I've been thinking about this for some time and I've noticed that people always expect a certain kind of behavior from their SO or from people in general. And often times, those expectations are based on how how they treat the other person. A lot of people expect behavior that is in proportion to how they treat other people.
I don't think I'm doing a very good job of explaining this but what I'm trying to say is that most people know when you're treating them better than they deserve based on how they treat you. I was talking to my girlfriend on the phone recently and she said that she doesn't understand why I love her so much and why I treat her so good. I believe she said that because of how she treats me in return.
The question that I have for you all is whether you think it's a good thing to treat a person better than they deserve? I know that over-kindess can lead to misery and lead to you being hurt/disappointed, but I wonder if it's a good thing. I think that sometimes when you're too nice to people despite them not treating you the best it shows that you don't have the most respect for yourself, or it shows that you're very desperate to just have anyone around.
What are some of your experiences with this? Have you ever been treating someone that you like or someone you were in a relationship better than they deserve? Did they do it to you? How do you feel about people who do that kinda stuff? I would love to read your responses!
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