Have you grown up? Are you mature or Immature?

[lilyanony1]

I'm going to be 30 in January and a lot of people think I'm younger.
I have a very youthful perspective and way of life.
I don't drink, smoke or party anymore. I work in healthcare. I have single person hobbies cycling, swimming, running, and yoga.

I live alone and have done for 9 years, nearly 10.

I split from my 10 year relationship.

I laugh as much as I can, people say I'm away with the fairies and say I have a child like disposition.

I am often told I look younger than 25.
I also sideline some art but lately maybe it's ptsd following dad's death, I've started drawing flowers.
Pretty patterns of flowers.
Mandelas etc.
I'm sure people think I'm odd. But I do it because people undermine me, so I figured if I have this happy go lucky mindset people would treat me nicely. Some do, they love me and take me under their wing. Others though find it irritating.
I'm so tired of all the back biting, nastiness and bi*ching, that I took on this persona to deal with it.
Being a nurse is so tough, my patients love how happy and cheerful I am. One patient told me I have an inner glow and asked if I was pregnant so I thanked them and told them no.
I'm thorough in my job. Doing what's expected and needed to the best of my ability. I may complain about things at home but to keep me sane at work I basically try not to let the day get me down.
On the days it does I go quiet.
I'm trying to stop the "bad vibes" and I hope the positivity rubs off on others.
I will say though I'm not the "high pitched cheerful annoying person in the morning" although that can only be determined by someone else if I'm that person.
I do find though people try their hardest to break this in me, I suppose in disbelief I can be like this. But as I was once told happiness is a choice.

[DizzyDesii]

I've never smoked, only drank for my 21st bday and hated... and i’ve never been into partying. But i tried the EDM club in Cegas and left after 20 mins. I couldnt enjoy the music for all the crazies who were dancing like they were on sumn. Im still working o being more responsible though. I pay some bills here and there but not everything. I dont live alone but an trying to get an apartment before the year ends. Im mature at work but overall im pretty goofy so im quite immature when comfortable in my surroundings. Some call me immature for ignoring phone calls and deeming everyone associates rather than building friendships. Friendships was so HS and college. Sometimes you get tired of being betrayed by those you give your all too. So now i rather not give anyone much at all. Feels less toxic when they leave you hanging

[Anonymous]

a lot of people say I look like in my mid 20s and that I have a childlike innocence to my demeanor and when I'm out with my daughters people think I'm the older sister. I just turned 40 and I certainly don't feel that way (although today I felt it on my boobs if you know what I mean).

[Levin]

Just try and be authentic is all I would say. There is nothing wrong with being angry and miserable at times. It is more human and will make you more relatable. I'm not saying trying to be happy isn't a good thing. But you're only human. You will have bad days. There are times where you need to let it all out. And to find healthy outlets and ways of doing so. Also, do you not want companionship?

Remember, that you don't have to pander to or unduly please other people. Just be yourself.

The other thing is, showing disapproval can be important in terms of setting healthy boundaries. Healthy boundaries are important because they stop us becoming overwhelmed with external pressures and pestering. A firm no is important to have to keep awry or destructive forces out.

[lilyanony1]

I'm always hmming a tune. Usually have a spring in my step. I've lived on my own since I was 19. Never asked mum and dad to bail me out. Been working full time since I was 16 and completed my nurses training. I ended my relationship with my ex because he didn't take me seriously just because I'm like this.
I'm saving to buy my flat. And I've been saying so since year 2 on living here but he wanted to live rent and bill free with me to prevent me from being able to save.
I didn't see how mean of a person he was. I just accepted his excuses believing they were genuine.
But I had him all wrong he didn't care about me.
I said I don't think he had the cash but I think he did was just looking to sponge off me so he'd have more. So right now I don't want to date and meet the bastards before I meet the Prince. I want to focus on living for me. Because I feel like I've just ended the biggest oppression of my life. In all aspects. In 10 years we have 3 photos together. None of our family know of each other, although my friends were aware of who he is they kept telling me to end things. I didn't listen I guess because someone saying "just leave" wasn't a good enough reason.
Anyways I tell people I don't like the things they do but they do it anyways. Not because I'm not assertive but because unless you're shouting people down you're not serious.

[Jaximus-Lion]

Working in healthcare specially through this pandemic got from 280% difficult too 700%+ more difficult. I am mature and immature depending on what am doing but most of the time am immature even at work, someone got to keep the energy up for me and the rest of the kitchen crew. We all need laughs and have to create a lot of it too. When am at a meeting or having a discussion with my employer or any other facility boss or any other serious situation am very mature, the thing is i found my own balance when to be mature and when to be immature and i can crack some jokes when am with other business meetings there is a a thin line between mature/immature behavior or joke there and i keep it casual, nothing serious.

[OnlyMyOpinion]

I am a master of maturity when it's required. Like so:

But the test didn't ask me what I do in my spare time laughing at farts being lit on fire and offending people on the Internet.

[OnlyMyOpinion]

Well, who gives a shit, ain't it? That seems mature. Only give a shit when it matters. Who cares if it's mature or not. Being hyper-mature means only giving a shit over what's important.

[OnlyMyOpinion]

I think I am most mature person on the planet. I have transcended not giving a shit and that's why most people can't recognize my maturity outside of serious situations. I have become too mature. I am at the stage where I can just run along the street and flash my balls. Because it's not important. I have more important things to think about.

[OnlyMyOpinion]

Some stranger gets offended seeing me flash hairy balls on the street and what are they gonna do? I mean if they call the police I should factor that in. But if there's a low probability who gives a shit? That is maturity. It is about prioritizing what matters.

[lilyanony1]

I presume you were talking to someone here as I can't see the other person's replies. It's good to be young at heart.

[OnlyMyOpinion]

I'm just one of those who writes a little bit at a time, comes back and thinks and writes a little bit more, then keeps going that way from rough draft to final draft since the site doesn't let me edit my original post. Normally I'm used to sites that let us edit the original post but it always drove me crazy that this one doesn't let us do that. I compensate by writing multiple answers extending into the comments, and I also use the comments to make corrections.

[lilyanony1]

I see, I was so confused. Umm I think caring and maturing go hand in hand. When you're Immature you care for nothing.

[OnlyMyOpinion]

I'm actually kind of immature and was in a silly rambly mood yesterday. :-D It perplexes me that I got such a high score on that emotional maturity test above, but it asked me questions based on my priorities and what I care about like family, friends, and basic responsibilities. It didn't ask me all the things I fail to care about that should probably at least matter sometimes like etiquette (I'm extremely unfiltered and getting worse the older I get).

I also believe it's very tied to accountability. I believe in a type of hyper-accountability of the sort where if I show up late to work, even if it happened based on things beyond my control like someone hitting my car on the way, I still failed in my responsibilities. It is maybe a Japanese thing. That might drive the score up even though I'm very often an ass.

[CoolGuyJoe]

I'm growing up real fast, in a good way. 22 here.

Are you happy with your life?

[lilyanony1]

Id be happier if I had some friends and a real relationship. But it seems I've wasted my time on someone that didn't have good intentions from the start.

[jamesgoldman]

I'm mature and grown-up... I've had a lot of people think I'm 28-30 but I don't know if it's the jewellery, the business or the beard maybe my general view on life and investment
Possibly the fact that I act and feel old

[Anti-Matter]

Forced to grow and mature faster than most forty year olds.
Unforeseen circumstances haven’t been to kind to my youth.

[Jjpayne]

I feel like I'm in an in between stage. I'm older but I feel younger so you could say I'm more immature at this moment

[stuntbrain]

Maturity reveals that there's no such thing as grown ups, only older people without a clue

[wankiam]

only when you reach your 50s will you realize we mature but we never ''grow up''

[OddBeMe]

Both? I have more mature moments since my life isn’t chaotic.

[Mr_Peterson]

I like to think I have, that I am mature for my age. I dress smartly and call myself Mr Peterson.

[RHK36]

I'm both still. It's a work in progress.

[Sabretooth]

mature for the most part.

[888theGreat]

yep and yep

[240771damog]

Immature