What are some signs that you have matured as a person?

[SAMI_DABBAB]

From your personal experience if possible

[JackSmy]

I know on the first date, that a certain one is just bat-shit crazy, and to get away, rather than get overwhelmed in her drama!!
If, on the first date, I am not totally convinced that we are a good match, I move on, and don't waste 6 months, pretending it "could" work!
Staying away from TOXIC people at work, or worse: in the family!!
Saying what I NEED, rather than letting everyone have their needs, at my expense!
Understanding, when an old friend, years ago, told me, "I care, I just don't give a Fuck!"

[SAMI_DABBAB]

This has got to be the result of years and years of experience, I really really appreciate this 🙏🏻

[JackSmy]

@SAMI_DABBAB Yes, many years, many bad times, but also some really AMAZING ones! Life is about experiences, and I cannot tell you to avoid, or do this, or do that, because I don't honestly know, myself! Even if I could tell you, I wouldn't, because it is your life to live, and even through some of the worst things, you find something INCREDIBLE, that teaches you something AMAZING, and you carry that, with you, all through your life!
Some of the worst mistakes taught me things about how to just accept, and love, and know that others are not perfect. Sometimes, they are in a worse place than I am, and the thing they really need, in some horrible moment, is just someone that accepts them, as a person, and isn't judging them for failing.

[Sonorous]

I'm immensly more reaonable than I was before. And my humility has grown exponentially as a consequence.

[Neyila]

To be able to be open minded enough to change your opinion on something when rightly convinced, especially if it was something you were previously adamant about. Shows you can put pride aside.

[FlowerSeeds]

I have forgiven my enemies, it's still hard for me but I'm learning as I now bite the inside of my cheek to forgive them.

[TurboKid]

You get along with people that matter. You realize that arguing with someone you care about is a lose-lose proposition.

[SAMI_DABBAB]

Even when you believe that you're solving something with the argument?

[TurboKid]

But no pushover, mind you. I've gotten people thinking my mature suggestions are conflated with pushover. No, be assertive, speak your mind. But realize that going to war with someone you love is a lose-lose proposition. Even if you win, you lose... You lose her. So compromise, negotiate, be bold, be funny, but don't escalate.

[SAMI_DABBAB]

This would be great in my situation, I don't exactly "go to war" but I argue a lot of things

[TurboKid]

You can solve something and you can still lose the girl. You stop trying to win and share your mind with her and she can laugh and hug and see your side of things, and maybe she'll even completely change her mind.

[TurboKid]

There's no wisdom in debating if there are no formal judges to give you a worthwhile prize. Debate is good in a courtroom where you're trying to defend someone or accuse someone and there's a judge to decide who wins. We rarely make friends debating. You try to take this debate attitude elsewhere where prizes don't matter and even if you win, you lose. You lose the girl. You lose your friends. It's okay to stop trying to win in these contexts... or win in that way. You win when you get closer to them.

[SAMI_DABBAB]

What can I say? Advice of the year 🙂👊🏻

[TurboKid]

Cheers! Well, I learned the hard way. Hopefully you don't have to.

[SAMI_DABBAB]

Even if I needed to learn the hard way, it's way better than not having learnt this vital lesson

[JosyJosy]

When I don't get mad at things I used to get mad over

[FictionalCharacter]

I haven’t. I still have emotional flaws.

[SAMI_DABBAB]

Gave me a feeling that this is the only remaining flaw, like you're so focused on getting rid of it you couldn't care less about what you do right

[shadowlunitic03]

When anything told negative about you doesn't hurt your ego as easily anymore.

[ThinkSmart]

You don't get a boner anymore.

[SAMI_DABBAB]

Are we ever going to mature? ☹️

[ThinkSmart]

Lol no