Are you more confident online or in-person? And why?

[SamirahD22]

Online

In-person

Both

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I would say both, but I do have to admit that there is something a bit comforting about anonymity and the ability to backspace and rewrite your point before hitting send.

I used to have no confidence in person, but have found that since I've started interacting with others in person a lot more, I'm so much more confident.

The one thing I don't care for anymore, though it doesn't have as much to do with confidence as it has to do with just not feeling the need to post and not liking the way people act on there, is Facebook and similar social media sites. For some reason, Facebook has turned into Bitchbook and it's everyone's platform to bitch, virtue signal and portray themselves as much better and more caring people than they really are (usually by throwing someone else under the bus or trying to cut them down, ironically), act macho and say stuff they'd never say to anyone in person, and start completely unnecessary fights. It's almost like people on there are looking for a fight, even where there is none. Their groups that claim to be "educational", "good for seeking advice", "nonjudgmental", "supportive", etc. are also a joke and it's basically a bunch of know-it-alls trying to out-bullshit each other or people jumping down each other's throats, being two-faced, and tearing each other down, as well. I got added to a couple of those shitshows by friends a few years ago and was disgusted by the behavior of so-called "adults". But anyway, I got a little off topic, but I don't really feel that comfortable posting on Facebook anymore because it seems like there is always someone wanting to start a fight or mouth off for no reason, despite my remaining professional and non-controversial, having a private profile, etc. I don't even engage, just ignore or delete the comment, but it gets old. The main issue is that there are certain people who I pretty much have to remain "friends" with on there because there would be much family drama if one of these clowns I don't even care for found out I blocked or unfriended them. I'm not so much unconfident though as I am aware of the tension and troublemaking on there.

[Nakoma]

Online because everything about me is real. I struggle with my weight, and although I have a cute face, and own my own business... weight is a huge deal breaker for men.

So this is how it goes, I meet someone online we get along amazingly and he asks for a picture, and then he distances himself.

When I lose the weight because I am on track... unless, he is extremely compassionate,, I think I will maintain being single because I know that I struggle with my weight and I can't guarantee I will always be attractive to him. Yip there it is.

[fashionguy17]

Online over in-person. I actually get more traction online AND THEN when I meet them in person it carries over.

I can talk to women in person, and I've done it, but I've never gotten any good results. For example, if I meet someone in person... I can get their number, but they will soon ghost me after OR I will get one good date. I've never had sex with someone I've met in person.

Now... when I meet women online, total difference. I can build attraction quickly, escalate to flirting and sex talk pretty quickly, get a date quickly with sex OR a long term relationship from the girl. I had a 3 year relationship with someone I met online before.

Also, I remember talking to a girl online and the things we were talking about online... lol... if I had met her in person, this conversation would have never happened XD! Basically... we were talking about yoga, then naked yoga, then nudity and I ended up having a naked date at my house after 2 days of talking. That would have NEVER happened in-person. LOL.

Besides... I feel like women are more guarded in-person and let their defenses go (if they like the way you look) when they are talking to men online.

[theRen]

I've had this in the back of my mind for years now haha. I'm way more kind and compassionate online than in person. The lack of pressure to have an immediate response in conversation helps me gather my words way better than in person. Speaking my mind on the fly kinda lands me in bad positions and not to mention I don't have a very friendly face or voice.

Online I feel way more connected to people's words because online everyone is faceless, which means they are free to be their true selves. With that anonymity, you have those that use it to spew hate and negativity or those who use it as an outlet for kindness an enriching friendships. That's why on the internet kind words seem to mean a bit more from strangers.

[Screenwriter]

I'm OK with texting online, but I'm more confident with face to face because I get response from a person's voice, face and body language that can't be realized with online interaction. You cannot read "tone" in texts. Jokes and sarcasm are not readable. Tagging on emojis and lol s or hahaha s are not viable substitutes for interpersonal give and take. It takes far longer to get anything accomplished using AI phone tools than by speaking to a human who can hear nuance in your voice. There's no substitute for in person interaction. Only with longtime friends or family can you use verbal shortcuts. With people you are just getting to know, it doesn't work and your relationship will take far longer to establish, grow or end.

[standingUP]

I am very confident all the time. I believe experience and coming to the realization that nobody is better nor worse than anyone gives me that. Seriously we all poop, eat, and die. NOBODY has the upper hand.
Fear is an illusion to be destroyed by just experiencing the issue a exposing it.
So yes no need to be less confident, HOWEVER !
Online gives me a better opportunity to express my deeper thoughts to strangers rather than just walking up to them and stating my purpose to them lol.
I am not shy but I do read people very well and know when an opportunity arises what action to take and or respond to a situation.
Being smart doesn't exactly qualify ans not as confident.

[JimboGB]

For me, in-person, there is nothing like being able to sense someones feelings or read their mannerisms. That's a level of communication which is greater than the keyboard. Plus I put in more effort and have greater motivation interacting with people on a personal basis. I genuinely enjoy meeting new people, something a screen and keyboard doesn't give you.

Online I question more of the other person's motivations as I have less avenues to communicate with that person. I hope that wasn't too clinical.

[BirdFan360]

Online if I'm seen as a weirdo, you can't do much more than ignore me. So I'm free to be myself 100%. In person, if I am seen as a weirdo, people will start rumors, and I'll me ostracized. I'd rather not. I'd rather be seen as a quiet guy that helps out than the guy who knows too much about Greek Mythology (example).

We live in the real world, and people are not as cool as they are in person as online.

Online, I can wear any mask I want, and speak freely.
In person, everything I say has weight, and its attached to me. It doesn't matter if my opinion changes later, everyone will remember my old opinion.

[Snow-Girl36]

I feel more confident in-person because I feel more whole than I do online. Plus, I can clearly look someone in the eye and pick up on their body language, facial gestures, etc.

Trying to communicate (or do anything really) through online social media is difficult, and doesn't allow that person to person contact or those personal connections to be built.

I feel more confident in person than I do online.

[Naydyonov]

Hard to tell. Usually online gives me more opportunities. However, after really just letting go, I find that you can indeed make the same jokes on and offline with quite equal results. The biggest real difference is that online involves people you don't know, while offline involves people you do know. So getting into an argument in real life is much more likely to actually negatively affect your life.
This is why I would say I am more open online, especially with jokes and ideas I throw around.

[Dongtai]

I’m the same online and in-person, confident in general. I will say it’s easier for me to be myself in-person because I don’t have time to overthink when I’m in the moment. When you’re online you have time to think of what to write or say.

I’m more authentic in person.

[CaptainOverthink]

I wouldn't say I am confident anywhere really when it comes to dating or while having romantic emotions for someone. But if at all I prefer in-person. Online.. I used to be better at that but now I just don't know what to say. In person things flow more and seem real. Besides I feel like, online people don't really like me much. But they do IRL.

[jabariw18]

Online. I don't have to deal with the anxiety of how I look, is there a booger in my nose, does my breath stink. Or seeing the facial expression or demeanor of the person changing that I'm talking to. Not to mention if I say something weird or stupid, I have more time to think about what I wanna say next or how I can edit/delete the message and redo it.

[pajamasam]

In person I tend to let my head get in the way. I try too hard to be a gentleman when sometimes just being a little more forward is the right answer. I feel like when I'm online I dont do that.

That's with women anyway.

With guys i feel pretty confident regardless

[David92506]

I'm probably more confident being online, as well as writing emails and texts.
When I'm in person, the other person usually talks my right ear off and I can't say much. Also, it's easier for them to manipulate me.

When I'm online, writing emails and texts, I get to have a say.

[Dazed0N0Confused]

The more confident I feel, the more I show it, because I own who I am. For better or worse, I am who I am and I have to accept it and love it, or work on changing myself until I love me again. Someone has to love me, have confidence in me, and it's going to be me before I can have anyone else feel that way towards me.
Own yourself, love yourself, have confidence in yourself and show that amazingness to the world! Life's too short not to!

[hotbaeforyou]

I'm more confident online because I'm not a great talker. I'm a fantastic writer! I like that there's no interruptions online and that I am more accepted while I;m being 100% me.

[KingPapo]

Would you consider yourself an introvert?

[hotbaeforyou]

@KingPapo yes I am, but I'm also pretty social if I'm around a good crowd. I'm just not a great talker and I don't believe that I should interrupt someone because what I have to say is more important.

[KingPapo]

I feel you. When you feel more comfortable with certain people, you bring out more of your personality.. it's not always wrong to interrupt someone, just gotta know when to do it.

[hotbaeforyou]

@KingPapo I always felt bad for the quiet people or the less listened to people. That's really why I can never be popular lol

[Tentia]

You sound a lot like me, tbh!

[KingPapo]

You're a caring person which is a dope quality to have. Anyways, Being Popular is overrated plus there is big correlation with popularity and narcissism.

[hotbaeforyou]

@KingPapo well I'm very glad to hear that lol

[Alice2398]

Im definitely more honest about how i think and feel online rather than in person. In person im very shy around people and don't like to make my point across because i know i won't be listened to or likely agreed with because my opinions and thoughts are abit too honest for people who pretend to be upset by anything slightly controversial and non pc

[broken_heart_at_48]

I'm more confident in person for sure because I'm not very high tech and really don't know what all the abreviations stand for that everybody uses. Plus my spelling is terrible sometimes spell check can't even help me. In person I'm somewhat charming I've never had a problem talking to women and I'm confident in my abilities

[Anonymous]

Definitely online. Its easier to control how people think of you when you can control how they see you. In person there is all the uncertainty of not knowing if they are seeing something they don't like when you turn a certain way, or when you just be yourself.

[GraveDoll]

both

I always been pretty straightforward and raw.

people claim that the one thing the love about me and is my confidence and honestly i dont even try it just who I am.

so I'm the same 24.7

[Avicenna]

In person. Its easier since you can use body language, facial expressions and tone of voice

[iVibex]

Socialising online first allows you to get to know the person a bit and get rid of any possible awkwardness, it kind of gives you and idea about the person and therefore, you will feel more confident when you will met the person physically.

[BlueGoddess]

I'm more confident online, mostly because I suffer with anxiety so in person I worry about what to say.

But after a couple of minutes, I'm confident. Thanks to the medication 🤣

[alleng12345]

I am extremely confident and I often have a tough time seeing life from an insecure perspective. I also have an extremely hard time dating someone who is not confident.

[just_a_potato]

I'm pretty much the same personality wise and appearance wise in person as I am online, except I look shorter online and I don't have to maintain eye contact with people

[Honestyyy]

Neither im not confident but i chose In person because i find it easier to start a conversation face to face as i can use my surroundings as in online i rarely text or am in social media so my texting is really bad and boring

[DeeDeeDeVour]

In person more since I'm (very) comfortable with face-to-face encounters & engagements.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I believe online i am more opened to being confident

[sheildagent]

I would say online because I tend to be more confident when I flirt or compliment someone. I guess in-person I'm a little bit shyer than online.

[Bman4907]

definitely more in person. Online, you have this limited chance to make a point, set the tone, give a visual of yourself. More often than not, the chance is a quick left or right swipe and they're done with you.

[Dinklex3]

In person.
I don't really talk to people online.

[Snakeyes7]

The are pros and cons to both. Different conversational dynamics, topics and there are rules you need to follow for both.

[itsallaroundtheworld]

I'm not shy and I don't feel quite as embarrassed as in person. Plus, I get to think more of what I say when I'm online. In person I'm spontaneous. There are things that I can't say in person but only online.

[Edanurus]

Definitely in person. Too much of an overthinker which makes it easier to get hung up on what I'm about to send. In person I don't have the time to think about what im saying/said so I act far more naturally

[Loser94]

Online cause in real life I'm a skinny ugly no good 25 year old Virgin who can't talk to a girl without going pervert and weird and stupid. Plus I still live at home no car no money I still live like a highschooler and I hate it.

[BrutalHonesty6969]

Doesn't matter. Unless you have some sort of disorder, you're going to be saying the exact same thing youd generally say in person. (Unless you're one of the mongoloids who types everything in acronyms and says "U" rather than "You"

[simplelikeme]

I am not a shy person. I'm not a hypocritical person either. I have no problem saying something to your face that I've said behind your back. I don't sugarcoat anything. You either like me or don't LOL

[ShadowofRegret]

Online, I type better than I talk, and I feel more self-conscious in person and thus, am more shy.

[taleets]

I’m more confident in person by far. I think I tend to look better in person and I’m less awkward

[xx_Alti]

It's easier not to worry about how i look online, but easier to understand/read others face-to-face

[es20490446e]

Non confident about what?

Everything is learneable, and everything is changeable. It's just a matter of choice.

[ChiTown33]

Without a doubt online. I think most people are that way. For obvious reasons. You have minimal things you can judge me on online.

[kangy]

am the same online and offline
I have things I am confident about but have insecurities too

[leahzrc]

i dont post online and in person im just as invisible

[bklynbadboy1]

Wow why

[leahzrc]

the real question is why not

[bklynbadboy1]

Okay...👀

[Meropatrick]

Offline i am more confident. But i am more witty online and for some reason people like me here more on gag than in real life

[unknownuser1960]

i have no intention of living so when i meet someone who wants to fight all i want is more pain to both sides this is why in my opinion self hatred is not 100% bad

[Player_2]

I would say online I’m not afraid to initiate like in real life, but that’s about the only pro to online dating, I dont think I’ll find someone online or in real life tbh

[OddBeMe]

Both. That’s why I have few friends. People don’t like the truth.

[jaybee281]

Same shit here bro

[Raj_12321]

Confiden obviously in person.
But yes more comfortable online.

Online you are free from facing the person, whatever are your thoughts can easily write it. But same typical topics if ask to discuss on face, would be difficult

[karanrao]

Just because people can't judge me based on my lokks

[Totti94]

Really it's opportunity to tell truth at first meet and accept other person as it is. No need shy. No judgmental there

[DiegoO]

Nowadays, in both, but obviously they are things that are only meant to be in the online/offline world.

[red324]

It depends on how comfortable I am with the person. Online has its advantages cause you can think for a minute before responding.

[Anonymous]

Emotionally for guys for certain if they have any common sense at all since MeToo. Since MeToo it will never be the same again. MeToo definitely changed things forever. Online allows the inner emotions that wouldn't be in person.

[theCobbler]

In person,. .. PLEASE !
I dislike the internet, cyberspace and all the. Junk that comes with it ! ..

[ikEVERYTHING]

Im very confident in both. But I guess online if i have to pick one.

[Dare38]

Probably more confident online then in real life.
We are all anon on here.

[MadBoy]

Online. If I acted like I did irl I wouldn't even be here on GaG.

[Gedaria]

If I had a body like the girl in the picture I would confident any where...

[Lunatic1]

Definitely online. My physical appearance hampers my confidence in person sadly.

[Anonymous]

People hate me period but the girls that it seems like I'd vibe with well don't exist in my dimension and are fictional characters
on (anti) social media they also live nowhere close

[julius2]

i would say both because if you are just confident at chat its not good...

[Narcos1994]

Because i have self confidence i know how to talk with people and i am more active in life then in social media