
What is the last thing you did to try and impress someone?


I was completely love with one girl my senior year in college. I did the following to improve my image:
- Changed my exercise regiment to put on more lean muscle/bulk. I always loved to exercise but I was doing cardio 6 days a week. This made me very skinny and lean. I had around 6% body fat. I cut down on cardio and consumed a lot more protein. I also took creatinine and l-arginine and I ended up gaining 10lbs of lean muscle mass.
- I took homeopathic medicine to clear up my acne. It wasn’t bad but I needed a better complexion
- I updated my wardrobe (didn’t have much money). Wore clothes that was more stylish and hip
- I did more adventures like rock climbing to come off as more cool.
- I tried to network and socialize more to come off as more cool.
Anyway the worst possible thing happened. I got my foot in the door with her (she did approach me first though) Got a 3 dates with her and told her I was in love on date 3. I read her poetry (yes I know that’s extremely pathetic now) Kissed her in a iconic place but also (unknowingly at the time) scared her. I didn’t realize I was being coming off as stalkerish/creepy at the time. She kept on talking to me but a invisible line
She later met her future husband right in front of me a few months later in a personal trainer certification class. But she kept talking to me. She even came by my place a few times still. I didn’t understand the friéndzone at the time. This torture went on another year. I took that as a chance she was still interested and she might leave him for me.
Anyway I never in my life put in as much effort to improve myself like I did for her. Never had someone motivate me like that.
I wish had someone like Corey Wayne or Doc Love to pull me aside and slap some hard sense into me back then.
@Miladin it was a love poem. But I was way too smitten by her and didn’t hide it. I cringe when I recall how I acted back then. Had zero idea what I was doing.
It’s always the women I felt so so about who fall in love. Not rude to them but not bending over backwards for them either.
“It’s a scientific fact a woman is more attracted to a man whose feelings are unclear.”
- Corey Wayne
No one can force you to do the things you did in the name of love. You did them because you thought you'd benefit from them, and had it worked, there would be no discussion right? Some times in life, stuff just doesn't work out, it doesn't mean you're an idiot for trying. That's all we have in life is to try and hope stuff works out, and if it doesn't try with the next thing or person.
No I was idiot for putting her up on a pedestal. But again I was 21 and didn’t understand challenge, friendzone and all the “game” at the time. Back then there were no awareness of that for guys.
For what’s worth I think she had some conflicting feelings for me. She did briefly consider dating me but I came on too strong and too soon. I called and emailed her nonstop too (embarrassed to admit that)
However she felt guilt for knowing how I coincidentally observed right in front her fall in love with someone else. But she also loved how I showered her with all the compliments and bent over backwards for her. That’s why she kept saying hi to me, calling me when I was around and even coming over to my (alone) place to chat. Just keep my attention to boost her ego. However at least she was very careful to never bring her boyfriend.
But young women (and sometimes grown ass women) have this very stupid and selfish belief that men are truly “okay” being just friends. They struggle to accept reality that is next to impossible. They also don’t realize how much long term damage that can do to men. They just want the short term gain of having an orbiter.
It was a very tough lesson.
*bring up her boyfriend
I sent flowers to her at work. She was very surprised.
Gave birth without drugs.
I was trying to impress my mom who gave birth to me without drugs too.
If I ever got pregnant again, I will be going without the epidural again unless there are complications or I need a C-section.
i tried going off the jump in the skate park a , the first try was good and i looked like i knew what i was doing the second i shouldn't of!
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She had been flirting with me for more than 7 months. One day I was super horny and I took her (my boss, 2 years younger) into her office and told her that if she approved the raise I requested 3 weeks prior, I'd let her touch it and I closed her blinds and legit sat down in the chair in front of her desk and unzipped slowly. I fully expected to get fired and arrested...
Thankfully she obliged and I didn't get fired or charged with anything, lol. $7 hr raise too, that was a great damn day, still at the same job. She left the company 2 months later due to family issues and moved to another state, but oh well. I'm pretty sure I impressed her.
Years ago, back when I was still trying to date, I had spent so much money on a stylist, a dating coach ( the coach was female and she even helped me with my profiles), I spent so much money over years on upgrading every dating profile I had which I had quite a bit all going at once, I got a makeover and I did all this to just in the hopes that one girl would give me the chance to try and impress them so I might get a date and nothing worked. That was the last time I tried to impress anyone.
An yes I was also trying to date in real life as well, I was putting all my effort in online dating, some of us aren't destined for "love" or relationships.
I put all the clothes away, and had all dishes completely washed and placed in their cabinets. It is an extremely rare occasion I would ever have both of those tasks completed, but I wanted my husband to have a break from when he get home from work. I had carved out time in my afternoon and changed appointments/phone meeting so it could happen.
I don't do that anymore. the older i get the more I see that trying to impress humanity is a waste of time, energy and mental well being.
This is my mentality on the matter as well. Impressing people is pointless because it's just another way of being fake.
I enjoy challenge, I do not however enjoy being fake.
I will act as i normally act, as an overachieving challenge hungry artist.
Catch a spider. I was 6, the spider bit me I cried, didn't work.
Ate some menudo? 😄 I was trying to show him I wasn’t scared to try different food. But menudo doesn’t agree w/me.
Nothing. Going out of your way to try to impress someone is a very good way to have a failed relationship. Just be yourself and hope that they are attracted, instead of being fake and are trying to attract them.
I don’t need to impress anyone. But if I had, I won’t remember coz idc 😂.
Can't remember. I don't care what people think of me
I don't try to impress anyone. They can like me as I am or don't like me. I am who I am and I'm proud of myself.
I woke up this morning. If that isn't impressive enough then everyone's out of luck
i kicked ass and chewed bubblegum, until i was all out of gum
I kicked over my head.
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