I feel lonely when ............. is/are not around me. What would you like to fill in the blank with?

[gayesblog]

This can either be a person or a personal item such as a phone, headphone, etc.

[Datboi65]

I may sound crazy for this, but I never feel lonely. I live by myself and I'm an introvert by nature, so I prefer to be left alone for the most part. When I do get dragged into events by my friends, I'm not shy at all and I have no problems with communication or social skills, but I feel exhausted after a very long day of socializing that I feel like I have to recharge for a few days afterwards.

I have had times out in public without my phone where I would still prefer to be lost in my own thoughts rather than make small talk, because I know those often lead to follow ups that I just don't have the energy for. For that I sometimes feel like talking to a lot of people in a day should be a paid job lmao. (Yes I'm aware that I'm active here which is technically a form of communication, but at least I don't have to play pool with/visit anyone from this portal, so it's just a quick matter of answering questions)

Moral of the story? I'm not a shy introvert, I'm more of the lazy type who doesn't want to talk to people and go out all the time, but does so occasionally.

[virtue2332]

Sounds familiar. I consider myself an introvert as well. I enjoy being lost in thought pondering watching people interact. I'm not sure if im shy or just selective when it comes to my interactions. I much prefer to text than talk on the phone and rarely answer calls and known to hide when someone is at the front door that i'm not expecting. I was a medic in the Military and in sales post military. Both jobs required me to be social and I had no issues but as you stated I also feel exhausted after a long day of socializing. I'm not sure why this is. I've wondered is it because I have to focus more on the social aspect of it so I can be courteous to the person im interacting with because I know im easily distracted. I like this site as well because I can pick and choose my interactions based on what im interested in. I'm embarrassed to say that Covid well let me not say covid but the Lock Down was not an uncomfortable time for me. It was like a get out of jail free card at times. I would also describe myself as not being a shy introvert. Not sure where you are on Center of attention but that's where the introvert in me lives. Not big on Birthday parties for me. Getting public awards dealt with that in the millitary. Happy and honored to be recognized but I dont want to receive it in public. Also probably not the best at receiving compliments. Is this the way I live out my life or has anything changed or helped you.

[Datboi65]

@virtue2332 First of all brother, thank you for your service.

I don't really struggle with phone calls as I do initiate them sometimes. I just prefer to text because calls can sometimes drag to hours of talking, and I just don't have time for that, but I have no phone call anxiety.

Yes, the pandemic was a decent time for me as well. It was a breath of fresh air that I didn't have to go out in the same frequency as I did before, and I did prefer online learning over being on campus. I still found ways to communicate with people and play video games during that time (I'm not much of a gamer now but I enjoyed it nonetheless).

I don't like birthdays either. I recently turned 21, and didn't ask anyone to make me a birthday party. I live by myself, so to me a birthday is just another business day. It's perfect because I like routine and I don't want to take time off and ruin my momentum that took me a while to get to in both studies and the gym.

[Datboi65]

@virtue2332 I don't like being the center of attention either, unless the situation calls for it (like having to lead a project for example) but not in social situations. I prefer my small group of friends, but I do know a large amount of people that I consider acquaintances and not friends.

I have tried to live as an extrovert at some point in my life, and what I had realized is that it's very unnatural to me, so I went back to what I was doing before. I don't think you need to change anything really if you're happy with your outcomes, but if you're not then you need to be honest with yourself as to why you are not and what you can do to change it.

[virtue2332]

Thanks for reply. You are wise for your age. I have also tried to be more of an extrovert when I was leading a sales team. I'm good at it and had 10 of the best financial years of my life but it was extremely exhausting, and I always felt like I was acting. Once the suit was on it was game time but it was weird because I felt like I relied on the suit to flip that switch. Anyways I saw some similarities that caught my attention and i've always been ok with my quirks. Been Married close to 20 years so no problems there. I have 3 daughters and my 13 yo is similar I am starting to notice. So I sit and ponder and over analyze it in my head. Whole new generation the internet makes it much easier, but I suppose it also allows other ways to engage that were not available in the past. Thank you for the input good luck with your future endeavors.

[Datboi65]

@virtue2332 Thank you for the kind reply good sir. You have a lovely Saturday.

[tenor55]

Being an introvert, I never feel that lonely. However, I can head that direction when my wife is away for a while, or without music. Side note: since my wife is also an introvert (actually a good thing) when she gets home from a trip SHE needs some quiet to recharge.

[Anonymous]

I feel lonely when the guy I'm in a relationship with is around me

The reason I say that is because I've realized he plays mind games and manipulates me. When I'm around him I feel lonely and alone, because he has a negative affect on my mental state. I'm working on my self-esteem. and confidence , so I can walk away and cut all ties with him.

[Cynicaldreamer]

"Technology." Because it seems like most aspects of communication, gaming, music, interacting with people, etc... is via online now. Without it, I'd be very bored and lonely

[Damian69]

My family, friends, and girlfriend. I don't mean all day, every day, but when covid hit I wasn't able to see them. Though I refused to admit it to myself then, it made me very lonely now that I look back on those memories of crying myself to sleep wishing I had someone by my side

[Flickamina21]

I feel lonely... actually I don't know. I've never felt that lonely not being around people and i rarely have material attachment if any. I feel lonely when i feel misunderstood or when other people deliberately ignore that I'm a person who has feelings and can feel the hurt too.

[Draco3471]

Actually there's nothing to fill in the blank with me I've been single and alone for over 6 years so I'm always alone and lonely but if I had to answer that and someone else's View it would have to be a mother a father a wife a husband or a pet

[DaveJord]

I feel lonely when I watch all the new Disney + series because I start to feel like I am the only true white heterosexual male left in the world, and everyone else is either not white, a women or gay.

[OlderAndWiser]

Dude, according to the presdent, you are not alone!

[OlderAndWiser]

(and am a white heterosexual male!)

[DaveJord]

@OlderAndWiser LOL... I love it!!!

[OlderAndWiser]

Merry Christmas, man!

[prettyfacegoodtaste]

i feel lonely when my phoneisn’t around.
when i have a boyfriend, it’s him, but i try to be healthy about it. i’m an introvert, and also a serious creative so i love being able to hop on apps and create things and make tumblr content 😇 mmmm.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

The people around me doesn't want to listen to my rants and I haven't ranted in 3 days.

i like talking 😔

[Evie_Rose91608]

I feel lonely when my boyfriend is not around me. I'm really overprotective of him and I'm an overthinker so when he's not around I get scared he's dead.

[Kayla45]

I feel lonely when my friends are not around me when I need their support the absolute most. 💔

[lilly15345]

i feel lonely with out my faviote ex boyfriend markle he ghost me all the time and still ghost me and he's in collge too becuazee was the only one was there for me when i got heartbroken by last ex boyfriend and ex still tell he's love me and stil l want too be together and he told me he want marry me

[Lliam]

1. My wife
2. Our two cats
3. My phone and laptop

[Labokachulaa]

I would insert that with my last cat's name... I miss him.. I regret leaving him when I moved years ago. He stopped eating after I left.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Awwww

[SnowedIn]

... wife, kids, cat, phone...

Not all the time and not all at the same time but in variations.

GREAT question! :)

[Miristheiss]

I never feel lonely. I have a wife and 2 kids. I always have company. I actually enjoy alone time when I am alone.

[VIVANT]

When my legs don’t work. As long as I can run I can do without everything else.

[TrueConfection]

... when any of my kids are away. The worst is coming home to an empty house.

[Aerissa_Jade]

I feel lonely when my love is not around me.

Whoever that may be at the time 🤣

[Bklynbadboy12]

Baby I'm right here 😘

[Aerissa_Jade]

@Bklynbadboy12 Thanks

[Bklynbadboy12]

Your so welcome

[humanearth]

I feel lonely when my wife is not around me for more then a few days

[coachTanthony]

I feel lonely when MY BOURBON is/are not around me and in the other room.

[mobiusforniner]

I still have a bit of Makers 114 proof in my cabinet coach. You're welcome to share.

[trina_x]

i feel lonely when stuffed animals are not around me

[Mysticknght]

I feel lonely when he is not around me. I always do. It's like apart of me is missing when he isn't near me

[pewter_moon]

I don’t feel lonely. I am comfortable in my own skin.

[Arjunaguy]

I fill it by watching a movie a show or just listen to music. This helps me distract my mind from such thoughts

[pers0n]

Health. I feel like poop if I eat poisonous commercial junk food.

[DesiUwU]

yeah i get that lol, i love being surrounded by treats but when i eat have too much for like, the 3rd day in a row, my body gets pretty tired of em and i'll crave fruits and vegetables only for a while

[pers0n]

How about fasting, then bone broth and raw fermented sheep milk saturated with molecular hydrogen?

[DesiUwU]

i fast a lot, my diet is a little out of whack

[Pudsmucker]

I would say music I would feel lonely without it around me. I love all forms of music and it's quite soothing when I have troubles or when I'm happy or sad

[RavVid]

I am damned good company to me and I am never lonely when I am around.

[mobiusforniner]

1) My wife and kids

2) My piano and violin.

[Sparkie460]

I sometimes feel lonely when family is not around me. Sometimes I just need to get away from them. Lol

[TheBMG]

My children. They drive me crazy, but it’s going to be really lonely when they move out.

[AsaKyo]

I feel lonely when Badoosel Linguini is not around me

[aaron210419]

I don't have something to do with my time and my ADHD brain starts overthinking things

[linka_pat307]

𝙼𝚊 𝚝𝚠𝚒𝚗 𝚜𝚒𝚜𝚝𝚎𝚛 𝚘𝚛 𝚖𝚢 𝚌𝚛𝚞𝚜𝚑

[Lexina]

I feel lonely when my phone and brothers are not...

[jamesgoldman]

My quarter panda ring... even had that on in hospital

[Guanfei]

If there's no one you can talk to today, go on the internet and chat with people. It's still people and you won't be that lonely.

[NightmarePanda]

My fiance. I only get to see her a few times a month, she plans on moving closer, but the times in between can be rough.

[Tracker1958]

I'm at my happiest when I'm alone. I hate people

[FireFox001]

I can't. I am at peace with myself and I like to be alone.

[MrGSpotHer]

After being alone for months at a time no conversation then I do

[PeterLegg91]

I feel lonely when I have nobody to talk too :( I love talking either in person or on here

[ThatCanucker]

I am always lonely so I couldnt think of anything.

[edgarmh4h]

Sometimes when i don’t have my phone with me and i am people that i don’t know so much

[EvilAngel114]

All the pillows on my bed

[Tina19]

When Hamza is not around me ( hamza is my bunny)

[Bklynbadboy12]

Awwww too cute

[DeeDeeDeVour]

I can't recall ever feeling lonely.

[katiesmuff]

For me it would be "family"

[Amy10223]

When my kids are not around me.

[DenizLikesTennis]

My family, loyal friends

[AnUglyBarnacle]

My family and my dog.

[CateM]

Spotify and the people I care about

[Blackmoonsns]

When I'm being lazy not chasing my dreams

[FunkyMonkee]

friends or family

[lottiebannotie]

Sadly probably my phone 🤣

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

My Laptop

[Sisters_Of_Time]

When my alters don't answer.

[Massageman]

my dog. Lost her to Cushing's this spring.

[Mimi_loves_her]

Anyone near me or to talk to

[Dnice1]

Family or boyfriend

[JustCantSleep]

My second personality

[Heolurt]

I feel lonely, just everyday

[WTFdivorce]

When I am traveling and away from my pup.