Do you think we control our life or fate does?

[Anonymous]

[DaveJord]

I think we all have free will. So, if we chose not to exercise that free will then fate will determine the course of our lives. But if we exercise our feel will, then we can impact our own. fate.

Now there are things that will happen throughout the course of our lives, that we have zero control over. So, things are dictated by fate. Things like a natural diester, war or government shut down. So, if we do not prepare for these types of things in the event that they do happen, then yes, your fate will be dictated to you.

I think the saying is if you do not plan to succeed then you plan to fail... now some people just get damn ass luck and fall ass backwards into things... but even then, it does not like they had no control over it. They could of chose of different options.

So you do the best you can with what you got, and yes, we all need a little luck... and hopefully fate picks us up on the back end. But it is up to us to put yourself in a place in which fate can act.

[Sonorous]

I like to think it's a mix of both. For instance, I'll never be a top Model player because I don't have the genetics for that to even be considered. Fate didn't want me to become that. But I can still make choices that could take me places that are practical for me to be. I have control even though the range is more limited by many things I objectively cannot be.

[Friendlybro79]

Fate in your example is chance or luck of the draw. Fate isn't an entity that has a plan for us. When two good looking people have kids they will have a greater chance at having good looking kids. Fate being real means we don't really have any control of anything because fate would have us lead to every decision we make to have an ultimate outcome. I don't mean to be rude regarding your example. This is just my opinion in reply to yours. To be fair I can't prove Fate isn't real lol

[Sonorous]

@Friendlybro79 I like saying "fate" because I believe the universe is largly deterministic. Maybe even fully. For instance, I really do have the feeling that anything can be mathematically predicted with enough data & computing power & whatever else needed. And if that's the case, then we don't have as much free will as we thought

[Friendlybro79]

Hey.. I like that thought. Very interesting and enlightening.

[Sonorous]

@Friendlybro79 - It is a scary thought for me 🤣

Here's a short video I recently saw that gave me a slight existential crisis
www.tiktok.com/.../7281744080864922926

[Friendlybro79]

Well it can be scary or f it. Hey I'm here, not sure why, but I guess whatever happens, is gonna happen. Lol

[Sonorous]

@Friendlybro79 🤣 True. Just things happening. Apparent meaninglessness breaking itself apart & embodying meaning in itself which is now not itself. Constrained & confined so that it could do that very task. 🧎‍♂️

[Friendlybro79]

I get what you're saying. I'm trying to think too hard because it's so short, our lives that is, and I get headaches when I think too hard lol

[Friendlybro79]

Not trying*

[Sonorous]

Yeah I do notice that I find more enjoyment in life when I'm not thinking too much about the structures in place or even attempting to think about the origins or everything.

[Friendlybro79]

Exactly how I feel about the movie the highlander. Where are the immortals from? How did they get there? I can't think about that at all or the movie is ruined for me. It says you're 23 so this reference might go completely over your head lol. I think the movie I'm talking about was made in 1986. If you don't get it trust me this is a decent joke lol

[ReginaGeorgina]

I think its 50/50. I think that we are supposed to learn a few set lessons in life. If you don't learn it the first time, it will keep repeating. So the same issues and problems you experience will keep cropping up. So fate is going to teach you that lesson, but you can decide the length of the class.

[jennifer_bloom]

I think this is different for each person. I feel like a pet in somebody's home. I can choose whether I want to sleep in the living room or the bed room but I don't choose what types of rooms my house will have, how big my house will be, or what type of food I will get for lunch and dinner.

[AmeerX]

We are masters of our own fate.

You know why? Because I saw people even with disability getting out of the illness.

I saw people in extreme poverty refusing money from I'll means and get on with their work.

People cry about money it what it really is? I met a woman that had 2 kids, very beautiful and divorced. Her husband cheated and she worked 2 jobs instead of stealing or taking the easy way out of the mess. All these things convinced me we are masters of our own fate. We like to blame others but the blame really lies with us

[Nifrayu]

To a certain degree both is true. We can control the direction of our life and practice healthy habits to safeguard our health. But anything can happen to any of us. Anyone can develop a incurable condition, or be killed by someone or something we didn't see coming.

[Fuentes]

We control both but fate can send us down the wrong path or the right path but it's tour choice to follow it. I like to ignore that all and just do what I'm suppose to in life. Fuck everything else.

[inhua]

for the most part we control our own lives but there are things outside of control

[Pegases]

I think if you don't control your life, fate will.

[CrimsonAngel09]

Fate, and it's fucking me with a cactus dildo.

[leahzrc]

We can control our fate and that controls our lives

[WilmaReportu]

Well did @Boobslayer deactivate himself? What about @Roosterbreast? Nay, my friend, the janitors are in control over how things work around here.

[Реrverted_Сreeр]

@WilmaReportu I don't know who he was, just noticed an account also freshly murdered by the janitors https://www.girlsaskguys.com/user/jdavid25

Since it takes 14 days to deactivate an account and he was online 4 days ago, it was not his chosen fate.

[WhitneySnow]

We control our own lives but sometimes fate or God takes a hand

[dreamstar72]

Fate does because you can not control fate like you can control how you live your life.

[jb2622]

Doesn't matter no way to know currently so, just live your life the best you can.

[BarryLiverstone]

God gives us freedom to choose. We are in control but that leads to many mistakes

[Nikki1989]

You control your own destiny.

[havingfun2023]

That's a hard one. I'd say, we do. 😬

[exitseven]

We control our own life and our own fate

[Rangers]

Fate has complete control

[Sabretooth]

We can only act and prepare.

[dudeinohio]

A mixture of both

[boobliker]

both if you belve

[eagle1951]

no God does

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Jmmmfi4]

Fate