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Are you more confident online or in-person? And why?
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I would say both, but I do have to admit that there is something a bit comforting about anonymity and the ability to backspace and rewrite your point before hitting send.
I used to have no confidence in person, but have found that since I've started interacting with others in person a lot more, I'm so much more confident.
The one thing I don't care for anymore, though it doesn't have as much to do with confidence as it has to do with just not feeling the need to post and not liking the way people act on there, is Facebook and similar social media sites. For some reason, Facebook has turned into Bitchbook and it's everyone's platform to bitch, virtue signal and portray themselves as much better and more caring people than they really are (usually by throwing someone else under the bus or trying to cut them down, ironically), act macho and say stuff they'd never say to anyone in person, and start completely unnecessary fights. It's almost like people on there are looking for a fight, even where there is none. Their groups that claim to be "educational", "good for seeking advice", "nonjudgmental", "supportive", etc. are also a joke and it's basically a bunch of know-it-alls trying to out-bullshit each other or people jumping down each other's throats, being two-faced, and tearing each other down, as well. I got added to a couple of those shitshows by friends a few years ago and was disgusted by the behavior of so-called "adults". But anyway, I got a little off topic, but I don't really feel that comfortable posting on Facebook anymore because it seems like there is always someone wanting to start a fight or mouth off for no reason, despite my remaining professional and non-controversial, having a private profile, etc. I don't even engage, just ignore or delete the comment, but it gets old. The main issue is that there are certain people who I pretty much have to remain "friends" with on there because there would be much family drama if one of these clowns I don't even care for found out I blocked or unfriended them. I'm not so much unconfident though as I am aware of the tension and troublemaking on there.
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Online because everything about me is real. I struggle with my weight, and although I have a cute face, and own my own business... weight is a huge deal breaker for men.
So this is how it goes, I meet someone online we get along amazingly and he asks for a picture, and then he distances himself.
When I lose the weight because I am on track... unless, he is extremely compassionate,, I think I will maintain being single because I know that I struggle with my weight and I can't guarantee I will always be attractive to him. Yip there it is.
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Online over in-person. I actually get more traction online AND THEN when I meet them in person it carries over.
I can talk to women in person, and I've done it, but I've never gotten any good results. For example, if I meet someone in person... I can get their number, but they will soon ghost me after OR I will get one good date. I've never had sex with someone I've met in person.
Now... when I meet women online, total difference. I can build attraction quickly, escalate to flirting and sex talk pretty quickly, get a date quickly with sex OR a long term relationship from the girl. I had a 3 year relationship with someone I met online before.
Also, I remember talking to a girl online and the things we were talking about online... lol... if I had met her in person, this conversation would have never happened XD! Basically... we were talking about yoga, then naked yoga, then nudity and I ended up having a naked date at my house after 2 days of talking. That would have NEVER happened in-person. LOL.
Besides... I feel like women are more guarded in-person and let their defenses go (if they like the way you look) when they are talking to men online.
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I've had this in the back of my mind for years now haha. I'm way more kind and compassionate online than in person. The lack of pressure to have an immediate response in conversation helps me gather my words way better than in person. Speaking my mind on the fly kinda lands me in bad positions and not to mention I don't have a very friendly face or voice.
Online I feel way more connected to people's words because online everyone is faceless, which means they are free to be their true selves. With that anonymity, you have those that use it to spew hate and negativity or those who use it as an outlet for kindness an enriching friendships. That's why on the internet kind words seem to mean a bit more from strangers.
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I'm OK with texting online, but I'm more confident with face to face because I get response from a person's voice, face and body language that can't be realized with online interaction. You cannot read "tone" in texts. Jokes and sarcasm are not readable. Tagging on emojis and lol s or hahaha s are not viable substitutes for interpersonal give and take. It takes far longer to get anything accomplished using AI phone tools than by speaking to a human who can hear nuance in your voice. There's no substitute for in person interaction. Only with longtime friends or family can you use verbal shortcuts. With people you are just getting to know, it doesn't work and your relationship will take far longer to establish, grow or end.
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I am very confident all the time. I believe experience and coming to the realization that nobody is better nor worse than anyone gives me that. Seriously we all poop, eat, and die. NOBODY has the upper hand.
Fear is an illusion to be destroyed by just experiencing the issue a exposing it.
So yes no need to be less confident, HOWEVER !
Online gives me a better opportunity to express my deeper thoughts to strangers rather than just walking up to them and stating my purpose to them lol.
I am not shy but I do read people very well and know when an opportunity arises what action to take and or respond to a situation.
Being smart doesn't exactly qualify ans not as confident. - 582 opinions shared on Other topic.
For me, in-person, there is nothing like being able to sense someones feelings or read their mannerisms. That's a level of communication which is greater than the keyboard. Plus I put in more effort and have greater motivation interacting with people on a personal basis. I genuinely enjoy meeting new people, something a screen and keyboard doesn't give you.
Online I question more of the other person's motivations as I have less avenues to communicate with that person. I hope that wasn't too clinical. -
Online if I'm seen as a weirdo, you can't do much more than ignore me. So I'm free to be myself 100%. In person, if I am seen as a weirdo, people will start rumors, and I'll me ostracized. I'd rather not. I'd rather be seen as a quiet guy that helps out than the guy who knows too much about Greek Mythology (example).
We live in the real world, and people are not as cool as they are in person as online.
Online, I can wear any mask I want, and speak freely.
In person, everything I say has weight, and its attached to me. It doesn't matter if my opinion changes later, everyone will remember my old opinion. -
I feel more confident in-person because I feel more whole than I do online. Plus, I can clearly look someone in the eye and pick up on their body language, facial gestures, etc.
Trying to communicate (or do anything really) through online social media is difficult, and doesn't allow that person to person contact or those personal connections to be built.
I feel more confident in person than I do online. - 553 opinions shared on Other topic.
Hard to tell. Usually online gives me more opportunities. However, after really just letting go, I find that you can indeed make the same jokes on and offline with quite equal results. The biggest real difference is that online involves people you don't know, while offline involves people you do know. So getting into an argument in real life is much more likely to actually negatively affect your life.
This is why I would say I am more open online, especially with jokes and ideas I throw around. -
I’m the same online and in-person, confident in general. I will say it’s easier for me to be myself in-person because I don’t have time to overthink when I’m in the moment. When you’re online you have time to think of what to write or say.
I’m more authentic in person. -
I wouldn't say I am confident anywhere really when it comes to dating or while having romantic emotions for someone. But if at all I prefer in-person. Online.. I used to be better at that but now I just don't know what to say. In person things flow more and seem real. Besides I feel like, online people don't really like me much. But they do IRL.
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Online. I don't have to deal with the anxiety of how I look, is there a booger in my nose, does my breath stink. Or seeing the facial expression or demeanor of the person changing that I'm talking to. Not to mention if I say something weird or stupid, I have more time to think about what I wanna say next or how I can edit/delete the message and redo it.
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In person I tend to let my head get in the way. I try too hard to be a gentleman when sometimes just being a little more forward is the right answer. I feel like when I'm online I dont do that.
That's with women anyway.
With guys i feel pretty confident regardless -
I'm probably more confident being online, as well as writing emails and texts.
When I'm in person, the other person usually talks my right ear off and I can't say much. Also, it's easier for them to manipulate me.
When I'm online, writing emails and texts, I get to have a say. -
The more confident I feel, the more I show it, because I own who I am. For better or worse, I am who I am and I have to accept it and love it, or work on changing myself until I love me again. Someone has to love me, have confidence in me, and it's going to be me before I can have anyone else feel that way towards me.
Own yourself, love yourself, have confidence in yourself and show that amazingness to the world! Life's too short not to! -
I'm more confident online because I'm not a great talker. I'm a fantastic writer! I like that there's no interruptions online and that I am more accepted while I;m being 100% me.
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Im definitely more honest about how i think and feel online rather than in person. In person im very shy around people and don't like to make my point across because i know i won't be listened to or likely agreed with because my opinions and thoughts are abit too honest for people who pretend to be upset by anything slightly controversial and non pc
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I'm more confident in person for sure because I'm not very high tech and really don't know what all the abreviations stand for that everybody uses. Plus my spelling is terrible sometimes spell check can't even help me. In person I'm somewhat charming I've never had a problem talking to women and I'm confident in my abilities
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Definitely online. Its easier to control how people think of you when you can control how they see you. In person there is all the uncertainty of not knowing if they are seeing something they don't like when you turn a certain way, or when you just be yourself.
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I always been pretty straightforward and raw.
people claim that the one thing the love about me and is my confidence and honestly i dont even try it just who I am.
so I'm the same 24.7 - 3K opinions shared on Other topic.
In person. Its easier since you can use body language, facial expressions and tone of voice
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Socialising online first allows you to get to know the person a bit and get rid of any possible awkwardness, it kind of gives you and idea about the person and therefore, you will feel more confident when you will met the person physically.
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I'm more confident online, mostly because I suffer with anxiety so in person I worry about what to say.
But after a couple of minutes, I'm confident. Thanks to the medication 🤣
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