Why does forcefully adopting a quiet personality results in social anxiety?

[Savingtimeforya]

I used to be very loud and outgoing, but when I got bullied quite severely I decided to act more quiet so I could get noticed less by others which resorted into me feeling unusually tense and fearful of others. It’s really strange because at one point when I forced myself to be more silent I wasn’t feeling awkward or shy. Now all of a sudden it’s hard to speak and I feel so tense and awkward. What happened and how do I reverse this?

[genericname85]

well because you learn what you have to do to avoid bad shit in your life. and sometimes what you learn to avoid this will harm you in other areas of life. you reverse this by praciticing being more open and vulnerable around people. it's not eay but you can do it. also getting a good therapist is a huge benefit if that's possible for you.

[Kay9DaCanine]

Lol now you know how it's like, I been living like this my whole life, just buying something at a shop counter is painfully awkward, it sucks don't it?
LolAnyway I blame society, if people wasn't so mean and easily rejecting, We wouldn't have a reason to try and hide away and speak less... We would be brave and confident.. thanks a lot society, assholes