. Feedback is always welcome.
I'll start by showing the basic meaning of each word from the dictionary:
venting- Blowing off steam; done when angry or stressed.
bitching- make spitefully critical comments.
Urban dictionary describes Venting; “coping mechanism that allows a person to rationalize and validate their own fears, concerns ,worries, dreams and hopes. If we are not allowed to vent , we end up bottling up our emotions which is detrimental to the human psyche and can end up suffering from it's side effects. Such as Ulcers, depression , high blood pressure, anxiety migraines, fatigue. The list goes on and on. So when you find yourself in the position of being the receiver of someone’s griping moaning bitching realize that not always is advice warranted but more or less you have become the outlet for someone’s Physical and Psychological health.”
urban dictionary (bitching) “Repeatedly saying something over and over, or rather whining about it, therefore destroying the point you were trying to make and making you look like a complete bitch because no one is listening to you.”
In my experience some people think they’re one in the same at times, I disagree.
Imagine your partner comes home and starts talking about their day at work with a new boss who has been there for a week. Your SO hates this new boss.
Your SO begins to talk about why their new boss stresses them out, giving examples of what the boss did throughout the day to make your SO stress out; asking them to work on a two-man task by themselves, unloading a pile of bookwork that he must complete before tomorrow, not putting books/folders back where they belonged, etc etc etc
But then continues calling their boss stupid, a little bitch, a lazy fuck, they can’t put books back on the shelf, their boss bought the last chicken sandwich from the work canteen and your SO had to eat a ham sandwich, their boss has a lisp when they talk and it annoys the shit out of your SO and their boss had B.O.O, Etc etc etc
You offer comfort and try to suggest alternative responses, so your SO can avoid the stress, but they dismiss everything you say with comebacks that almost seem like excuses (“that’s not gonna work” “yeah but they’ll just do it again next week” “I can’t say that, they won’t listen”)
The next day your SO comes home and does it all again, but this time it seems the things that are bothering your SO are exaugurated, saying things like “they’re such a dick to work with” but not giving any reason why they can say that statement.
Signs to look for:
Venting is a form of letting out your feelings in some cases. Other times its releasing hot air because something made you angry. Its like a short conversation of just the ‘venter’ talking about what makes them angry, and afterwards they feel a lot better, still angry, but better. Most of the time they don’t look for advice on the situation, they just need someone to listen. And most people can relate to their anger in that situation.
Bitching is just complaining. The ‘bitcher’ will say the same thing over and over for validation and to justify their anger, not to release steam and feel better afterwards, they hold onto their anger and it continues to build up overtime. You’ll find that people who are bitching will use insults like “bitch” or “asshole” but give no reasonable examples as to why that other person is an asshole.
So there you have it. If you have anything to add just comment below and see what others think.
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How do you tell the difference between someone bitching at you and venting at you? How do you tell the difference
Good take thanks