Tired of staying home all day?

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Throughout my life, I've been staying in, cause my parents were strict, not until i was a senior in hs, that was when my parents allowed me to go out often to hang and do school activities. Plus, starting going out w sisters. However, there was still a time limit and such. Anyways, i then got married, and my husband wouldn't let me go out w friends and sisters, he doesn't even want to go out either. He makes enough, so he doesn't want me to work. Its been 3 years, im now a stay at home mom, and im tired of being home all day. I get a bit jealous when my husband does new things, like get a new job, new opportunities, and such. While i just stay home all day and night. He doesn't even appreciate me either, always calling me lazy, when he never helps w the baby and around the house. I do everything in the house. What to do? Any tips for being home all day?

HOAAH · Accepted Answer

hi, I am in a similar boat as you!
when I was a kid, I wanted to please my parents so I stayed home and never went out with other kids to do anything.
When I got married, I just stayed home and when I had kids and wanted to go out with other moms my husband would say, "why are you doing that? all you need is me and the kids, why do you need other people?".

I joined a couple of moms club, mops and other church related bible studies that have free child care, because my husband lives really far from our homes...

pm me if you ever just need someone to talk to.

I watch a lot of youtube videos like superwoman.

I feel like... I don't know how to socialize some times.

I feel like no one cares about me, or my feelings or want to help me with anything and I have to do everything for myself and them all the time... and no one wants me to ask them out and no one will ask me out... to just hang out... I feel like I have social anxiety. I am going to see a counselor next week to talk about it, my husband is going to take off work so I can go.

again just pm me and tell me about how you feel, what you want out of life and things like that if you ever need someone to talk to.

Cmasterson · Accepted Answer

Tell him that you cannot be confined to your home all day and everyday, just get out and take a walk with your baby and even get a sitter if you want some time off (mid day) go get your nails done, honestly the partial reason for people lacking motivation is because theyre stuck at home all the time.

AriadneSky · Accepted Answer

you are an adult. he ca want or not want whatever he wants but he can't make you do anything. go out! and if you want to work get a job. if he makes enough for you not to work he makes enough for a sitter.

why are you married to a man who treats you with such disdain?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I am at home all day, too. My only reason is I am home schooled. I don't blame you. Staying at home get really boring. ('-' )
Way don't you just go on walks with the baby? Maybe even take the baby to the park? I am sure you would meet other stay at home mums there.

ibodi · Accepted Answer

I am like you now since I decide to acompany with her to she die.
But really she got bored and it is dangerous for her to go out.
She is a woman spending money through brain.
Howevery, I think she feel empty since get retired. Dont be like me , I can spend several weeks in my room. Cause still many thing to do in this room.
You can find something small to know universe if there is nothing can do when you go out either.

madhatters4 · Accepted Answer

it seems like you need to take some control of your life. you've let people dictate how it is you will live your life so far. now with your parents that is understandable but you are a grown woman who doesn't need to simply subscribed to the rules of your husband sets (especially these ones) if you don't want to

fueledbythc · Answer

You're in a trap right now that's really hard to get out. You sound like your marriage was arranged instead of out of love. If he's afraid of you cheating then why would he even get married. He's so insecure it's disgusting. Secretly build your own life behind his back. Get a job once your child is old enough to be at school. Freedom and happiness is way more important than having no freedom but financial security.

blondfrog · Answer

Your husband is abusive that's a sign of an abusive relationship. He isolates you so you don't get any ideas seeing other people's relationships aren't as controlled as yours so he can control you even more.

wankiam · Answer

its your life so you only control your path... i suggest you get up and get out and you never know it may improve your relationship too.

ΉOMO_乇尺乇CTU丂 · Answer

Dis is why we need a gag party so we can go out. Destress... Anyway, your husband is controlling... That relationship is heading to a rocky journey.

Anonymous · Answer

Hang out online. Get friends online and Skype them. Try hobbies and dressing up the baby.

Avalon2 · Answer

Your husband is a CONTROL FREAK and acts like he owns you, you should divorce it's a toxic marriage.

epicevan97 · Answer

Find a hobby. It could be painting, drawing, knitting, video games, biking, hiking, anything.

Kitten967 · Answer

Go out with the baby while he's still work

Ladyslipper · Answer

Your husband is basically keeping you hostage

Ovidiu-Nicolae · Answer

A mariage should involve an mtual agreement

Bleepasaurus_RexEwww · Answer

Well go out... have fun!

Anonymous · Answer

Get a divorce and child custody...

Anonymous · Answer

Do what you've been thinking. Fuck his friends.

Anonymous · Answer

Just get a job then.

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