Does “being yourself” work always in love, career, social life, life in general?

Question

I hear and read this phrase thrown out a lot. Be yourself. Does it work for you?

inhua · Accepted Answer

"being yourself" is just a way to make it easier for people to filter others out

people these days are not very tolerant or accepting of other people may it be their physical appearance, lifestyle, political and religious beliefs etc.

thing is, to get something or someone these days, people may have to fundamentally change who they are completely to resemble someone they are not comfortable being

sure we always preach self-love but that has nothing to do with outside love

look no further than Prince Harry, the guy is no longer himself and is clearly miserable trying to be someone he's not just to please his wife who doesn't love him regardless of what he does

TipsyFr · Accepted Answer

Yes by being yourself if people don’t like who you are you have the option to change the people around you or change the things that people don’t like about you. Sometimes we have flaws that we don’t see , being yourself around people allows people to tell you. It also attracts more people like you and hopefully the person you are is someone you would like to be around. I know playing a persona can feel less vulnerable but overall it doesn’t help to work on yourself and it can lead to a life that’s not right for you. Lastly when you start pretending it can be hard to stop. Hope this helps 👍

Ezra_lila · Accepted Answer

For me yes, in love showing the real me without masking it is good beside having a partner who love you naturally is good than being with someone but only showing them what you want them to see. Its pretending!

Career, we have different way to show our professionalism I have dealt many people at different situations and stress level. And you will know what kind of people they are when you see them under stress. That's who they are without make-up or luxury things or any thing that can cover them.

Social life I don't actually care what people around me will say. I just live my life!. I can't please everyone so might I please only one MYSELF.

Gothrocker · Accepted Answer

No. I lack a sense of general self so I am a different self with different people. For example, my parents expect a immature, silly talking and loud person, which I am with them, but I would say that the self I present with my partner- quiet, randomly silly and loving- is the self I prefer.

ohsheeT · Answer

That is the only way I can be
There are girls that I have really really liked and I'm really being myself but I'm taking it way too far there's no laughter there's no being a smart-ass it's just all the best of me which I don't like I need to laugh I don't need to be so serious I want to be the real me and that means letting loose

There's a time and a place for the real serious me and that's for only serious things LOL if you know what I mean it's just yes you have to be yourself 100%, but not too much of yourself.

DaveJord · Answer

Absolutely not does it always work. The most successful people are the ones that can fake it and be fake. End of story. They will be the ones that never cause any real waves, they will gauge the audience and always find themselves on the right side of any argument.

I mean here's the thing in life people will always tell you they want you to be honest sincere and genuine. These are all good and admirable traits but don't be fooled by the hype and the b*******. These are all great and admirable traits until there is disagreement. And then you go from being genuine honest and sincere, to just plan all pompous a******

BadApple69 · Answer

“Being yourself” only works if the “self you are being is a good self. Being yourself when you are naturally a scumbag isn’t a good thing.
As for me, I’m always myself. I think of it this way…. If they don’t like who I am then it’s their loss not mine. I don’t go through life trying to impress people, the only person I am accountable to is myself.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

There's a truth to it, in terms of "don't lose your soul;" but don't assume that means everything will be easy. There will be those who hate you no matter who you are, no matter what facade you wear, etc. The old song by Little Texas, titled "Kick a Little," exists for a reason.

Fireguy17 · Answer

yes, at least for me.
If I am not being myself then who am I, and will I revert back to who I am (my real self) at some point.
you can try to be different to impress someone, or to get them to go out with you, but after a while they will start to see through it, so why waste the time, unless you are really sincere about changing yourself for the better, getting off of drugs, ETOH, abuse, whatever you want to improve on,
Then that becomes the new you.

MissusFluffyPants · Answer

Well, I really can’t pretend to be anyone else other than myself! I am unapologetically myself and the fact I’m comfortable with who I am is what works for me. Not sure it’s got me far in my career as such, but I’m content.

spartan55 · Answer

It's worked well for me in most areas of my life, and it hasn't worked at times in others. I can't force myself to be someone I'm not though, so I've never been one to put on fronts.

Moirine · Answer

It probably works around different people. I'm a social creature but not a social butterfly so I wouldn't know, bthe thought of being in a room filled with people gives me sh! t anxiety.

Sparkie460 · Answer

Sometimes it works but not always. When I'm being myself around others, some people don't like me because I speak the truth. They get butt hurt and lash out. I'm not changing to impress anyone. I am who I am, like it or leave.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I don't know. I just be my own unique self everyday, whether it works or not. But my friends & family wouldn't have me any other way.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

At work, I have to be a much better role model.  We do have to behave differently under different situations.

RavVid · Answer

I'd say it does. What doesn't work is being something you are not because you will be continuously confronted with the reality you are not.

LazerBean · Answer

It only works if "yourself" is someone that is enjoyable to be around.

Z1pTD · Answer

Yes and no.

Everyone enjoys being around someone who's very genuine

That doesn't mean you should tell people you don't like that shade of nail polish with that dress

Be genuine but not a twerp lol and yes people will love it

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Works or hastens things along. Either way it's less work.

NathanDavis · Answer

for me, it has always worked well... and if it didn't I never minded it, lmao

exitseven · Answer

Yes, because soone or later people will figure out that you are really a bad person.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Mmh... It's generally worked pretty well for my own life

love_conquers_lust · Answer

Yes. It’s my center. The hardest part is standing up for myself in the face of fear and/or uncertainty.

jammcm · Answer

Yes! The problem you run into, if you are not yourself, is you will be caught up and you will be a disappointment to the people around you.

madgoat · Answer

It only goes so far for most people. Most need to perform a role in many situations.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I bite my tongue in business, but otherwise yes.

soe11 · Answer

Prepositionlly, equally and balanced in everything, so can't be neglected to anything.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Lol no one can truly handle being one’s self… trust me.. they usually want a version of you they can control and manipulate.

DiegoO · Answer

Been my actual self, doesn't suit the prospects for a romantic relation. Not that I care, but at least I am aware of it.

roy_ricky09 · Answer

This is just another BS phrase that prevents you to improve yourself.

Andres77 · Answer

Yup. Whatever the initial challenge was finding out who I really was.

LavLavLuv · Answer

Career, social life, life in general… Not 1000% being myself tbh

taurusman · Answer

I am always myself. Sometimes I have to control my behavior some for certain situations, but I never abandon who I am.

Jerre · Answer

Yes, it does work for me. Being myself, I find I can fuck every girl I date and we often become friends with benefits.

andy530 · Answer

Not really. I feel like most people only see parts of me

Ava1993 · Answer

I find it does if they can’t handle it they can hit the road.

jimmy2 · Answer

It better than putting up a false facade Passat that you can't hold up so long

msc545 · Answer

"Being yourself" is often manifested as an excess of candor.

Christoff92 · Answer

Sure. Individuality makes a big difference.

BLP11520 · Answer

At work it does

Likes2drive · Answer

Usually it does

eagle1951 · Answer

seems too

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