I'm officially tired of hearing the words ''I love you'', is my reaction normal?

[Vesuvius87]

This week 3 different online users I've never met in person tried to lovebomb and scam me. Two tried doing the romance scam (one saying ''I love you'' and another eventually asking for a gift card) and another was a woman doing the inheritance scam where she had stage IV throat cancer and wanted to ''donate €85,000 out of kindness'' to me, a random stranger.

Stage IV cancer and on a hospital bed and yet the lady writes a well spoken, elaborated paragraph. Gotcha... yeah right.

I was originally going to do the scam baiting thing but I got fed up (I was too upset to even play their game) and quickly proceeded to calling them out on their BS and blocking them.

At this moment I'm not in a good state of mind to hear the words ''I love you'' if it's not coming from my parents or maternal grandma. One more ''I love you'' and I feel as if I'm going to explode. A combination of two failed relationships (a scammer and then an asexual liar) and several scammers and lovebombers killed it for me.

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9 mo

I'm getting too old for this ''I love you'' and childish, adolescence infautation BS, where either a relationship ends after the infatuation stage fades or those words are said by an idiot.

[RoseySarah]

Won't be the first or the last women to get tired of those!

Really guys are so dumb and now getting desperate!

Only ever want to hear those words after they are true any other time is a huge red flag to me.

Also him asking about having kids soon nopes don't want kids! Especially with someone before we have hit the 2 year mark let alone never met!

[Vesuvius87]

I don't even want to hear those words and he feels the need yo say them, I'd prefer it seldom times... not too much. I want consistent, caring actions over time.

[RoseySarah]

So true and wonderful hand holding and snuggles!

[RoseySarah]

Ops so sorry accidently unfollowed you!
Refollowing!

[Rohaan2020]

Yeah it has become so difficult to trust people these days… its better to just love urself and your family

[Vesuvius87]

Exactly.

[CuriousMufuxka]

You officially sound angry. Can't say it's normal because I don't understand what normal is..

[Vesuvius87]

Yes I think I'm venting. I'm very disappointed at all the BS I have to deal with when it comes to finding a compatible partner.

[CuriousMufuxka]

That is as I've understood the shitty side of being a woman. Too many options that seem terrible by a few bad apples. Actually that's happened to me as a man! Go ahead and vent, but take that others go through similar bullshit with you on your way out.

[Tim-loves-it]

Me too.. once in a while, yes. more than every day? gimme a break!

[Vesuvius87]

True. Nowadays anyone can say that at the heat of the moment, during the infatuation period but don't really mean it afterwards and then it's over.

[Anonymous]

If you hear it often and if often said as a habit, it will lose its meaning eventually hence you get tired of hearing the words

[rebeliouse]

why do people use the love word when they are obviously lying?

[Vesuvius87]

They either don't love you at all (it's all about lovebombing) or think loving someone is fantasizing about them and the lustful moments 24/7, which that's just pure attraction and infatuation but not actually love.

[na123345]

Please is the part of life
So don’t be tired of that

[Vesuvius87]

It gets pathetic when people use it randomly only to then break-up after the infatuation period is over.

[na123345]

But you will find a better one than your past
Please don’t get tired

[Vesuvius87]

I'm looking for a permanent commitment (marriage) and not be another man's girlfriend. If I knew for sure he was marriage-minded and actually proposes, it'll bring me back hope.

[na123345]

Are you ready for the marriage?

[Vesuvius87]

Yes I am

[Vesuvius87]

I don't want to date forever.

[na123345]

Really

[Vesuvius87]

Yes. I don't want to be another man's long-term girlfriend again. To get an idea of how I feel:
Imagine you're already in college but instead have to start all over again with young 14-15 year-old HS freshmen. You would feel like a stunt adult.

[na123345]

Please chat me on [phone]

[na123345]

Please are you there

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes that's normal but I'd block them I have zero time for bullshit

[DerekC321]

Yeah they're shameless scammers.

[Vesuvius87]

and very few decent people out there
The lady that lied about having cancer is a disgusting, sick person. There are people out there that are really dying of cancer. How can anyone be so cruel and scam about that? So infuriating.

[DerekC321]

They have no conscience. At all.

[Vesuvius87]

True. I feel horrible for the person that fall for it. After my first ex boyfriend pulled the ''I want marriage and kids'' scam on me, I've never fallen for another scam ever again and I don't believe in ''I love you'' words anymore.

[DerekC321]

You're totally right. Actions speak louder than words. I never take anyone at their word. It really takes a lot for me to trust anyone.

[Kelly6]

totally

[Vesuvius87]

Exactly. Anyone can say I love you.