Why do some people assume I’m the bad person?

[Anonymous]

So I have asked around else where too on advice on how to get over a married man. None helped, people just instantly told me to stop chasing after him, if I wanted to chase after him I wouldn’t be asking on how to stop my feelings from turning into an affair.
And on here I’ve posted a couple my takes and on one of them on how I deal with my situation and giving the best advice I can they just assumed I’m going after them and telling people to go after them, but that’s not the case, I’m literally telling people it’s ok to show them how you feel but don’t go after them in that way by making it obvious, and also telling people to try dating single people maybe they’ll find someone who they’ll fall deeply in love with and forget about their married person. And people assume that I’m telling them to hope they get divorced when I say “If they truly wanted to be with you and they get divorced and approached you and you still feel the same way then go for it” but I don’t tell people to hope though for me I’d hope he’d be honest with everyone and decide to either rekindle his marriage or divorce his wife but all I know is I’m not going to be his puppet and yet people still think I want to go after him and telling people to go after someone who is married when that’s not what I’m saying at all.

[Anonymous]

Because you are, and you've shown it again here. If you know a man is married, it is NOT ok to show him how you feel. It is NOT ok to "give them glances, smile at them and if they willingly hug you, show it through a little squeeze while in a friendly embrace", as you said in your last MyTake. It's wrong, and it seems almost everyone but you knows that.

Don’t fight your feelings, instead show your feelings!

[Asker]

That’s what I’ve been told I just took advice I was given and interpreted it into my own perhaps this one came out with the wrong impression. But even when I have asked for advice on how to stop this feelings to do people have said “It’s time for you to talk with them” and “Don’t be a home wrecker” and “Stop chasing after married guys” and “Show them how you feel” if I literally wanted to chase after them I would be asking “How do I get him to divorce his wife for me?” But I never ask that I ask how can I stop these feelings from going further and all the advice I get isn’t completely helpful, yes maybe this came across the wrong way but my point is why do people straight up attack people like me when they ask for advice on how to stop things from progressing. Why do people say “Tell them how you feel” and then say “Stop wrecking a marriage” and then others say “Show them” etc none of its helpful in how to stop these feelings

[Opinion Owner]

Why di you get different advice from different people? Because some people have a higher standard of behavior than others, and some people with no sense of right and wrong will give unethical advice. Anyone who tells you to "show them how you feel" is an asshole.

[Havthrills]

You're not a bad person. It's perfectly normal to get attracted to someone. The way they make you feel, the way they make you laugh, etc. Do you know what it is that makes you attracted to him? What kind of attraction is it really? I didn't see your other posts. I know someone who is in the opposite situation. He's married and really likes another woman. Don't know why he would even tell me.

[CuriousMufuxka]

You are drama.