Why are most good people treated badly?

[jack1924]

[SotiCoto]

Stupid question. There are no "good people". "Good" is entirely subjective. So is "badly" for that matter.
Most people are just acting in their own perceived best interests. There is nothing inherently wrong with that. But keep in mind that people are often in competition over resources or intended outcomes, and end up with conflicting desires and intentions that cause them to interfere with each other in undesirable ways. That is simply the nature of existence.
PLUS people tend to screw each other over due to incompetence a lot. Miscommunication, misunderstanding, laziness, profligacy... etc. Generally speaking people screw each other over much more frequently by accident due to incompetence than they do for malicious reasons.

Long story short: People are stupid and there are too many of them packed into too little space.

[lightbulb27]

because people project from some internal emotions and those emotions for some are not love (concern for the other), or so often. So when they sense a power differential/weakness, they take advantage over the other and abuse them.

The other issue is the weaker person does not value them selves high enough to counter. They may even feel good being used, if they were formerly abused. A "good" person can be an easily controlled one.

[whereismyjohnny]

Because some people see kindness as a weakness and exploit it for personal gain.

[jack1924]

Exactly👍🏻

[LazerBean]

Most are not. Some are, and that can be for many reasons.

[Summeroflove]

Unfortunately bad people are out there. Some people don’t realize how they’re treating someone, some don’t care, and some know they’re evil and love it.

That’s just the test people go through in this life. Do you allow these people to turn you into them? Another thing is a lot of people project who they are on others. They feel like they have to get you before you get them.

[Flatmanlewis]

Because they allow it.


Many, many, good people have a kindness which makes them uncomfortable making others uncomfortable. This failure or refusal to establish healthy boundaries and enforce them (often because being liked is more important to them than being happy) allows them to be used.

[Sevenpointfive]

unfortunately, good or nice people are seen as weak. this shouldn't be the case. i'm nice and good until you make me not like you. treat someone good badly and i guarantee they'll bare their teeth. but some can't and we should all try to stand up for those that can't protect themselves

[NathanDavis]

that doesn't really happen around here that much...

open carry states, though...

[jack1924]

Same here in GA

[NathanDavis]

what I see is that... most people are neutral to each other, which... is a great thing

[Bricealan]

You want the hard truth? Many, many people are takers and take advantage of those that are kind, and or generous. with others.

[jack1924]

Absolutely 👍🏻

[genericname85]

most good people aren't treated badly. i'd even argue if they keep people who treat them badly in their life, they aren't "good" people.

[jack1924]

I mean on daily basis

[genericname85]

that doesn't change anything about what i initially said xD

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

If we learn to ignore the haters, we would do better?

[Fromdusktilldawn]

society spits on good people. You know how it is: if you are too nice to people they'll take advantage and will abuse your niceness.

[OddBeMe]

Little secret of life: everyone treats everyone poorly unless you can do something for them.

[Billlewis]

Reverse psychology.

[Spatmates25]

is life is unfair

[jack1924]

Agree 💯

[jahaims]

Most people treat others badly

[Iron_Man]

It does happen I don’t know why

[Twalli]

Because they're taken advantage of by bad people

[driven159]

because people take advantage them

[Joshgag2000]

They cannot stand up for themselves

[TheSpaceGnome]

Because they are exposed to bad people.