About a year ago, a few friends and I were at a small gathering. We had been playing drinking games and having lots of fun, but nothing too crazy. I didn't get too drunk, but I was tipsy. My friends know that when I drink I get very talkative and fun. I can be flirty, but I have my limits and I would never flirt with a friend's significant other.
Anyway, around 2 a. m. I went upstairs to sleep in the living room on the couch (the gathering was in the basement). Around 6 a. m. I felt somebody touching me and I woke up. I won't go into full detail, but it was 100% sexual assault. I looked up and it was my friend's boyfriend of over a year. After that I called my boyfriend to come and get me.
I ended up telling her the next day and she basically took his side. She said I had been flirting with him all night and basically that it was my fault. UH WHAT. We didn't talk for 6 months after that incident.
I guess somewhere in that six months, he confessed to her what happened. She ended up reaching out to me and apologizing. She still stuck by his side though. She even had the audacity to tell me that she had spoken about it with her sisters and her mom and they said it was just one mistake and to stay with him. She said she thinks he learned from his behaviour. Again, UH WHAT?
Everyone believes me but everybody keeps downplaying the whole thing, whereas I still am not over it. I still feel eerie sleeping at peoples' houses and every time I'm at a party I worry it's going to happen to me again.
Why are people so insisted on sweeping it under the rug?
Anyway, around 2 a. m. I went upstairs to sleep in the living room on the couch (the gathering was in the basement). Around 6 a. m. I felt somebody touching me and I woke up. I won't go into full detail, but it was 100% sexual assault. I looked up and it was my friend's boyfriend of over a year. After that I called my boyfriend to come and get me.
I ended up telling her the next day and she basically took his side. She said I had been flirting with him all night and basically that it was my fault. UH WHAT. We didn't talk for 6 months after that incident.
I guess somewhere in that six months, he confessed to her what happened. She ended up reaching out to me and apologizing. She still stuck by his side though. She even had the audacity to tell me that she had spoken about it with her sisters and her mom and they said it was just one mistake and to stay with him. She said she thinks he learned from his behaviour. Again, UH WHAT?
Everyone believes me but everybody keeps downplaying the whole thing, whereas I still am not over it. I still feel eerie sleeping at peoples' houses and every time I'm at a party I worry it's going to happen to me again.
Why are people so insisted on sweeping it under the rug?
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