*dont sweat it. It's good that you start off asking how are you, what are you doing -etc. it's good converstational starters. but if that's all you go by then why don't you ask her if she has any plans for the weekend or if your just starting to get to know her ask her what she likes -you know the basics: hobbies, what music do you listen too, etc. Getting to know her better that way it opens up doors to other topics to talk about. And, if txting is what you feel comfortable doing right now then by all means txt her to your heart's content. Maybe after being comfortable with each other txting -call her. And if calling her at a good time is what you worry about, do what I do to my guy: [i'm redoing this just for you situation] 1. Txt her -see what if she's up to. If she replys and says something like "oh nothing" or she just plain states that she isn't doing anything important at the moment -surprise her with a call. 2. You've called and she answers. NOW WHAT? -don't panic. You don't have to start off with a lengthy call. Just say "hey, thought I'd hear your voice for a change" -or something better and work off from there. Calling and txting are different. because there's a limited amount as to what you can say in a txt to what you can actually say in a conversation.
i hope this helps! ;]
oh and here's another advice that I've gotten off from this site:
making plans with her also can give a lot to talk about. so, if
you do get further along with her -take her to the movies or
something. it would give you and her something to connect
about later on.
calll her! my guy won't call me and its the same thing you said .just texting and how you doing and stuff. so annoying! but the truth is I don't know what to say to him either. but you can just take it as it goes. you'll find stuff to talk about and at frust you can keep it short and sweet,.eventually it will get more talkative =] talk about random occurances that happend to you that day or about weekend plans
a lot of guys can't talk on the phone & not all girls can either. in fact I find it's easier to talk to someone face to face than on the phone (since you can do other things at the same time)
chat problems (gtalk, etc) are good too, since you can do things like play games or swap web surfing tings with each other & not have to just continuously talk.
keep in mind that SMS (txt) is *expensive*
with that in mind usually the most interesting subject for a person is themselves: ask opinions, find out likes & dislikes, work out what's similar between you. there are lots of relatively safe topics for that, to start with: music, movies, books, games, etc. find out your girls favouritecolours, clothes, animals, flowers, food, etc. offer opinions of your own. if you find it really hard to talk, then simply pick a topic and talk about that ("tongiht we're going to talk about movies. what' sthe first movie you ever saw. " etc)
good luck
You should watch the video " How To Talk To People: Better Communication Skills" in the Video Section. (up in the top right hand corner of the screen) It has a lot of good tips on how to talk to people and how to keep a conversation going. There is a lot of good information in those videos. Take a look!
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