Spanking children... Girls vs Boys?

[Anonymous]

Just curious to see people's opinion on spanking children. When I was growing up my sister and I never got spanked, but my brother was spanked hard quite a bit.

My parents felt my sister and I should never be spanked since we were female, but that boys needed a swift spanking to keep in line.

What do you think? Should their be a difference between punishing/disciplining boys and girls?

Children should never be spanked.

Only boys should be spanked. Girls should never be.

Only girls should be spanked. Boys should never be.

Both should be spanked equally.

Other (Please comment).

[Nivac817]

I noticed something interesting here

Only boys should be spanked. Girls should never be.
Girls who agree- 8% (least popular opinion among girls)
Guys who agree -37% (most popular opinion held by guys)

Only girls should be spanked. Boys should never be.
Girls who agree-24% (Second most popular opinion among girls)
Guys who agree-11% (least popular opinion among guys)

Interestingly people seem to be more likely to think that only their gender should be spanked, and the other gender should not be spanked.

What i also found interesting was this opinion (among guys only)
Only boys should be spanked- 37%
Both should be spanked equally-33%

More guys think only they should be spanked, as opposed to equal treatment, as they are essentially supporting being punished worse.

Regardless i agree girls should not be spanked and boys should. Hate me for my opinion if you want, but different genders respond differently. I think it is effective, but i couldn't bear to do it to a girl.

[Sophie_01]

I guess your observation is no longer vaild.
42% of girls (most famous option among girls) is only Boys should be spanked, Girls should not be.
And I also agree on this. Spanking girls will lead to psychological issues which is not good at all. While spanking boys is necessary for their discipline both at school and home.

[Vibe201]

@Sophie_01 yeah I have to agree you should really spank girls but it is necessary to spank boys to discipline them perhaps you could spank a girl for misbehaving but you'd need several caveats such as a older women to proform the punishment has apose to a older man, such requirements wouldn't be neccessay for boys, and probably have to do the spanking in private, and probably avoid doing a bear bottom spanking ethier over the skirt or panties but still it would be better to simply avoid spanking girls all together.

[Vibe201]

*Shouldn't

[wethepeople87]

I believe both should be spanked if are misbehaving. Doesn't matter gender they are.

[SomeGuy37]

I agree, but how? Should the girls keep their panties on, while the boys are spanked 'free-balling'? Should it only be private, alone, or should the siblings see, or other family?

[Emilee80]

@SomeGuy37 i was spanked, but over panties

[EyeSeaYew]

I don't think how you discipline your children is solely gender-based, but more individualistic. Different individuals respond best to different forms of discipline. I don't really see a direct tie to gender.

I certainly got spanked as a little kid but not for, like, everything. Usually all I had to get was a look and I automatically straightened back up. Sometimes I'd need a spanking to set me back straight, though. For me my parent's way of discipline was completely effective. Time outs/grounding wouldn't have done diddly squat---my mother actually tried that when I started getting older but nope, was not for me at all. With spanking I definitely got the point and it kept me in line.

[Brownrecluse1224]

both my older brother and i were spanked if we were misbehaving. i misbehaved a lot more :) i am a little stubborn and hard headed when it comes to being told what to do. my brother on the other hand a total nerdy rule follower. i think everyone raises children differently. there is only a problem when the kid has multiple bruises and is malnourished. other than that i think it should be up to the parents

[Asker]

Thanks. So do you think the way my parents did it was okay? Where only the boys are spanked and the girls never were?

[Brownrecluse1224]

i think that it was unfair to the boys. :) thats just one persons opinion

[Vesuvius87]

I don't believe in spanking a child, whether it's a boy or girl. I think there are other ways and spanking is taking it the easy way out of a situation.

[cinderelli]

both can b pain in the arse... soo both should b...

[Anonymous]

I feel like Girls are more responsible than boys. So spanking boys more frequently will be a good idea and especially it is very effective if it is administered by the girls in the family especially by the elder siblings or the mother.
I was spanked by my sister who is 4 years older than me. she spanked me more than my mother did. my mother spanks me over my panties. But my sister spanked me naked, so it was very effective than my mom spanking me, and it even hurts more. and I stopped being mischievous.
And she became more responsible over me. But it is definitely is embarrassing to be spanked naked by your sister, But it benifited me in the future. I feel sorry for boys

[Anonymous]

I belive that only girls should be spanked, when they makes mistakes, but also sometimes when they are doing well, in order to remeber how to behave.
They have to be happy to be spanked, because is correct for them, and they always has to thank their parent for punishing them
When they will marry, they will know how to behave and rispect their husband as head of the family.
obviously we can''t avoid from punishing boys too, but it should be done in other ways

[Sophie_01]

I don't think so. If girls get spanked, they generally develop some psychological issues and will not be able to perform well. Girls never want to lose their dignity and pride. On the other hand, boys don't mind spanking and it is necessary to spank them for disciplining them.

[LadyPurpleheart]

I am a girl and I have gotten spanked many times when I was little and when I misbehaved

[Tamtam2012]

What you get spanked with i got a paddle or a hand an a wooden spoon my mom used to take in her purse

[LadyPurpleheart]

@Tamtam2012 a hand

[Naughtyboy8888]

Well, I believe that anyone that misbehaves should be spanked. That includes all ages. I was threatened to be spanked in front of a lady's children because my group was using some rather foul language.

[ThatRandomOne]

spanking is only ok between consenting adults. In any other context. You are a dipshit. I wish you the worst.

[Error_204]

Spanking children lowers their intelligence. I refuse.

[Asker]

Intelligence is something you have or don't... I don't think spanking can lower that. There are plenty of medical doctors that were spanked as kids and they are pretty smart.

[Error_204]

( www.unh.edu/news/cj_nr/2009/sept/lw25straus.cfm )

This is not a matter of debate.

[Asker]

Your kidding right? That's one person's studies. Look at these:
articles.latimes.com/2001/aug/26/news/mn-38403
www.drmaglio.com/.../punish_parents.php

[Error_204]

The date on the first study is 8 years PRIOR to my study, so it's invalid, and the second "study" is actually a Christian propaganda source.

[Asker]

Invalid? Please. You sound pretty uneducated yourself. I'm sure I can find more recent studies that say it's okay. A study can be bent either way. You cited 1 single man who did a study... that's not very much evidence.

[Error_204]

Find more recent studies then. Also, www.deseretnews.com/.../...ression-depression.html , from 2012. So 2009, 2012, vs. 2001 and some weird unqualified Christian dude who just sort of made it all up. Hell he's a "Neo-Traditionalist".

[Asker]

Ohh look... here's a study done 1 year after the one you cited. So now your study is INVALID.
www.thenewamerican.com/.../548-new-study-finds-spanking-is-good-for-kids

[Error_204]

Did you read the source? There's no link to the study itself. We can't read it. It's just some random guys opinion about shit and all the citations refer to dead-ends as well where the study is never cited. What's worse:

"However, Marjorie Gunnoe, professor of psychology at Calvin College in Grand Rapids, Michigan, said her study showed there was insufficient evidence to deny parents the freedom to choose how they discipline their children."

What the news article says, and this is what he says it says:

“According to the research, children spanked up to the age of 6 were likely as teenagers to perform better at school and were more likely to carry out volunteer work and to want to go to college than their peers who had never been physically disciplined.”

That fucking quote is not in ANYTHING he cited!

[Asker]

There's far too many studies to read. Just do a google search and you'll find a 100 of them. I'm not going to argue back and forth about this... you can find studies and research that goes either way. Just accept that right now there is no clear answer to whether it causes harm or not. Many kids were spanked and turned out just fine. Many were not spanked and did fine as well. This is getting off-topic and I'm done debating because there is no right answer right now.

[Error_204]

So let me understand this, I get two sources within the past decade (actually last 5 years) by academic scholars and schools and you get these weird sources that have no academic backing, are outdated, or are just rants with made up facts and you go from saying "You sound pretty uneducated yourself." to "I can't be bothered to look for evidence!"

Well done.

[Asker]

All you are looking for is an argument. I gave you a study by UC Berkly... I think that's pretty legit. and you tell me it's not valid! How can a study be 'outdated'? Are children made differently these days? No they are not, so it can't be outdated. I'm sure if I cared enough I could find a recent study... but then you would claim it's wrong or not valid. You cited 1 guy's random opinion. As I said, the studies don't matter because we can find studies that go either way.

[Error_204]

I should simply refuse you people these audiences. I am not here to fuck with what little you know.

[MsAnthropist]

No spanking unless it's two consenting adults!