Do You Ever Get "TIRED"-Of Doing The Right Thing, Of Busting Your Ass, Of Being The Bigger Person?

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Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Absolutely!!! Especially when you're constantly doing the right thing or being the "better person," only for someone that is a snake or rotten person to ALWAYS thrive or get ahead of you in life. You start asking yourself, "Why bother?"

But you keep doing the right thing, working hard, and being you anyway.
Why?

Because it's the right thing to do. And eventually it DOES pay off! It might be weeks, months, years later, but it does.

My job is the perfect example of that. I busted my ass for almost ten years: worked hard, always doing what I'm told, learning new skills, helping others, doing things I didn't want to do, but did it anyway because it was the "right thing to do."
While others that did the bare minimum got all the praise, recognition, and raises. Do you know how annoying it is watching people do nothing, yet get promoted in the workplace? Yeah... the rage was real folks.

But my hard work did pay off, and I eventually got a raise and promotion. It just took patience, dedication, and most importantly? I didn't give up. I just kept going, and being myself. My actions and reputation spoke for me.

I know that's not always the case for everyone. Hell sometimes the "good guy" does NOT win; this is real life, not a story or movie. And no, it's not fair! But you STILL have to keep doing the thing. Because if you don't, no one will. We need some decent people in the world.

ShaTTeredMasterpeace · Accepted Answer

Only every single day. Sometimes I wish mama had raised a quitter.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

ABSOLUTELY! I am often "the bigger man" and I rarely feel like I'm "doing the right thing" by not just punching out the teeth of the last person who betrayed me or f*cked me over. Even after time has passed, I still feel like it's a bitch move to not just exact revenge, right then and there. Like I'm letting people walk all over me, when I could injure them in an instant and make sure they never harm another person again. Taking the high road is rarely satisfying to me, even though I do it 99% of the time.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

If it's not appreciated or reciprocated, I stop trying. I'm not a servant. I'm not needy. It's no good being taken for granted.

Speaking of being tired always makes me think of this routine from Blazing Saddles. When my wife comes home from work and says she's tire, I sometimes sing "I'm tired. Tired of being admired..." with my best Lily von Shtupp speech impediment.

This one's for you, bbb:

JackSmy · Answer

Yes, many times!! But in my position, I cannot just choose to slack off, and not care, or some child with a Food Allergy could DIE!!!
TOTALLY disrespected, degraded, ignored, and SHIT ON, but I keep doing it, for the people, the kids, the ones with Food Allergies!
I can't 'slack off', or someone could die, and that would just CRUSH ME, TOTALLY, regardless of how the company treats me!!
Don't praise that, but rather CONDEMN those companies that treat their workers like shit, like they are totally replaceable, and in this market, THEY ARE NOT!!

GoldenAxer · Answer

I'm cool with it with people I care about. Doesn't take much thought to think this is the right way. Fighting with a lover is a lose-lose proposition since I'm less interested in winning an argument and more interested in sharing perspectives. I'm pretty awesome at it if I may say at being the bigger person with friends and my wife.

Strangers are a different category. I enjoy fighting too much and I don't see what I have to lose when it comes to fighting with a stranger. It seems more fun in those cases to avoid being the bigger person.

UK-NaturistGuy · Answer

Yes, I found that societies idea of the right thing is to get a good education so you can get a good job and spend the best part of your life being an employee so you can retire.

Surely the best way of life is not to be constantly working your guts out humping burdens and debts through life but to do something different, something you love and enjoy but most importantly something that gives you financial as well as the time freedom you will never get in a corporate environment working for the profits of others like in the pyramid scheme promoted as the normal 9-5.

humanearth · Answer

Sometimes I just want to quit and go on strike. Then the house will freeze, because no one is making or buying firewood. Nothing would get fixed, driveway would not get plowed in the winter. There would be no money coming in. I am the life blood of this house and sometimes I get exhausted just trying to keep up

Interstate · Answer

HELL YES!!! In my experience, trying to be bigger just gives them the ammo for them to keep going, as they generally don't stop until they have you pissed (which is what they are aiming for). At work, when I am in a situation, I generally just report it to my dept. lead or supervisor. That way, it doesn't escalate and they get put in their place once and for all.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

Yes! Long time ago but then i realized that i want to live my own life, not someone else's. Am just a human, without failling and doing mistakes! I can't go forward and succeed and for the last 17 years it is working just fine.

Bluemax · Answer

Sometimes. However, I stop and think that somewhere out there, someone is getting tired of being the bigger person during some encounter they had with me.

That's true of every human on the planet. There's always someone who was the bigger person during some interaction with you.

NathanDavis · Answer

Honestly, no... is not a struggle is just how I am...

but I don't let others to take advantage or step all over me either

and when it comes to life itself, well... life likes to get funny with me sometimes, but it has also given me chances and what we can call blessings so, not going to complain just now (knocking on wood)

SunnySensei · Answer

I do Miss, sometimes when I feel like I am not receiving the positive results even after all my efforts to do the right thing.
But that should not be the case and that feeling of doing the correct thing without wanting a reward helps me working in the right direction again.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Well yeah, sometimes. I get tired of it when people don't give me any kind of grace if I screw up or something. That shit gets old. Do onto others as you would have them do to you; it's the golden rule.

Massageman · Answer

Oooooohhhhhh yeah! And twice on Sundays!

It is said that a diamond is simply some carbon that learned to improve itself under pressure. Well, I'm no gem, but I could do with a little less of the pressure of "doing the right thing" all the time. (Apologies to Tom Selleck and AAG)

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

I don't think anybody can change that lol.

If o won't be the bigger person and I win but the fuck and I don't still get any satisfaction.

May something is wrong with my build lol I don't feel happy if I won and I don't feel happy if I loose it's like in both case I loose 😂 born to be a looser lol

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

Omg 10000% YESSS. Honestly I'm too nice and people just throw it in my face

Fineold · Answer

Doing wrong is easy. Doing good is always hard. But we do it anyway because it's the right thing to do, although it often disappoints us. And by the way, you are a very beautiful woman.

Flower7 · Answer

Yes, absolutely! Lately, I’ve definitely been feeling like giving up on that.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

When I see everyone else screwing around and getting away with it? Absolutely. It’s exhausting and demoralizing. This is mostly from a workplace perspective but I see people taking advantage of things outside of it as well.

Tunasub · Answer

Yes yes yes Lord knows yes...

exitseven · Answer

I am. In fact today I was going to screw myself over to do the right thing but honest to God, I am just sick of it. Let it all burn down for all I care.

wakeupchy · Answer

YES, its very draining! but sometimes you have to push back or you look like a complete fool, i walk a fine line at this point in life

loveslongnails · Answer

The older I get, the less I care about what other people think. So if someone else needs to be petty even if they're wrong, I'll be the bigger person. It's more annoying than tiring.

DonkeyDan · Answer

Yeah, that's why I changed, in not the bad guy but sometimes it's a necessary evil.

Anonymous · Answer

You DON'T have to be a bigger person if :
Someone used you then also betrayed you.
Someone clinged to you just to upgrade themselves but were also jealous and didn't wanted YOU to get ahead. Hypocrites!
Someone leaked your secrets or spread hate about you.
Someone who wishes terrible things for you.
I wish that my roomate dies.

Hadyyy · Answer

Yeah. Most of the time that's how I feel. however, that only means that at least my conscious will be at rest.

TrueConfection · Answer

Nope. It makes me feel better. I struggle more with giving up.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, I have to agree with you. I get tired of trying to please people and yes I bust my ass to make them happy, sometimes I like to quit.

ThatNoUVAtYourEyes · Answer

You are like that, this is known. I get tired of it daily (now the time to see if I move to a country I don't need to defend for no money, bad treatment AND no one to hug good night; they are uptight insecure assholes who believe they can negotiate by _removing_ anyone I like for me to keep saving their asses - Belgians and the European Union/Commission)

Tim-loves-it · Answer

Always. There are days I try to NOT be the good guy.. Nope, can't do it.

es20490446e · Answer

If you feel tired it means you are pressuring yourself too much. The key is doing things at an intensity they feel right to you.

Alexalex92 · Answer

I wish you have the best day of your life when you read this ☺️🙏🐕

JosyJosy · Answer

Yes, but it's pretty subjective. If I suffer under it it's the wrong thing disguised as a right one.

blondfrog · Answer

Yeah I don't keep score. When I have had enough I've had enough and I will let you know. And its not gonna be nice.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Nope i'm not tired but sometimes i snap than return later to my previous status... Never be tired miss brains muffins from being the good person 🙂

Marhaban-1 · Answer

If I do they it's time to let the nafarious side of me out to play and run riot

collie22 · Answer

we all fall short sometimes right! keep trying to be a good person

CubaPirate · Answer

You are not alone. Because those that can have to as those who can't don't bother to try.

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

Im not tired because I don't do it. 🤣 why would I bust my ass and be a bigger person for someone else? That's ridiculous. If it doesn't benefit me I'm not doing it

scooogy · Answer

I'm tired of telling people that they should get vaccinated. At our testing location we have patients who get tested every two days, with records above two dozen tests done already.

AndrewMG · Answer

Naah, it comes naturally mate lol

Rangers · Answer

Yeah, I get tired of letting democrats live and destroy this country when i know God is screaming at me to kill all of them

ToastyOats · Answer

This is what small, evil, unreliable people need to exsist, your consent to the relationship. Segregation is the only solution.

Turtleneck22 · Answer

That’s why I always do the wrong thing.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Even when things become difficult, you shouldn’t not want to be good

krin_m · Answer

Yeah, but the alternative makes me feel worse!

belle_kai · Answer

Yes, exhausting and draining

fonduegirl · Answer

Anyone who said no on this is living in denial

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Sometimes

Mavie · Answer

a lot

Medhat-M · Answer

Story of my life 😞

Guido · Answer

Way too often. Its exhausting.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

Yes sometimes

LemiaOfChampions · Answer

Sometimes.

LonewolfMeme · Answer

Yea all the time

Babygirl_S · Answer

Yes 😣

Dave576 · Answer

No I just keep pushing myself

EnglishEuropean · Answer

I feel like we're hearing half a story here.

msc545 · Answer

yes!

Nazgol · Answer

All the time

Slim57 · Answer

Guess not 😶

Hulk30 · Answer

no i dont

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