I was sexually assaulted & its affecting my relationship with my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I have recently experienced sexual assault and its been affecting me a lot mentally. I have told my boyfriend and cried to him for hours. He comforted and soothed me. We have a very sexual relationship but ofc he was considerate and he hasn’t shared any sexual feelings with me ever since. I asked him straight up he said he wants me to heal and he also said he is turned off. Not my me, but by the whole situation like he can’t get hard because he knows what happened to me. Now we are both turned off by the whole situation. How can we fix our love life?

[bowenw]

I suggest the two of you being open about your feelings and talk about them as much as possible with a goal of separating your assault with your relationship. If you can't accomplish that on your own, I suggest you do as @KittygosMeoWW suggested and go for couple's therapy.

[Hellraiser1984]

Go to therapy. It can help. You should probably get a female therapist.

[Noredcarpet]

The two of you need help with this, please seek therapy and they will get you through. I am very sorry to hear of your situation, but better days are to come.

[Nikki1989]

The physical and emotional disconnection you are both feeling is a shared symptom of trauma, not a permanent problem with your relationship.

[BarryLiverstone]

Are you worried he doesn’t get turned on or feel unsafe about sex?

[KittygosMeoWW]

Highly suggest therapy

[KittygosMeoWW]

I’m so sorry I sent it too soon but I meant to say I highly suggest therapy to help you over come this and if you’ve been dating for a while seriously maybe do couples therapy. I’m so sorry this happened to you.

[Anonymous]

Give it time. Try sleeping naked together.

[In_Trance]

Therapy