What makes someone mature?

[pink_and_inlove]

[Jjpayne]

You are aware of the people around you, you tend to think of others more than about yourself, you think about a situation more logically rather than more whimsically aka being less impulsive aka I'd like to buy that jacket right now but can afford it... , thinking about the future instead of thinking all in the present, aka I want that game system but I need to make sure I have enough money saved up I'm case my car breakdown.

Overall, it's simply more awareness of people and awareness of your life.

[DrunkAss]

I'm just into being responsible for more than ourselves. That's what we don't have as kids. We can do sorta whatever back then. If we do something stupid, it only seems to hurt us. Technically the parents also hurt but who cares about them? We're kids.

I figure we gotta give a bit more of a damn to be mature and take on responsibilities that put other people's lives in our hands. That's the contrast to being a kid. And I don't like it. I farted!

[pink_and_inlove]

Lmao

[pink_and_inlove]

Well i certainly want to work more now and now i have a full time job i dont know if that makes me mature lol

[DrunkAss]

I do like this practical idea of it such as how well we can take care of people, starting with ourselves (bonus points for others). I think being able to take care of ourselves financially definitely adds to it, but that was sort of an easy part for me. I auto-piloted the study and career stuff. I figure we all have our maturity challenges. Mine is that I'm reckless, impulsive, and tend to not think so far into the future. Maybe your is being a bit shyness and prone to self-doubt -- almost like opposite of my thing.

[pink_and_inlove]

Getting a job for me was very hard though. Shyness and introversion will always be me I don’t believe it should be a part of maturity it’s just how my personality is I could work more on eye contact more

[Mhmmmalreadykno]

1. Easy to forgive
2. Easy to let go or grudges
3. Knowing that not all battles are worth fighting
4. Allowing everyone to be who they are without you judging them
5. Not complaining or whining all the time

Those are all I could think of right now

[chris_987]

It’s funny because everything you listed women still do less than men but yet everyone always says women are more mature than men.

[Mhmmmalreadykno]

@chris_987 You can't judge based on the few women you know. There's a lot of women who also do these things, but not everyones perfect. Nobody expects men to be super mature because sometimes immaturity makes things more interesting.

[chris_987]

Few women? Every women I know including my mother has a hard time with forgiveness. I’ve only been blocked by women on this website and I also read a study saying that women have a hard time letting go of grudges much more than men. So you can deny reality if you want. But I’m just telling you what I’ve observed

[Mhmmmalreadykno]

@chris_987 I can agree with you that there are a lot of women than struggle with forgiving others. I know that I personally have learned to easily let go of grudges because at the end of the day, it only affects me. So my point is that forgiveness takes time to learn especially if trust is broken. Everyone sometimes struggles to forgive, so we have to train ourselves to make it a habit to let go. Women mostly struggle with trust, so forgiveness tends to be harder for them so they build up a wall to protect themselves. I know it sounds like an excuse but its based on personal observation and experience.

[chris_987]

So your admitting that women are less mature than men because they struggle to forgive other. Because men find it easy to forgive which you state was a sign of maturity

[Mhmmmalreadykno]

@chris_987 This isn't a battle Chris. I can't speak on behalf of all women! What I can say is that I am more mature than some of the men in my life. All I can say is that the women in your life are less mature in THAT specific department. We all have flaws that make us unique :))

[chris_987]

But women have no problem saying men are less mature. Why all of a sudden when you actual evidence based of your yardstick, you can’t admit that? Seems like girls only choose battles they can win.

[Mhmmmalreadykno]

@chris_987 Chris, are women calling you immature? This seems like its a personal topic for you, but I'll still answer your questions. I used personal evidence because it only seems logical to make an estimate using the people around me. Girls dont choose battle that they know they will win. I know a lot of girls who will argue knowing that they have a chance of losing and yet they go on. I just believe a lot of girls have trust issues which make it hard to forgive but it doesn't make them immature. There are many qualities that people must obtain to be considered mature and thats why people tend to believe that girls are more mature because they have MOST of the qualities. They dont have to have every single one to be considered mature. No girls perfect

[chris_987]

But you moving the goalposts, one minute you said immature have a hard time forgiving then you say girls reason for not forgiving is not because there immature, it’s because girls have a hard time trusting people. That is a text book example of how girls argue. Why would you think you would loose when you can personally attack me to make my argument illegitimate and then include factors that have nothing to do with your original point.

[Mhmmmalreadykno]

@chris_987 Okay look, nobodys attacking you personally. You just seem super passionate about a topic that isn't a big deal. Okay so lemme clear up this misunderstanding. there's no such thing as a 100% mature person. There will always be some place that people will lack. A QUALITY of immaturity is not being able to forgive easily, but it doesn't mean you are considered fully immature, it just means you have a quality that is considered immature. Women are often considered mature because they have a lot of mature qualities but men have a lot of qualities that are considered immature. Also because of some science that has to do with brain connectivity. If HYPOTHETICALLY women consider you immature, dont worry about it to much. What people think of you shouldn't matter, just keep living your life. If they can't find good qualities in you and can't see your worth, then leave.

[chris_987]

Your right but I only pose challenge you on the question because society teaches boys that girls are more mature because we don’t sit still and class and would much rather run around. I’m passionate about this subject because it actually cause harm to males overall. If we put boys on medication for not acting like girls then we can’t act like it not gonna effect them later on in life. I’m sure you might not be able to relate to what effects telling boys they have to act like girls has. But maybe you will one day.

[Mhmmmalreadykno]

@chris_987 Well I'm glad you found a topic that your passionate about and trying to make a change! I hope my responses was able to bring you insight on other viewpoints on this topic! :))

[jennifer_bloom]

A pastor told me - a mature person is able to discern and accept and admit to their mistakes while an immature person will deny they were wrong and refuse to make restitution

[ZackBan]

Realizing that your mistakes are yours to make and live with.

Accepting that you will never gain everyone's approval but you still have to go on in life.

And understanding that you are responsable for your choices in life, that means you don't get to put the blaim on others for your own shortcomings.

To me those define a giant leap into maturity. Now will I have a different answer 50 years from now? Maybe. But this is who I am now and this is what I believe

[COMMODOREII]

This page explains maturity.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/artificial-maturity/201211/the-marks-maturity

[COMMODOREII]

1. They can commit to continue doing what is right even when they don’t feel like it.
2. Mature people can receive compliments or criticism without letting it ruin them or sway them into a distorted view of themselves. They are secure in their identity.
3. Humility parallels maturity. They see how others have contributed to their success and can honor them. The opposite of arrogance.
4.

[COMMODOREII]

5. Immature children presume they deserve everything good that happens to them. Mature people see the big picture and realize how good they have it, compared to most of the world’s population.
6. a pathway out of childishness is getting past your own desires and beginning to live to meet the needs of others less fortunate.
7. They don’t presume they have all the answers. The wiser they get, the more they realize they need more wisdom. Only the wise seek wisdom.

[ohshee]

Different levels different things for me I don't have a clue it's different for all I would have to say is that I might be if I can take care of all my responsibility and if I do some thing wrong then except it and own it and make it right

[SphynxUK]

Generally, life experience. And this doesn’t just come with age.
Wisdom does come with age 👌🏼

[bannacookies]

When they're secure with themselves and think things through before doing actions and or plans. (Also, learned form their past mistakes and try not to repeat them.)

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Needing to take on big responsibilities such as paying bills / doing banking / etc

[clampfan101]

Put simply, wisdom. Some kids act more mature than some adults.

[Deku2009]

They don’t get into arguments , they don’t freak out , and cool head.

[andy530]

Their ability to take responsibility for their actions and their ability to empathize with others

[Anonymous]

Acceptance of being wrong. Acceptance of failiure. Just acceptance in general.

[jahaims]

Being responsible and reasonable

[DavidFox]

Adversity

[DavidFox]

It’s a subjective question. My answer was what actually makes someone mature which is facing and overcoming adversity. The other answers are how does a mature person act