What do you do when you feel lonely?

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I usually don't mind being by myself. I'm an introvert and really value my space and alone time. But there are times where I switch from loner to lonely. Tonight is one of those times. I feel sooo alone. I know it'll pass soon... hopefully. 😔

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Makeushiver · Accepted Answer

nitrogen depends on state of mind. There is a difference between being alone and being lonely. I like to read and often go through 3-5 books a week. I also play guitar. I think learning an instrument is a good way to enjoy solitude There are plenty of free/cheap instructional videos available for any instrument. Any ideas would probably need to account for the setting. Cities of course have a lot more alternatives, esp. Nat nights. More rural settings have better outdoor options.
Taking group lessons can be a good activity and also offers a better way to meet people. than a club or bar. if I ones where you lived I might have some more specific ideas. This may sound a bit odd but any of nd of service you might do, e. g. working in homeless shelter kitchen, can offer unexpected joy wince we seem to be built so that service to others is rewarding.

I think the ability to be comf ooo stable by yourself us an important asset. I should probably include the leader suggestions came to mind

GoodEnoughThen · Accepted Answer

1) Distract yourself, netflix, take a walk, reach out to friend/family, exercise, read. Get your. mind thinking on something else, don't get mind stuck on negatives.

2) Know that it will likely pass. Get a good night sleep, and know that tmrw will be a new day and you'll hopefully feel different, rejuvenated.

3) Do a little non-judgemental self analysis (or speak to a trusted friend, teacher, clergy, counselor) to see if there is anything you want to change about yourself or your "lonely" state of mind. Ask, "Why do I feel this way? Whay can I do to improve my situation and reducw the discomfort.

Boredome, in a sense, can be thought of as a sort of motivator to not be bored.

melanieeeB · Accepted Answer

I kinda wait for that feeling to pass and depending on my mood, I either try to change it and meet people and like there is a app here where you can talk anonymously with locals and it's pretty used and I did use it too for a while but deleted my whole acc, it's worse than here... or I just make nice things for me, beauty masks, musik etc

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Yea you know I’m a lonewolf *howls* but the lonely hour sets in for me at 11pm on Friday and Saturday nights. See Mon-Thurs, I have my tv show schedule that keeps me occupied til I fall asleep. But on Fri/Sat nights, I have to force myself to go to sleep early or watch porn to avoid hitting up some folks 😂

Sonorous · Answer

Go on YouTube, tiktok, text a friend, clean &/or organize, etc.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I've nearly always been lonely! Sometimes, it hits me a little harder and I might even just sit and do a bit of crying about it.

I can see me being lonely if I'm a flaming asshole towards women (actually, I can't!! Women LOVE guys like that!! Which is WHY I'm so lonely!!) but, I'm a VERY nice guy, I don't abuse, I'm very loving, kind and caring, have a great sense of humour, very easy going, I don't drink or use drugs (other than music) and, from what girls have said time and time again, I'm the kind of guy they WANT!! So, why the fuck am I CONSTANTLY by myself?

Middleman · Answer

Sorry to hear that. I guess loneliness affects people in many ways. Having family around helps but there are times when you may just want some company. What kind of company one has really depends upon your interests and general state of mind.

When I feel lonely I like to go out, take a walk or chat with my friends/family or sibling,
watch a movie or do a bit of meditation. I try and focus on the positive things that are in my life now such as maybe having a job, good health, having food to eat and a roof over my head. I think being grateful about these things helps with the loneliness somewhat.

TransAm85 · Answer

Member that movie Ted.. "You're never alone when ur w/God" lol But, on a serious note, yea it makes me a little nervous being alone too long. I like space, but I like to be around people, even if we don't have a lot in common or much to talk about. I grew up w/o a father and not much of a mother so that's probably why I get anxious when I'm alone long. When I was in my 20's, I didn't care at all! Everything from ur past hits u when u pass 30 and it just keeps coming..

Moose304 · Answer

To be honest, as I get older I seem to experience being lonely more than I did. I am in the process of reducing my work and this has resulted in more free time. I get on the internet sometimes and again sometimes I will call another person just to say hello. This song is one I have loved and enjoyed for years. I met J. D just before he did the movie Purgatory. Some of my phone conversations are right from this song!

hIopinionated_ · Answer

Introvert here. Most of the time, being a loner is my thing. When I’m not feeling being a loner, music is my first love. It gets me in my own world and or I sing to the skies and put on my own little talent show

I don’t care much for company but talking to the right people is fun as well (on special occasions), could be a stranger or loved one

elly91 · Answer

To be honest I'm a bit of both. An introvert and an extrovert. I never feel lonely and I think something that Really helps is not giving yourself the time to think about it that much and just keep busy. My therapy in most cases is journaling and yoga.

Still-alive · Answer

it hasn't happened to me in awhile now but when i did, i always just immersed myself in any of my hobbies. for instance i was really depressed in 2011 for a time and that was the year Skyrim came out. well i just pretty much lost myself in the game. it was nice.

i've also painted table top miniatures when feeling down... building or making things really helps out a lot. and who know maybe you'll meet someone you like who shares that hobby.

MCheetah · Answer

Hmmm... That's my secret, captain... I'm literally always lonely.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I heard meditation lowers loneliness and for me, loving kindness meditation lowers Lowliness, I picture unhappy people being blessed by others and becoming happy, and that gives me joy. That is my meditation.

Ευδεμονια · Answer

It’s happens sometimes to me too, in general I’m ok to be alone since I’m used to it, but sometimes I feel very lonely. Usually I try to contact a friend, take a long walk, so some exercises… I try to keep me busy.

RavVid · Answer

Similarly I am happy with my own company. Rarely do feel lonely. If I do then I'd just go to a bar or a cafe - its enough to be amongst other people for me and occasionally a few words with a stranger.

Nobody you can call for a chat?

Jacobbbb · Answer

Tonight is kinda one of those nights for me as well. I just try to find something to distract myself or you know keep myself busy to block out those intrusive thoughts

Pinay_ako · Answer

Go for a run 🏃‍♀️ with gangsta and pretty girl playing in my ears not caring about the world around me!

VanillaSalt · Answer

Lol get over it. That’s what I do. I can drown myself in a good movie or a hobby anytime because I’m used to being alone now.

Blackcosmo · Answer

Same I love my alone time but I feel lonely sometimes. I just dwell on thoughts that aren't the most positive. A bad habit I need to fix.

Haha456 · Answer

I have been lonely my entire life. My solution to loneliness is to get married. I have already found someone to marry. I'm not in love with him but he makes a caring husband and good father. I look forward to enjoying life with him. Life is not worth it when you're always lonely and begging for people to hangout with you. Friends come and go and its rare to come across someone reliable that would stay. Best solution is to get married.

Idkiiii · Answer

I'm a person who has the bare minimum amount of social interaction by choice. I simply prefer coming home from work, and going to my computer to spend some time gaming, binging, forums. I don't really enjoy social interaction that much. I go out with some friends maybe once or twice a month? Twice would be pushing it.

Sugar100 · Answer

I like to chat with people on here, but all week no one wants chat with me I don't know why 😞 have no friends on gag

young_OG96 · Answer

I just go for a drive music blasting, you don’t really think about being lonely

Chrysantenum95 · Answer

Watch emotional movies, becoz it lets out all kinds of emotions that will put my heart, mind and soul at ease. If i supress it, it will only cause huge burden on my day to day life and i tend to procastinate.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I really don't feel lonely.
I have been alone a lot, but I always have plenty to do.
I have a great friend base, enjoy my alone time, so I can unwind, but I really don't remember the last time I felt lonely.

ZS007 · Answer

I also love being alone. also an introvert. when I'm lonely though I call my friends and talk to them or occupy myself with something I like doing.

Nathan25 · Answer

Escapism? hello? The worst thing is getting left behind by roomates when they go do something fun. Just don't let it happen. You think you won't be lonely and then you will be lonely.

DarkCarousel · Answer

Read books, journal, go for a walk, listen to music while I work on a project. Things like that. Snuggle up with my cat.

burlen · Answer

At night, I would watch a movie, mediate, or browse the internet. During the day, I would go to the gym, for a run or walk in the woods.

Nash62826 · Answer

Call whoever I'm dating ATM or do something to distract myself from the feeling the busier the better.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

It’s pretty rare. I’ll usually call someone. Or i’ll go to a bar. Bars are usually filled with other lonely people.

TheFlak38 · Answer

Difficult to feel lonely when I have enough hobbies and a fun job to keep myself busy.

Rose_84 · Answer

Wanna chat? I'm ambivert but one of my friends made me feel bad for being happy today. She rained all her issues on me and that how I should help her all the time instead of being happy and free.

bigpauly · Answer

This site helps a lot. I Never truly feel alone when able to communicate with others.

scooogy · Answer

I sometimes hate myself for that, but I seriously watch tv shows about happy couples..

Fuentes · Answer

I don't get lonely it's agaisnt my religion.

Anthony20108 · Answer

grab a tub of cookie dough ice cream, watch anime, and become depressed xD.

Staximus · Answer

Hang out with my brother, call or hang out with friends. I've spent a lot of time alone and sometimes you need people around

Jltakk · Answer

Thanks to my my melancholic depression and ASD, I just confirm the cycling thoughts in my head especially why I am sleeping at an empty room. The only solution for me is to sleep the pain away.

fellatio-ohoh · Answer

when i feel lonely, my 2 main go to comforts are the higher me "meditation" & the lower me "porn"

I'm open & honest, I find if i masturbate watching porn i shake off that dark cloud

anyone else loose themselves in porn? actually any girls on here in to porn?

if so what types of porn?

Friendlybro79 · Answer

I'll call a friend to talk and try to make plans to get out and be with people.

driven159 · Answer

Take the boat out and go fishing and be with nature which is a lot better than being around people these days

Anonymous · Answer

I usually feel depressed until I don’t anymore

Rangers · Answer

Tell my girlfriend i miss her and think about her until she can talk

Loser94 · Answer

Play videos watch some funny tv shows and movies go skateboarding or longboarding. Treat myself to some good food.

Beardedman1996 · Answer

Excessive masturbation and then comedy podcasts, long walks in nature

Jerre · Answer

Sext a friends with benefits to come over and keep me and my cock entertained

WhitneySnow · Answer

I usually read or text with friends

darealkevin · Answer

I hop on live streaming apps like Yubo, or I read a book; both work pretty well for me.

brezzybaby · Answer

I ain't sure , I guess I feel lonelier. And then I try to find a way to not be lonely.

loveslave · Answer

i listen to music, sing, or create art.

Anonymous · Answer

Continue to feel lonely untill something briefly distracts me.

aialex · Answer

Playing roulette

JaxiCats · Answer

I honestly don’t know

LexiXide · Answer

I cry

Guy13 · Answer

Sleep...

Shark_61695 · Answer

Wallow in self pity :)

d3n0939 · Answer

well you are on this website for a reason

Hairylegs222 · Answer

I go see my family or friends.

Freyke · Answer

Sing and jam a bit in a room with great acoustics

Juxtapose · Answer

I call up one of my friends, what else?

Anonymous · Answer

better to be alone then hurt by anyone

snowboarder720 · Answer

God you’re so attractive.

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