The first thing that came to my mind now is the following:
When I was 15, a friend of mine had to do a school language trip during the vacations cause her parents wanted her to finally learn English.
I wanted to do that too! But I knew that my mom can't afford it, so I eagerly waited until I'm 16 and allowed to work.
My mom didn't allow me to work, we fought so much and she promised she would pay it.
I found the cheapest option for 5 days london.
It didn't happen and I turned 17 and it didn't happen again. (Another friend went to the program I wished for)
My stepfather stepped in and was like I will send you to Australia for the whole summer!
I could stay with his family friends. He will pay the flight, part of the programm and I could work there and pay the rest.
I still asked for the cheapest one (a week in England) but he insisted and said you just have to find a program and a school and talk to your own school so I can go a week early.
I did all that.
Two days before he said my flight would go, my suitecase was already packed, he confessed to me that he didn't do shit, that he didn't even look for a plane ticket and just lied the whole time.
I walked into school on Monday, everyone was confused cause I should be sitting in a plane, I said nothing and thankfully everyone understood and were really nice to me for once.
My mom still was like we will make it happen but that was my last year and my last opportunity. I didn't enroll into a aupair program, cause I couldn't leave my sister for a whole ass year and also didn't had enough money to that time.
May I add that I never asked my mom for anything basically, I always bought all my stuff with my 10€/month. I was the cheapest person, until I started making my own money.
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Dealing with the justice system, it doesn't bring justice at all for the victims of crimes. It is more concerned about making sure the terrible criminals have a nice life, get education in prison and all kinds of other services while letting the victims of those crimes suffer and wither away.
Not directly involved but spectating: the wannabe-samaritans politics and the unfair justice system in Luxembourg (very similar to Germany).
Here Politicians love to be portrayed as heroes and samaritans who save the world. All just for publicity, but you quickly see behind the curtains if you have any brain cells. They construct or built stuff no one asked for or wanted, only for them to be praised in media. Lots of greenwashing projects that make no sense.
Another box that gets ticked in their "samaritan agenda" is be a luxury resort to refugees and spoil them. What we get is spoiled brat refugees who refuse to integrate, get a free house and free money and criminality skyrockets. Also their crimes get hidden from public and they get off easy. Also immigrants found out that if you're underage with no ID you're free of charges, so we have a serious issue of child violence and gangs around here. Politics ignore it and say all is good.
Another point in their plan is greed. Growing and money. Our housing prices are too high for anyone to afford, though our politicians do nothing and even support it. They let immigrate more and more people so more houses can get sold. And if you see those immigrants, their not rich. Sometimes 13 people share the cost to live in one house. Our politics exploit them. Also the more modern houses resemble workers homes that are cramped together with no style.
Probably finding out that the reason my mother made me move in with her after I was pretty much raised by my aunt was because she couldn't get kicked out of her apartment for skipping rent if she had a minor in her care. She could also use me as a "leverage" to get money from my father.
It was quite the disappointment because she had managed to sell herself as this cool, friendly big sister figure, and I saw her as such. Living almost five years with her, I understood why my aunt and my sisters were always wary when she arrived unannounced. Sometimes she would disappear for days and then came the day I came home from University and found out she had just disappeared with all her belongings and a lot of money and valuables that were my own. I was 19 but when the realization set in I cried like a kid. Basically robbed and abandoned, she left me almost nothing.
Everyone was furious with her over this and my father even called the authoritities on her for theft and manages.
I have since forgiven her, but I'm not forgetting this one and that basically she had no qualms leaving me out to dry.
She's not a bad person and I admit that many people had it much worse than me in the parents department - she's just really self-centered than outright malicious - but I learned that when someone complains about everyone being assh*les to them, chances are that they are the assh*le.
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This was recent, so perhaps I am biased towards it. But my grandmother's apartment complex burnt down. I live far away, but have been trying to help her find a new house, keep her off the streets, and reassure her. And it's been working, weve got things lined up, and with the help of people in our lives a little money to make it happen.
But her and my father have a rocky relationship, and I called him asking for help, he lives there near her. And he told me he wouldn't talk, interact, or do anything to support her. I never thought I would be more disappointed in a other person, much less him.The biggest disappointment for me is when I got rejected by two guys in university and got ghosted by my best friend 11 years ago. I did not reach my academic goals by getting a graduate degree but that was not a horrible thing since I did not want to go to graduate studies when I learned how hard it would be.
Becoming an adult.
People warned me it's more work and stress than fun, but did I listen? Nope. Shame on me...Most of my childhood. It was so bad, my parents actually did me a favour when they abandoned me when I was 12 years old.
Hard to pin it on one thing, it’s just been a fight for everything I’ve ever had. Everything I do - work, relationships, money - things just don’t quite work and I can’t for the life of me figure out what it is I’m doing wrong
When I walked into the break room at work & they took the ice cream machine away.
Forgetting my shoes at a public pool walking away not realizing I'm bare foot and needing to walk the whole way back on super hot street.
This morning when I was meant to get a £1100 bonus and the tax & pension came off and I got £515 in total after all that 🥲
How my life turned out, period.
It was wasted and there's nothing I can do to change that.
I patiently wait for death.being friendzoned even by someone who loved me, and then telling me that she doesn' want responsibility when I was attempting a suicide
My career. It's nothing now like it was 15 years ago when I started it (I work in IT as an engineer).
Sleeping with someone too soon but I didn't know any better
Not having the marriage/kids, especially the kids by 25
Nothing major so far but I will make mistakes later haha
it goes by so fast.
The older you get the faster time flies by.I've been lonely too long.
That I continued to believe people when they said they loved me, and that I let them take advantage of me
That I was make fun of baeuse I have never had sex before or any type of adult sexual things before and I was always worried about my size and my body and my looks and everything
Interpersonal relationships have turned out to be a real let-down in my own life.
I didn’t ask to be here I can’t say anything is disappointing enough because I didn’t ask for this
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