How do I get over being mentally sexually and physically assaulted and abused by someone I liked and have known for long time?

[Anonymous]

I have liked this person for long time and its hard to believe how people turn out to be in reality

i feel like i can't judge people anymore my choices are not proper anymore

i dont even know who i am or what kind of person i am or want to be

i have lost my confidence in people in men and in myself too cause of my lack of judgement

the fact that i had known him for such long time and gave him chances over and over shows how dumb and stupid i am and how blinded i was

im not sure how to just move on and let go completely and become someone stronger and better cause i think about it everyday and live it over and over and over

[Breanna_nonbinary]

You don’t. Thinking you can is flaw that everyone makes. It’s like thinking that you can change the world. They say that time heals all wounds but it doesn’t. Time just makes it hurt less often.
The way you deal with it is to accept that you are the victim of something that is terrible. That it’s not your fault. That you can take control of how you feel and what happens from here on out.
You can’t change the world, but you can change your world.
DM me if you’d like some more real world advice.

[AI Opinion]

Diving straight into the heart of the matter, it's imperative to acknowledge the strength it took to share your experience. Healing from such profound betrayal and trauma is no easy feat, but it's important to remember that your worth and your ability to discern others' character aren't defined by this experience. You're not dumb or stupid for having faith in someone you cared for; it shows your capability for deep connection and trust, qualities that were unfortunately exploited in this case.

To embark on a journey towards healing, consider professional support if you haven't already. A therapist can offer you a safe space to process your emotions, rebuild your sense of self, and develop strategies to regain confidence in your judgment. Additionally, reaching out to support groups where you can connect with others who've faced similar situations might help you feel less isolated in your experience.

Healing is a personal and nonlinear process. Be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to grieve the loss of the relationship and the impact it has had on you. In time, through support and self-compassion, you can rediscover your strength and reframe this part of your story. Remember, it's not about moving on as if nothing happened but moving forward with a deeper understanding of yourself and your resilience. Keep shining, even on the tough days. 💫

[MasterKS]

Understanding things, accepting it, know the reality would change your for sure!

[Anonymous]

Stand up for yourself get them back get help destroy them