I mean most times people like that have to get comfortable around you and they become a more open person. Does being quiet/shy necessarily make a person boring/dull?
Does being quiet/shy necessarily make a person boring/dull?
Around where I live, apparently so. Yet oddly, there’s not a huge amount going on (at least for a night life) where I live.
Personally I don’t drink much. I’m a bit introverted and a bit shy, and a lot of people think that’s boring. I do some geeky stuff too, which is seen as boring. It’s constantly implied that I am.
I don’t go to the clubs, not into dancing... or and I don’t drink much. Don’t smoke weed, I love reading, love movies and animation and video games and board games... all kinds of niche, geeky stuff... so I’m boring because I’d rather try a trivia night or do board games than go to a club for hours (and spend $40 for three hours) and either get practically dry humped or ignored.
But I don’t see it that way. Sometimes I think I am because I go out once a week, go to church, go a movie... but if I’m comfortable, I can talk about the basics of anything, which I don’t think is boring. I have a lot of different interests, they’re just geeky. And many of them are solitary because no one ever wants to go try it.
It’s predictable, but most people are... in their own ways.
If you are ALWAYS quiet and shy then YES that would be a really bad experience especially if you are out going. Now if they are just shy in the beginning than that is okay because everybody is guarded one way or the other. Just know the difference. It's like people who respond to text messages with one or two words after you typed out a thoughtful reply... these people tend to not only be shy but non adventurous which just isn't for me!
Yes, but as humans, we formulate first impressions.
If the person seems dull and boring during the first conversation, we would continue to think they possess those characteristics afterward. Luckily, if proximity is at its' works then there are chances to get to know the person better. Also, circumstances such as the person being a classmate that sits next to you, you will let you have more convos with them and will probably change your judgment about them since you talk to them more, unlike a one-time convo.
I have met people who open up the more you spend time with them! It really does change how I meet people now.
Nah with me I can almost always tell off back that a person is shy I never assume that’s how they are 24/7. That could be because I’m the same way lol.
No. People who think that lacks respect and is prejudice towards others. Some people just don't know when to shut up. Quietness is a gift. Notice how a lot of people who talk too much lack good attention span, and never seem to pay attention to anything you say? A lot of people who told me I was too quiet only made me want to close off and be even quieter. And was always jealous of me because I am a quiet person who doesn't start trouble. If people want you to engage more, then it needs to start without judging you.
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I consider myself shy. But I will talk and have conversations with everyone. I like talking to people and getting to know them. Just recently I had an hour or two hour conversation with my professor about his life. He was telling me his life story. I enjoyed the talk but I had no comments about what he was saying because of the generation gap. He's 72 and I am 25 so the stuff he was talking about I had no idea about. So I couldn't add anything there which felt weird. I am used to being able to contribute to a conversation. But it was a nice conversation and I still enjoyed myself. After a few hours talking to people I usually get tired and need time to recharge by myself. But I do like talking to people I just need time to relax after a while.
My friend is really shy. I thought I was considered shy but she is on another level. Whenever it's just me and her we talk all the time for hours if we hangout. But if I bring my brother along or another friend who she doesn't know well she won't say one word throughout the entire hangout. If they try to talk to her it's like pulling teeth. She literally cannot keep a conversation going at all. She gives only one worded replies. I'll pull her to the side and ask if she's uncomfortable because if she is I won't invite that friend along anymore. But she tells me she's completely fine. So I don't get why she acts to awkward. Maybe she has social anxiety. I am not sure what it is. But she is the definition shy. Never met anyone as quiet as her.
Nope. I used to be really shy, except in school during academic discussions, & only had childhood neighbors as friends. However, when someone would take the time to get to know me, even a little bit, I was always described as interesting. I'm still a bit shy today, but that's mostly in the work place. I don't know if people know, but you can get fired for any reason & they don't necessarily have to tell you why in the state of Missouri. I feel like shy people are just too worried about being judged & ridiculed for being themselves. Other times I've found out that it's due to others being too fake toward them, so they've built up a wall of mistrust that transforms into shyness by instinct.
No, beign shy only makes it hard to get to know what makes that person interesting. So that means making an effort. Not everybody has enaugh patience or interest to invest time and make an effort to discover a shy person. Must feel really intrigued or must have a clue about your inner person to keep stuck.
Just like a book, maybe is very catchy since the begging or maybe the begging is a bit slow, nothing really happens, but must be something that makes you wonder and keep waiting or maybe is just boring.
Your second sentence, "So that means making an effort" makes me think that someone that is shy has an advantage of finding someone worth their time. By showing that they are making an effort it shows that they're really interested into getting to know you as a person as opposed to them being interested in how much you can entertain them.
@johnny_hustle Yeah but more than I would put it like they don't find people worth their time, people worth their time are usually the ones finding them
It doesn't, but when it comes to first impressions, the interactions where it is mutual is basically non existent. Also half the time, the shy person may genuinely be interesting, the other times I realize them to be either one-dimensional or simply boring.
In my point of view, someone who directly opposes my opinion has even more substance someone who is shy/quiet in my first interactions because they connect to me albeit not necessarily in a friendly manner. At the very least, someone who is willing to interact with me, I'm more likely to give them a chance compared to someone who is quiet.
No because im kinda the same way and i got only like 8 or 10 friends and girlfriend , and im not a shy person i just watch out for stuff
Because of some special conditions that i live in ( yes my parents are rich as fuck in terms of the place i live in ) i gotta be carefull who i let into my life , it doesn't mean im boring , i just dont wanna deal with some people on a daily basis
thats why my messenger has messeges from 1,2,3 years back after scrolling once down :P
I only basically talk to my girlfriend because we are the same in terms of almost everything , i talk to my 4 friends and the last 5i just meet up at parties i dont talk to them regurally
And also i enjoy my own company i love reading ( not books exactly ) but i like psychology etc kind of stuff I love watching videos on Yt and getting to know something i did not earlier ( and no its not memes or funny cats )
It all depends on the people u spend time with and conditions u live in
no, that's a getting close thing. they may be very interesting as they think and study and more like they really open up and have a lot to give and share and be very affectionate if they haven't had that. depends on person and their comfort, sensitivities. everyone wants to be loved, to feel loved, be close, some it is harder than others.
No it doesn't. If you think that just because little comes out of their mouth, then they must have little going on in their head you are making a dangerous assumption.
The one that is listening has the advantage. The one speaking has the disadvantage
I’m quiet & shy, but once I’m comfortable around someone, I’m anything but dull, drab or platitudinous (SpongeBob fans will get that 😜).
They’ll learn that I’m a contrarian, a decadent dandy & a controversial writer. My lifestyle is nothing like those they’d be typically used to from their conformist peers 😏😎
I wouldn't say quiet and shy people are boring. People who talk less tend to observe more, so maybe they have better stories, better jokes. Usually when people who are more introverted do speak, it's very profound with what's going on, so I would disagree with them being boring and dull
At first that might be the first impression. Most people eventually start opening up and then others can see how awesome they actually are. There are plenty of dull and boring people that outgoing and loud too. I have met a guy that really was shy, quit, dull, and boring... it’s rare though.
No, I seem quiet, shy, and boring to the wrong people😂 Most quiet, shy and "boring" People have wonderful personalities if you can get them comfortable. If they won't talk to you it's because you make them feel insecure. I've known several quiet people who were HILARIOUS once they loosened up.
No I think its ignorant how society have these types of stereotypes. Just because a person (like me) is quiet and shy does not mean they are boring. I am an introvert I'm not the outgoing type like a lot of people are. I'm the type who feels more comfortable being my outgoing self around people that I have known for a long time. So I'm shy once you meet me but once you get to know me I''m fun to hang out with.
No, but talking doesn't necessarily make a person interesting either. Sometimes, people just talk to fill in the silence while happening to say absolutely nothing of value or they are just so impassioned they can't help but speak what's on their mind. A quiet person could be analyzing their surroundings and processing how they feel, or they are just daydreaming.
Only way to know is by asking what they are thinking, so don't be shy :)
Shy doesn't equate to dull at all, but then you have to realize nobody is a mind reader and if you are hardly expressing yourself or talking, then people may think you are a) dull b) snobby or c) don't care to be in their company, so you are not putting your best foot forward and may contribute to others misunderstanding your character. That's fine if you really don't care what others think, but if you do, you must be mindful of your own role.
No I've met a few people that seemed shy they now become friends and once you're comfortable with each other it's a different story, they're not shy at all!
I’m shy when you first meet me but I open up over time once I get more comfortable with someone. shy people are more interesting I feel because no everyone knows everything about them.
Nah. We're great fun once you get to know us. If we let you in, it means you're special. And just because we have a little extra difficulty expressing ourselves doesn't mean there's nothing to express.
They can come across as dull and boring yes, but after breaking the ice they can be interesting. Not all the time though because to maintain a coversation may be a little difficult with a shy person.
it's boring if there's nothing underneath. Can't think of whether people who appeared shy at first have tended to be less interesting... there hasn't been a clear trend in my personal life.
being quiet/shy does not make you person boring or dull
side note people always call me shy and quiet truth is im not i just don't like people work in retail for as long as i have and i but you will like like people too
Two shy people probably would be but all it takes is for them to become comfortable and they are interesting. Not all the time but most of the time.
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not really, because I am really quiet and barely talk to anyone BUT once you get to know me then I can't stop talking to you (at least for my husband). he is the same way :D
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