What's more painful, relationship break ups or friendship break ups?

[lovelife119]

Friendship break ups

Relationship break ups

[tiffany_g]

Friendship breakups. Romantic relationships are almost always on the bubble. There are things you'll accept from friends that you wouldn't accept from someone you're spending the rest of your life with. For example, I know a girl who was highly supportive of one of her friends when she came out as trans to her, but she immediately dumped her partner when she revealed she was trans (her exact words were "I'm not going to date a woman.")

The constant drunkenness of a friend may prompt a lot of concern and numerous heart to heart talks, and though the constant drunkenness of a lover may prompt more concern and more talks, it's far more likely that you'll give up on a lover who refuses to get their drinking under control than a friend who refuses to.

It hurts more to lose a friendship because if you just fade out of each others' lives you feel like an overall bad human being for not being there, especially if you find out they were going through something serious when you started to become "too busy" to make time for them.

If it ends as the result of a fight it hurts more than a romantic breakup because you know they put up with more from a friend than they would from a lover. If you've done something that leads to them ending the friendship you know you've done something horrible.

And I'm talking about close friends. Someone you just started hanging out with may give you the boot for any number of reasons, but once someone becomes like family to you it takes a pretty serious mistake to turn them against you.

[Anonymous]

Relationship break ups. There are more genuine emotions involved. Overtime I’ve realized that the man I was involved with had my back and was more genuine than any of my “friends”. In my case, my friends weren’t my friends and he was the only one I had all of that time. I didn’t really care about losing them either. Years later I tried to get back in touch and just see how they were, and I was treated almost like I never existed. These were Literally my best friends for years. They all cliqued up and kicked me out of the group. I’m the only reason they knew each other. But thank god I have two real friends from childhood. They don’t have that.

[Naruto_Uzumaki]

I think both are painful but I think a relationship break up is more painful because you're sharing intimate information about yourself that you wouldn't share with your friends. I don't think it's easy to break up with someone that you already had sex with and shared intimate and personal information that almost no one knows about you and I think you can never replace someone doesn't mean if it was a close friend or if it was your partner

[curiousnorway]

I guess relationship break ups is more difficult since people often expect it to be either permanent or long-lasting. In addition it's more intimate and if you lives with the person or is hanging around with them quite often, you gets a deeper relationship. Many loves their partner more than their friends.

Friends from my experience is a more thing that comes and goes except if it's special-friends. Friends is something you often gets when you're going to school, work or recreational activity, but when either you or they quits and moves, it often ends up with getting more distant. Friends also often gets too different interests and do therefor choose to quit the friendships.

[Evenell]

It's one thing to lose a partner, but if you're bad for each other, then it'd be best if it ended. A friendship, especially with someone I've known for a long time, means much more. If my partner is also my best friend, it can really hurt. True friends are few and far between.

[madhatters4]

depends on a lot of factors. but let's say almost all things are even. you've had a relationship and a friendship that have lasted as long. i'd say the relationship is tougher to lose because it is both a friendship and romantic relationship. typically people have other friends so you aren't left totally alone in that regard whereas losing a relationship you don't generally have another person who can fill that role

[EpicDweeb]

That depends. Friendship breakups may happen slowly and subtly without your realizing that they'd ever happened. While it sounds sad this means they aren't all that painful. Friendship breakups, if they're somehow confrontational will tend to be more filled with regret but they hurt less in the moment.

I think relationship break ups tend to hurt more immediately and more painfully than friendship breakups because our emotions are often far more involved (for better or worse).

[brendon76]

For me there is no contest. A relationship breakup is the worst kind. But in addition to losing someone you love and the romantic bond and support that has been formed they always become my best friend as well. So in a relationship breakup I am loosing both the romantic and friendship all at once. It can be devastating in my opinion.

[Hal2002]

As a guy, for the most part a relationship break up is harder. We guys outgrow friendship all the times, when we get in a relationship a lot of the time we move away from our hang out buddies as the relationship becomes serious.

That is why we suffer more when a relationship fails, because we have in a lot of cases moved away from our friend support network.

[DianaWest]

Relationship, definitely. Who cares about deceitful, jealous sleazeballs who try to break you and your partner up and steal your job? I don't trust "friends." A person who loves you intimately usually cares more about you then so-called friends who only bitch, backstab and spread rumours while you're not around.

[Brandobionicle]

I guess you haven't had any real friends yet.

[DianaWest]

@Brandobionicle that is sadly true man.

[existing_not_living]

It depends on the relationship. As much as it would pain me to lose my best friends, I think I would be an absolute wreck breaking up with my boyfriend. I love my friends like crazy too, but he’s my ultimate partner in crime and if I lost him I’d lose myself too.

[bethshepherd]

Relationship break ups can be a lot more painful than friendship break ups because the person who is left likes to assume that if they had not broken up they would be very important to each other forever, maybe making babies and living together, where a friend is someone you see now and then and has their own life. http://www.webclairvoyant.com

[SomeoneBlue]

Something like this happened to me recently actually...

My close friend felt that suicide was funny... I posted some stuff about how suicide is not a joke and he said that all I want is attention and that I faked suicide. Not to mention I am depressed.

I have not talked to him in over a month. But, it was extremely hard... I needed the friendship and ditching me when I was in pain was hard and the worst possible timing.

[SC4321]

Friend breakups hurt, but not nearly as bad as relationship breakups. I've had friends come and go and was upset for maybe a month or two about it. But when my one relationship ended it took me about a year and a half to make any real progress in moving on.

[Caaarl]

It depends but in general relationships are more painful. You get a lot more intimate with a partner than a friend.

If you are a lot closer to your friends then that will hurt more. But naturally the only connection that will trump the relationship between two people in true love is their love for their child.

[Evkaxy]

I think that relationship is more personal... it's one person who chose you, learnt the most intimate things about you and then for some reason rejected you... but admittedly I never lost a friend suddenly, few of them sort of gradually disappeared from my life

[chriscdi]

Friendship cause in a true friendship a guy/girl doesn't come in between you two so using common sense a friendship is more important than a relationship when it comes to a break up besides relationships come and go and who is therr to comfort you through it? Friends

[chriscdi]

Through break ups*

[Anonymous]

Friends. Only because my best friends have been my friends for about 18 years. We have been through so much together. There was a time I felt like we drifted. They got their friends in college and I got mine. One was into sports, another into medical field and I was into arts at the time. It was super depressing. But we are close again! With a relationship you can be like ehh move on.

[CheckPlease]

For me it was then that friend turned into a relationship and she ended it and became so spiteful. I lost my friend and girlfriend and all she remembers are the worse parts. She does not seem to remember any of the time we spent as friends.

[SarahsSummer]

Friendship break ups for sure. In the back of our mind, most everybody is concerned if the love relationship is going to last or break up but most people don’t mentally prepare themselves if a friend will dump them.

[BrittBratt2416]

Both cause they are relationships and people your the closest with. When my friend turned on me I was hurt and when I got slumped I was still hurt. So it really doesn't matter, losing people you care about just hurts platonic or romantic.

[steez_187]

I'd say friendship cause relationships are either bound to end if some one loses emotions. My point being a friendship will only end if one of you really messed up along term and on going friendship but then again it's both kinda the same if you knew the person your in a relationship with since you were young

[majorG]

It probably depends, but "breaking up" with a childhood friend hurts a lot more than breaking up with someone you have only known for a year or two. Childhood friends are like your DNA, they shaped what you are today.

[Logorithim]

That's a very good question. It can be harder to lose a friend in some cases (this has actually been my experience), especially a friend of the opposite gender.

[Idada]

I think both because there's a connection there that just don't simply go away but sometimes it's for the best.