People keep saying I look mean when I’m actually a happy person. How to fix my rbf (resting bitch face)?

[Anonymous]

I get told this all the time that I look mean, or I fight people. I hear it from family, friends even strangers. I don’t go out of my way to pick on and provoke people. Hell, if anything some people actually pick on me to see how I react.

I don't know how to overcome this problem, I do smile but whenever my face is rested normally I “look mean”. And literally I have no control over it but if I was walking around grinning at everyone for no reason I would be questioned about it.

I’m not trying to please anyone, I asked cause I am tired of hearing it from people and it gets annoying. I have taken pictures of my side profile and that’s the angle where I look mean. But when I’m looking directly at someone I look more “calm”.

When I was younger I wanted a brow lift, I’m still thinking about it but I don’t want it as badly as I did when I was 18-19.

I also feel like I can’t form any decent relationships because of this problem. But I don't know at the end of the day maybe people shouldn’t be so focused on how “mean” I look and actually get to know me.

I know quite a few people who’s always smiling and looking approachable but they’re the rudest person (s) I know.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

It might be worth considering if your baseline happiness isn't where you want to be. That's not a RBF fix, but I notice I smile more now than three years ago - just because my life now is generally better and less stressful than 3 years ago.

Your smile isn't for everyone. And that's a lesson a lot of people don't understand when they look at a woman.

Ignore them.

Your RBF isn't scaring away potential matches. If someone sees you and judges you on a first glance and decides they want nothing to do with you, they're clearly not worth the effort to change yourself to be with.

Social norms have created this "always smile" image of women. It's not normal, it's not natural, and it's a pile of bullshit literally pushed to sell you things.

Companies don't advertise normalcy. They advertise that this Tiny Widget 3000 will solve all your problems because "oh look, the women in this ad are ALWAYS smiling!!!".

You're a real life person. Not an ad. Your RBF is not only just fine, you're more likely to find people who will be worth your time if you just keep being yourself.

Sure, when you're having a good time, smile. But don't force a "resting ballerina face". You don't owe that to anyone.

[Guy__]

I know some people who think they have a resting bitch face and see others tell them they do but to me they are so cute I want to lick their face as if I'm a bitch.

[Anonymous]

I think RBF or RDF are a defense mechanism to keep idiots away form you and random people who you don't really want to talk to anyways

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks!!!

[Opinion Owner]

I am not a mean person but I sure do get tired of crap. If strangers think I am obligated to put up with their shit. I deal with my friends, family, and my girlfriend. I can deal with their crap but I ain't putting up with strangers. (but they take crap from me too so it is a give and take LOL)