My parents are forcing me to play basketball, but I don't even like it... I feel like me life is completelly being wasted. Any tips?

[Anonymous]

I've told them I don't want to play basketball but they don't allow me to quit. I don't even like basketball, I like football (soccer).

I'm 15 and my life is a fuckin huge mess I know I'm too young but I feel I've wasted everything.

I'm too old to follow my dreams, like being a professional football player or a guitar player, but my parents won't find me a guitar teacher...

I feel like I'll just have a copletelly boring life just like everybody elses one...

It's not to be mean, but come on, admit it... Your childhood dreams weren't any of these.

Your life is probably boring... Unless you'r happy with going out to nightclubs and having sex with the first guy you see.

What should I do? I don't want to play basketball, really.

Sorry if I was bad to you, but thats how I am...

[Anonymous]

Whoh whoh... hold up a minute!
You have already said... I know I am young, yes you are... you have been alive 15 years, 3 of which you were a baby, 9 a child and 3 a teenager, when you break it down that way, where is this waste!
Oh my goodness you are not too old to follow your dreams! No way at all, it's only just starting for you!
Now you are getting older you will be able to make more choices to make these dreams happen.

Now I know you have already told your parents you don't want to play. If you are sure you don't like it... you need to tell them again. Get them both together, and ask them to sit down. You want to talk.
If they try to interput you ask them politely and calmly, please may I finnish?

So sit them down and keep your cool, be calm and patient, never raise your voice, ask them to listen, this is serious. Tell them you have tried to tell them you don't want to play basketball, tell them you don't feel like they are listening. Tell them you feel like you are being forced to do something you don't want to and it's making you really unhappy. Tell them you are greatful and thankful for their support, tell them you love them and they are great parents. But it is your life too and you don't want to play basketball. You want to playfootball and learn guitar, these are your dreams. Ask them if they will support you with footballl and guitar instead. Tell them again, I have tried to tell you I don't want to do basket ball, I have tried to please you by going anyway, but now I can't bear it anymore. Ask them please will you listen to me. Tell them you are 15 can I not make my own choice as to what sport I want to play. Ask them, please will you understand and please respect my wishes to stop going.

You are 15, yes you are young, but you deserve your own choices with things like sport and what things you want to do with your future. You need to put your foot down in a mature way with calm and no shouting.

[Asker]

I'm too old to play football, seriously, most football players start at 7/8 years old and get professional at 18, it's out of my league..
I'll try

[Opinion Owner]

So you want to be a professional sports player? If you want to play football and not basketball then just do it. If you want to be a professional sports player and basketball is the only option you can see perhaps it's time to weigh up. Maybe in 2 years time you will choose a completely different career altogether and keep sport as a hobby. You can easily be a professional guitarist starting at 15, not all paid guitarists are in a band. I would like to add, to me the dream of being a football player is massively boring! So just beacause you think something is boring doesn't mean someone else doesn't enjoy it. It's interesting you see the only other things to life is sex and nightclubs? Wow there is so much more in the world than lol

[goldenspice]

Based upon how dramatic you are in that question are you sure you aren't more suited for drama class?
Seriously you are only 15, your life isn't over, it hasn't even begun yet. Your parents are just trying to get you involved and teach you things, you will appreciate it when you get older.
Its just basketball, its not the end of the world. You don't get too choose what you want until you are 18, right now you are under their roof and you abide by their rules, they pay for it you don't. Start being more appreciative about things they are doing for you - most parents don't care where their kids are anymore. Consider yourself lucky and consider yourself blessed.

[Asker]

Yeah I really overreact.. I should just keep playing basketball and shut up.

[goldenspice]

Yeah you should. lol

[igotapoosy]

To be fair just becuase you are 15 and need to live by house rules, doesn't mean you should be forced into a hobby you don't like. Do the dishes, yes, come home when your told to, yes, respect your parents, do your studies etc ect. But be forced to play a sport you don't want to? No I don't agree, it's not like your lazy and all you want to do is play computer games and watch tv.

[musicbrain5]

Why don't they let you switch from basketball to soccer? That's weird. It's a waste of time for everybody if you don't even enjoy it.

[Asker]

I don't want to play football. I am not good playing football. But I just hate playing basketball. I just want to quit it, you know?

[musicbrain5]

Is there a reason why they're making you do it though?

[Asker]

Because they want me to play sports. but i dont like playing any sports

[musicbrain5]

I'm guessing you told them that but they're still making you do it. You shouldn't be forced to play sports if you don't want to!

[Asker]

well i SHOULDN'T. but i am