Is this a good analogy towards commitment?

[Anonymous]

Apparently commitment has always (in the 1900's) been more important for women than men. Since several men don't understand the woman's point of view and why aren't girls just happy to have a boyfriend that loves them and live together for years, why marriage so I'll put this analogy.

Lets say you're the owner of a huge store. Meanwhile on all the aisle and the shelves, there are prices for all your items and products, along with its guarantee... on a far away corner and small shelve there are free coupons and old free items you're trying to get rid off.

Then out of 100 people, 95 walked excited to your store. You think you finally will produce but all those clients are just for the free coupons and old free items. After all, those client don't want anything that cost and want to avoid responsibilities and any risks. Then 5 people actually do commit to your store, understand the risks and guarantees but still make the purchase. You and your company aren't gaining for benefiting from clients that just wants your free coupons and old items. You need clients that buy from you, that commit to your store.

Same thing with more women wanting commitment than just being your roommate for free. She's gaining nothing if you can just leave at anything, away from responsbility. Good for you but not for her nor her biology. She wasted time and her market value has been reduced by just accepting your way. She's losing... after course she's not going to be happy about that. Just like you wouldn't be happy if no one is buying from your store.

[Adam1978]

Not quite because that would mean that the store doesn't sell anything of value. If you removed the free stuff you might still not get any buyers. So you need to aquire value and not give it away for less than a good return. Women has raised their price while reduced their value given to men, this is why they find few buyers and most only wants to try them out without committing.

[Asker]

The store example was a way of trying to compare how a woman (most) feel when they're stuck in a live-in relationship for years that isn't progressing. If you were the owner of that store and you see it not progressing in the sales, the items are close to expiration date and few clients buy from you... you would feel it's pointless by then. That's one part of the analogy.
What you mentioned would be the 2nd part of the analogy... it would be looking further into what is causing it to go that far and stay at a stagnant, dead-end situation. It can be that reason (giving no value to whatever you want in life and not sounding convincing enough as to why client should buy your products or a man should marry her) or the simply reason of giving everything for free without any inventive nor anything in return, giving in too easily.

[Adam1978]

It's a proof she doesn't know her mate. He might be happy at the level she isn't. Another reason why she is making herself unhappy by expecting things out of her control. Instead of focusing on what she can do in life. If you want things to happen make them happen don't sit and wait for someone to do them for you. That how you stagnate, you stop working towards your goals. Or you put in goals that is outside your influence.

[Anonymous]

You said men don't understand women's point of view on this but you make it clear you don't understand a man's point of view. Marriage has become a very bad choice for men today. Until that changes, men will continue to avoid marriage.

[Asker]

I actually have my own business and property so yes I know how it feels but I can't be living in fear forever, just like I couldn't avoid forever buying a new fridge. If there is no trust in a relationship and you can't see a future, it was pointless to even stay in the relationship. Might as well go single

[Opinion Owner]

You owning a business and having your own property doesn't matter here because you're a woman. The issue is the biased court system, women's willingness to take full advantage of it, and the fact that women file the vast majority of divorces.

[Asker]

It's likely a woman with a much lower income, one that doesn't work or comes from a poorer family. If her income is equal or higher than his, then it's different.

[Opinion Owner]

No, that's not how the courts work. Statistics show that women get the advantage regardless of income level.

[Opinion Owner]

And women file the vast majority of divorces regardless of income level.

[Anonymous]

My father once told me that relationships are a lot like farts. If you have to force it, it's probably going to be shit.

[Asker]

I'm impressed how some people stay in dead-end relationships just for the sake of pleasure.

[Opinion Owner]

Is it really pleasure if you're miserable 90% of the time? Lol

[Avicenna]

That's a good explanation

[Asker]

Yeah pretty much anything that has to do with commitment of anything in life will cost. Hence why few people are willing to go for it.
Meanwhile anything that has to do with easily walking out without any obligation/responsibility, anything that's free of responsiblities is not a commitment.

[Avicenna]

But a guy has to trust her completely to marry her, that needs to be understood as well

[Asker]

Yes there was to be communication and trust indeed.