hi, I am in a similar boat as you!
when I was a kid, I wanted to please my parents so I stayed home and never went out with other kids to do anything.
When I got married, I just stayed home and when I had kids and wanted to go out with other moms my husband would say, "why are you doing that? all you need is me and the kids, why do you need other people?".
I joined a couple of moms club, mops and other church related bible studies that have free child care, because my husband lives really far from our homes...
pm me if you ever just need someone to talk to.
I watch a lot of youtube videos like superwoman.
I feel like... I don't know how to socialize some times.
I feel like no one cares about me, or my feelings or want to help me with anything and I have to do everything for myself and them all the time... and no one wants me to ask them out and no one will ask me out... to just hang out... I feel like I have social anxiety. I am going to see a counselor next week to talk about it, my husband is going to take off work so I can go.
again just pm me and tell me about how you feel, what you want out of life and things like that if you ever need someone to talk to.
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Tell him that you cannot be confined to your home all day and everyday, just get out and take a walk with your baby and even get a sitter if you want some time off (mid day) go get your nails done, honestly the partial reason for people lacking motivation is because theyre stuck at home all the time.
you are an adult. he ca want or not want whatever he wants but he can't make you do anything. go out! and if you want to work get a job. if he makes enough for you not to work he makes enough for a sitter.
why are you married to a man who treats you with such disdain?
I am at home all day, too. My only reason is I am home schooled. I don't blame you. Staying at home get really boring. ('-' )
Way don't you just go on walks with the baby? Maybe even take the baby to the park? I am sure you would meet other stay at home mums there.
I am like you now since I decide to acompany with her to she die.
But really she got bored and it is dangerous for her to go out.
She is a woman spending money through brain.
Howevery, I think she feel empty since get retired. Dont be like me , I can spend several weeks in my room. Cause still many thing to do in this room.
You can find something small to know universe if there is nothing can do when you go out either.
it seems like you need to take some control of your life. you've let people dictate how it is you will live your life so far. now with your parents that is understandable but you are a grown woman who doesn't need to simply subscribed to the rules of your husband sets (especially these ones) if you don't want to
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You're in a trap right now that's really hard to get out. You sound like your marriage was arranged instead of out of love. If he's afraid of you cheating then why would he even get married. He's so insecure it's disgusting. Secretly build your own life behind his back. Get a job once your child is old enough to be at school. Freedom and happiness is way more important than having no freedom but financial security.
Your husband is abusive that's a sign of an abusive relationship. He isolates you so you don't get any ideas seeing other people's relationships aren't as controlled as yours so he can control you even more.
its your life so you only control your path... i suggest you get up and get out and you never know it may improve your relationship too.
Dis is why we need a gag party so we can go out. Destress... Anyway, your husband is controlling... That relationship is heading to a rocky journey.
Hang out online. Get friends online and Skype them. Try hobbies and dressing up the baby.
Your husband is a CONTROL FREAK and acts like he owns you, you should divorce it's a toxic marriage.
Find a hobby. It could be painting, drawing, knitting, video games, biking, hiking, anything.
Go out with the baby while he's still work
Your husband is basically keeping you hostage
A mariage should involve an mtual agreement
Well go out... have fun!
Get a divorce and child custody...
Do what you've been thinking. Fuck his friends.
Just get a job then.
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