What's your definition of a toxic person?

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looneymalooney · Accepted Answer

I do tend to believe some are toxic and need to be removed from your life. What I find toxic is people that behind their apparently concerned behaviour, actually want to find details about you that will let them know your life is not ok, that you are suffering, that your relationship maybe is not going well.
They feed on this kind of information and compensate their frustrations knowing others "have it harder". Besides that, some seem to actually enjoy seeing you suffer.

I had this uni friend that would always bring up this girl that I loved from all my heart waiting to see how I react. it did not go well between me and that girl and I was feeling that this guy was always bringing her up in our conversations, just to force me say something bad about her so he could spill the beans to her.

It happened that this girl moved right across the street from me at one point. The next day, this guy was desperate for me to tell him where I live exactly. He knew the area, but not where I was exactly.
When he asked me, I realized why he wants to know, so I just told him "yeah dude, I'm right across the street from her". He got quiet all of the sudden.

At that time, I was thinking I'm mean, so I let this go, though I had a feeling he might be two-faced. I eventually told him to fuck off :)))
no regret whatsoever. Why keep this kind of people around you anyway?
Sure you will create a short term conflict, when you remove them, but I was never afraid of stirring the water when required.

*I hate people that say "yeah, I know he/she is toxic, but I don't want to create drama, so I just let me be around". No, it means you are afraid of confrontation and you are weak.

savalisk · Accepted Answer

Someone who is a negative influence on your life.
Someone who doesn't help you grow stronger and more positive as a person.
This is the type of person who won't have faith in you, won't believe in you, won't have your back in difficult times, tends to bring you down, uses you for their own personal gain or desires. Things of this nature.

A good example is I used to have a friend who displayed qualities of the above nature. There was a time where I had a major computer and gaming addiction that I wanted to get rid off (or at least get under control). I announced this to my then group of friends to which this "friend" scoffed "He won't do it."
I lasted 20 days before I gave into temptation. Once this "friend" saw me come online he immediately responded with "I knew you couldnt do it." It made me feel like complete shit.
In the end, I used that as motivation to overcome my addiction and control the amount of gaming and computer usage in my day to day life. Now I only use the computer for work, university and the occasional facebook chat where texting isn't available. I still game and use the computer for free time here and there but that's FAR less than before where I would waste whole days on gaming that could have been spent more productively... like making new friends.

LolaB13 · Accepted Answer

My last ex was toxic. Verbally and sometimes physical abusive. Just an all around energy drainer. Any time someone was doing something to make their lives better or accomplished something he would always have something negative to say. Oh but when he needed money he would call them. He was a chronic golf digger. He would always want to drive my car mind you he had no license. The final straw was when he took it when I was sleep to go see his ex. Brought the damn thing back w a dent in it. Then when I confronted him about it he had the nerve to tell me he let the bitch drive the car. I snapped.

Nyx_85 · Accepted Answer

Anyone who makes you feel drained after spending time with them. All toxic people aren't necessarily 'bad' people nor are they that way to intentionally hurt or cause discomfort to anyone. They are often people going through issues in their life but a lot of the time they prefer to talk/complain about them rather than seek real help. We all need to vent at times but they tend to take it a step beyond. This is what makes them toxic. Any one of us can become toxic at any point in our lives. It's important to be able to recognize our own toxicity when it comes up.

aicarg · Accepted Answer

Someone who is excessively draining. Who just weighs you down physically, mentally and emotionally. I currently have this one person from work in mind who is just so toxicfingly controlling that when I stood up towards her in showing she doesn't get under my skin... she tries to convince those around me of the person "I am" with misinformation. Thankfully I work with a majority of mature people who know and see the truth.

tangymarmalade · Accepted Answer

THERE ARE WAY TOO MANY SIGNS OF A TOXIC PERSON AND VARIED DEFINITIONS. If I list them down here, I know nobody will bother to read it.

So I'll simply say- "toxic people are like clouds in your life.. your life is better n brighter if they disperse away".

OlderAndWiser · Answer

My first wife. Look for "toxic" in the dictionary and, next to the definition, you'll see her picture.

Cccgala · Answer

A toxic person is someone never proud of his/her friends' great achievements.

Hal2002 · Answer

Someone that is always negative, self centered, mean to others, acts like they have your back while the whole time they are pushing a knife in it.

It took me a long time to realize the I needed to get rid of the toxic people I had around me, as they were making me physically sick.

What really shocked me, was that I did not realize for a long time was that I had toxic people around me. One of the people I had to get away from was my best friend since childhood, I never realized how toxic he was and the way he did things behind my back that effected how others saw me.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

From personal experience it's a person that sees life with the glass of water half empty rather than to half full. They are quiters, weak and speak negative words a lot.

They tend to have no ambition to get better in life and see difficulty almost in everything instead of opportunity. And are also disruptive of peace in the sense they are annoying with the bad vibes they give out.

Avoid them like a extremly dangerous plague because if you hang around them, they will intoxic your mind slowly but surely without you even noticing it has happened.

fashionguy17 · Answer

People say that I'm a pessimistic person. The reason that I am is because I've dealt with toxic people allll my life. As a result, I prefer my own company and don't talk to many people. People are evil and petty these days.

At my job, I see toxic people everyday. How are they are toxic? They talk a lot of shit about each other. They will smile in your face, but talk shit about you when you're not around. I work in a professional field. I'm a technical writer for a technology company... but people don't act professional there.

I believe talking shit about people is very petty, and it shows how insecure you are with your own life.

In life, I have dealt with back stabbers, fake people and people who flip flop. I don't need people in my life, so I keep to myself and just focus on my own growth.

think_logic85 · Answer

- the one who constantly puts you down

- the one whose selfish put says that they have your best interest at heart

- the one whose constantly tires to tell you on how to live your life, the know-it-all-type

- the one who brings nothing but negativity in your life

lunaah · Answer

-always negative

-can't be happy for you have to be envious and bitter about your achievements

-only ever care about themselves and never offer any support or reassurance to you

-they take off you all the time and never seem to give anything back for example - time, money, support, effort etc

-they are just plain selfish and blame others constantly for anything they do incorrectly because they can't admit they did anything wrong

fabulouspancakes · Answer

Anybody who consistently brings you down, especially intentionally but sometimes subconsciously. This could be a sociopath/narcissist who takes pleasure in manipulating you, or just an extremely negative person who brings you down to their level to make themselves feel better.

denisenic01e · Answer

Someone that's always negative, spreading hate, gossiping & always speaking negatively about others.. Someone that enjoys making others feel like crap, someone that uses other people's kindness & generosity to their advantage, a liar, a backstabber, a narcissist.

Nodachi · Answer

Insufferable people who constantly need self validation, cannot take responsibility for their own actions, want to play the victim and are unwilling to take moments of introspection to see that maybe... just... maybe, you are the one that is actually the problem.

It's worse if they pull you down and bite the hand that is trying to feed as well, by blaming you for "you're being a BAD FRIEND why can't you just LOVE ME?"

IceQueen328 · Answer

someone who only sees you when they need u and someone who wastes ur time. Someone who disappears when u need them and someone who is not good for your mental health. and someone who makes u feel insecure when u are around them. if they really appreciate u then u would be confident around them but if u are insecure and dont feel happy about yourself when u are around them then i believe that is the very definition of toxic people.

NeumannCluster · Answer

1. A toxic person is a person that erodes the quality of situations and/or causes misfortune over time upon you and the mutual relations you have with them.

2. Some one who is always negative with every situation and that negativity starts to affect you.

gregnator · Answer

imho toxic people are those who will shout down, deplatform or use other means to shut someone up who doesn't support or share your views. For me those people are the most toxic, because if you critize something they like or support or believe in, instead of engaging in debate or discussion, they simply yell and sometimes try to harm you. for having a different opinion

ubikx · Answer

Sociopaths and psychopaths and narcissists- people who lack moral code. Being in a relationship with them is poisonous to you.

Incompatibility can be confused with toxicity. Genuine toxicity is detrimental to you. Toxic people are vicious and they want what they want and will climb other people to get to the top.

But most people aren't entirely toxic or nontoxic but a mixture.

HOAAH · Answer

Passive aggressive person, person who is double minded, reactive, immature, unforgiving, manipulative, self centered, narcissistic, greedy, overeactive and drama queen/king, self righteous, easily butt hurt, taking things too personal, always lying...

Penged · Answer

Hm.. i think a toxic person is someone who lies occasionally. Who doesn't support you but drags you down instead cause of their negativity. Who disrespects you. Who doesn't give you space when you need it. And lastly and the most important one is when they threaten to do things if you dont listen to them (kms etc)

Anticipation · Answer

Great Question!!

People who yell or force feed their will on others.

Sadly, people who yell, were brought up in that environment, surrounded by negative energy and weren't mentored to handle an obstacles or don't know how to act around those that don't see it their way, whether they are right or wrong.

CoolSky01 · Answer

No ambitions or motivation to improve , iam kinda lazy but i study when i have to, i want a good job, i want to improve physically and mentally, i want to do things, but i have friends that are happy acting like 12 year olds at 22 ... to me this is toxic, they are childish and have no real understanding of life , no ambitions or need to improve they're happy being little kids.

plus a person who's always negative or makes you feel angry or bad about yourself.

nowhere_dani · Answer

A user and an abuser Someone who constantly brings you down or insults you to make themselves feel better Egotistical Narcissists Entitlement Selfish

lucasnabizada · Answer

In a relashonship Someone who simply is very sad more often than happy...
Now there's different degrees obviously, but the problem is pretty clear, someone who is sad makes you sad in the long run... If there is a cloud of sadness and emotional baggage on someone you're involved with, it's going to fly over you as well for sure... As for NOT in relationships, well it's easier... Leftist, Liberals, and other wicked things... LOL

momo770 · Answer

Since I've had one of these individuals in my life let me tell you what they did. this woman talk shit about me behind my back, to my face, every time I saw her she was saying something about me and then she threatened my life. our manager liked her and didn't like me, took her side, and they fired me. I am currently in Union arbitration to get my job back and it's been three years since I've worked there. That's my definition: someone who's malicious in every sense of the word.

Nony143 · Answer

The person which become so polite , caring, dedicated towards you just for a particular cause or any type of particular work but in reality the person is very black hearted 🖤, the main moto of life of that person is to make poison in the life of others and just to fulfil own need and to do only own work..

InfoBot · Answer

The key trait is that they are manipulative. They use emotion, attention and affection as weapons rather than blessings. They never let you find any real level of security.

lightning32 · Answer

anybody with consistently negative vibes. someone that makes you a worse or lesser version of yourself. those that bring drama and eat away at time for no reason other than their boredom and lack of motivation to do positive things.

Wess123 · Answer

Someone who is always negative never finds there's good things in life over then the bad. Someone who is constantly raging and upset at everything and argues to have an argument

Elarra · Answer

Someone who prevents you from growing. A toxic person isn't necessarily a bad person, but their habits and tendencies can inhibit your ability to grow and succeed.

TheUsername27 · Answer

Someone that plays with your emotions on purpose. An ex friend of mine did this. He has also fallen out with many of his friends in the past for a good year or so plus. That's the biggest sign of someone toxic... someone that falls out with people all the time.

Robsinsf53 · Answer

A miserable fuck! Someone who trolls for people he deems a friend so he can bring that person along for a downward ride. I know two of these people and one got laid off about 5 years ago and he's been just filled up with negativity since.

Fionna19 · Answer

A person who has a negative impact on your life constantly. Its someone who damages you or your life in a way thats not necessarily physical/emotional (can be) but a person who is poison to you metaphorically.

Potato_Goddess · Answer

Who brings drama into your life. Blames on you. Irresponsible living. Gets jelly. I Habe toxic friends. They think I'm selfish. I told them why I wasn't.

sadgirl2002 · Answer

Someone who you makes you feel DRAINED whenever you hang out with them. They make you forget who you are. They don't aspire you to be a better person. They are mean to you out of nowhere. They try to peer pressure you to do things... the list goes on

Xoxoxooo123 · Answer

Anybody who doesn't make me feel good about myself, is good for me, or contributes to my happinesss. Someone who is just a bad friend i guess or is a negative influence on me and my goals.

_Antagonist_ · Answer

ME. Just kidding. How to make a toxic person: Ignorance Self-centrism and a dash of Entitlement. You'll get a toxic prick with those ingredients guaranteed 👌 Cheers

MarkGerrits · Answer

people Wich you help out with almost anything and when you ask they ask no so the next time you say no and then they are angry cuz you said no. hate those kind of toxic people.

browning1996 · Answer

Someone who's draining. Nothing good comes from being around them, they literally suck the happy out of you. They impose negative emotions

BombAshChick · Answer

A toxic person is someone who will try to push their opinions on you, make you feel ill just being in a room with them, just plain ignorant, and has to always be right.

FudgeMeSlowly · Answer

I knew a guy in school who would convince some of his friends to skip class and even cats. But the thing is, he would borrow notes and write letters to the dean so as to do a special exam ( the ones he missed). He now finished school and his pals are still in school

JJHill · Answer

someone who treats people bad and negatively influences your life

Dim1213 · Answer

Any fri nd that takes more than they give and will gladly take it all without giving anything back.

estoydorado1 · Answer

Someone who's self-serving at the expense of others, entitled, and completely unable or unwilling to cooperate with others.

lareina05 · Answer

someone you should totally avoid at all cost. they lack morals and can bring you down with them

Youngpapai · Answer

The person who will not prevent ya from stickin ya. A real pot of glue😑. But there is also one who will try to be friends with ya to better know your weaknesses and copy ya, or whoever will do everything so that you don't succeed 😜

fueledbythc · Answer

Pride is one trait of someone toxic. Its the source of all evil in my opinion. It creates an ego which leads to greed. The greed will lead to a huge ego boost. Pride creates unnecessary one upping which our society thives on now.

Carley99 · Answer

A narcissistic person that brings you down and do sent want you to accomplish anything in life

MrMysteryMan · Answer

Someone who is either a direct or an indirect drain on your persona or livelihood.

JosyJosy · Answer

People who are closeminded.  People who think that people who do not share their opinion, are enemies. People who don't make effort to listen to someone else's point of vied.

Hans222 · Answer

Someone who's playing false games... pretending to be the good guy or girl until they take their chance to steal from you, fool you or worse :-(

WhereAmI · Answer

Someone who is always negative. You need to keep that shit bottled up. Nobody wants to be around someone who is never optimistic and always sees the worst in a situation.

Dingsbums · Answer

Someone who influences/affects you in a bad way and holds u down from your goals and dreams. Someone who makes u feel bad emotionally or tries to control you / change you

DizzyDesii · Answer

My ex and my almost boyfriend were very toxic. I knew they were bad for me. They said they were bad for me. Yet we couldnt keep away from eachother.

Mehoyminoy · Answer

A person who talks about other people to you and is constantly ragging on someone else's looks fo absolute no reason.

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

Negative, pessimistic, blunt, inconsiderate, etc. Those are people who clearly need to fix themselves before they attempt to connect to someone else

__Victoria__ · Answer

They are always negative they are always looking bad side of everything they are creating problems. A toxic person will never be support you so I don't like this kind of person I cut them out of my life

artie1983 · Answer

People who don't respect (they don't need to agree though) others' decisions in life

lumos · Answer

Someone who follows the cycle of abuse, or someone who simply doesn't treat you right.

trickykiwi · Answer

who makes you feel bad about yourself all the time and also someone who takes advantage of you..

Raghav33 · Answer

Someone trying to bring you do down for no reason in any possible way is a Toxic Person.

Likes2drive · Answer

Well toxic which also means poisonous is obviously someone you want to stay away from since they will always bring you down with their negativity and crazy ideals

BasilBrushSays · Answer

Feminism; it has literally destroyed relationships and the dating paradigm.

Casey1411 · Answer

Someone who's very self centered that comes packing drama and negativity and causing damage wherever they go or they try to bring you down and poison the people around you against you. Someone who causes strife in every aspect of your life

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